nes9 Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 So I met this girl in one of my classes on the last day, then saw her at a party a week later. I went home with her and we hooked up/fooled around a bit but did not have sex because she said she didn't know me well enough (only second time we talked in person). I ended up contacting her online to try and make plans. I asked her to hang out tomorrow and go to the beach but she said she had to be up early. I asked her for her number so I could get in touch with her some other time to hang instead of having to talk online and she gave it to me. After she said she was busy tomorrow, I was kind of hoping she was going to say something like, "but i'm around this day during the week if you want to do something then," but she never did. Do you think this girl is interested and should I try to make plans with her again? I mean, she was interested in me enough to bring me back to her place, and not just for a one night stand. Guys normally have to put in more effort anyway no? Not too experienced in the dating world.
sbarrow47 Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 Back off, it sounds like you came on too strong. If a girl is interested 99% of the time she will come back with a "no, but i'm free on so and so days". No need to give up, just do NOT rush it. A lot of guys either try too hard or give up too easily. Try, but be casual about it.
that girl Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 If you like her, I would give it one more shot 4-6 days after whenever it was that you asked her to meet up. Usually I think someone who is busy will offer another date, but it is possible she didn't think about it or was embarrassed after the hook up. One more attempt is the limit though.
Green Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 What does it even matter if she is interested? You still sound interested and that is all you can know and all that matters. My advice is don't give up so easily you really have NOTHING to lose by continuing to try. I personaly don't stop trying until I've become bored and lost interest or I get rejected in a "NOT IF YOU WERE THE LAST MAN ON EARTH" type of fashion. Since girls rarely do that I usualy just end up getting bored of hearing "No thanks" after a few tries. But I've had it happen plenty of times where a girl starts out saying "NO" and then starts saying "yes" You need to invite her to something fun like a party, or nice lunch... what ever. then KISS her. You don't play it to cool... feel free to put her on the spot "Well if you can't do lunch then what about dinner... cmon you have to see me just tell me when"
Katie29 Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 So I met this girl in one of my classes on the last day, then saw her at a party a week later. I went home with her and we hooked up/fooled around a bit but did not have sex because she said she didn't know me well enough (only second time we talked in person). I ended up contacting her online to try and make plans. I asked her to hang out tomorrow and go to the beach but she said she had to be up early. I asked her for her number so I could get in touch with her some other time to hang instead of having to talk online and she gave it to me. After she said she was busy tomorrow, I was kind of hoping she was going to say something like, "but i'm around this day during the week if you want to do something then," but she never did. Do you think this girl is interested and should I try to make plans with her again? I mean, she was interested in me enough to bring me back to her place, and not just for a one night stand. Guys normally have to put in more effort anyway no? Not too experienced in the dating world. To me it sounds like she isn't interested. Just because she seemed to keep giving you reasons, not to get together..
Author nes9 Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 Back off, it sounds like you came on too strong. If a girl is interested 99% of the time she will come back with a "no, but i'm free on so and so days". No need to give up, just do NOT rush it. A lot of guys either try too hard or give up too easily. Try, but be casual about it. How do you think I came on too strong? Should I not have asked for the number?
Fouts Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 If you like her, I would give it one more shot 4-6 days after whenever it was that you asked her to meet up. Usually I think someone who is busy will offer another date, but it is possible she didn't think about it or was embarrassed after the hook up. One more attempt is the limit though. I'll second this
Author nes9 Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 Well, I guess I will try once more. I am convinced she must be interested in me at least somewhat because the morning after the hook up, she was ALL over me in bed still. She wouldn't stop kissing/cuddling with me and she wasn't wasted anymore at this point. So if she was embarrassed about a drunken hook up, she probably would have acted more reserved and less physical with me. Maybe she is playing hard to get? Who knows. It's confusing as to why she isn't showing more interest in hanging out, but I'll give it another shot.
ConfusedAsUsual Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Well, I guess I will try once more. I am convinced she must be interested in me at least somewhat because the morning after the hook up, she was ALL over me in bed still. She wouldn't stop kissing/cuddling with me and she wasn't wasted anymore at this point. So if she was embarrassed about a drunken hook up, she probably would have acted more reserved and less physical with me. Maybe she is playing hard to get? Who knows. It's confusing as to why she isn't showing more interest in hanging out, but I'll give it another shot. dude shes not into it. get a clue
kikiriki Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 (edited) SBARROW47...I RESPOND TO THIS... ----Back off, it sounds like you came on too strong. If a girl is interested 99% of the time she will come back with a "no, but i'm free on so and so days". No need to give up, just do NOT rush it. A lot of guys either try too hard or give up too easily. Try, but be casual about it---- OHHH NOOO... im doing this all the time:S trying way tooo hard... a girl asked me out a week ago, i was affraid she was going to do friends staff with me which i hate!!! and i said to her, ok we go out and when we get beck i FU34 YOU at your place. i barely know her and i think she is great, but im so affraid of this friendship with women. All i wanted to say is that you are so right... everything has to be RELAXED AND NATURAL Edited August 11, 2010 by kikiriki
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