Author SassyKitten Posted August 6, 2010 Author Posted August 6, 2010 If it was guaranteed to be the kind of release I wanted, that would be great. But 9 times out of 10, it seems to be about the man's release with no consideration given to mine. I don't know if it's a competition about men or women having it harder, but the impression I'm getting is that women get a much harder time from society if they're single. Double standard at work. Where men can pursue their release and not only not be branded a slut, but also be guaranteed that unless they're extremely drunk there probably will be a release for them!
Author SassyKitten Posted August 6, 2010 Author Posted August 6, 2010 You will be so much happier when you get out of there. It was so exciting when I moved away from the south. That's exactly what I'm excited about, and then another 5 months and I can move away from the South! Although one thing I am trying to be extremely mindful of is not taking emotional baggage with me this time, baggage inflicted by the backwards, misogynistic ways of the South.
Sphere Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 Sassy Kitten why don't you and Gamma1 get together? You're both clearly a perfect match.
somedude81 Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 If it was guaranteed to be the kind of release I wanted, that would be great. But 9 times out of 10, it seems to be about the man's release with no consideration given to mine. I don't know if it's a competition about men or women having it harder, but the impression I'm getting is that women get a much harder time from society if they're single. Double standard at work. Where men can pursue their release and not only not be branded a slut, but also be guaranteed that unless they're extremely drunk there probably will be a release for them! I guess that's natures way of balancing. A woman can have sex when ever she wants with almost whomever she wants but an orgasm isn't guaranteed. For the man, finding a willing partner can be very difficult but an orgasm is basically guaranteed. Oh and of course there's nothing a woman can do to increase her enjoyment during sex... You're right that there is a bit of a double standard that women are called sluts while men aren't. The reason for that is because it's so easy for women to find a partner, that standards are expected. For a man, finding somebody is an accomplishment. It's two very different sides of the same game.
jamesum Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 (edited) I know, heaven on Earth, right? I wonder how much worse life is in Mississippi. If it was guaranteed to be the kind of release I wanted, that would be great. But 9 times out of 10, it seems to be about the man's release with no consideration given to mine. So thats the reason you dont like NSA because the partners tend to be lousy? Edited August 7, 2010 by jamesum
zengirl Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 I was feeling bad for you up until this point. What an amazing world they live in, where girls just know they are going to get laid. It must be great to be able to have a release when ever you want one. Sadly, just knowing that men have it so much harder than you, won't do a thing to alleviate your pain. We are bombarded with the same media messages as you that we have to be in love or be in a relationship with somebody. Right now I have to turn away when ever people are kissing on tv or else my eyes will start to water. Don't have too much fun on your trip. You know, I've never felt it was much of a benefit to know that I could always take someone home with me if I wanted. If you were a girl and you had this amazing benefit, the truth is, you probably wouldn't care about it one whit, and would in fact complain that it means that it's very hard to know if the fellows who approach you are interested in anything else, and so you have to somehow balance this whole sex thing with caution in order to weed out those just trying to sleep with you, etc. It's a headache. Not an ego-rush. For me, at least.
Author SassyKitten Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 I wonder how much worse life is in Mississippi. Rural Georgia might as well be Mississippi!!!! I guess that's natures way of balancing. A woman can have sex when ever she wants with almost whomever she wants but an orgasm isn't guaranteed. For the man, finding a willing partner can be very difficult but an orgasm is basically guaranteed. Oh and of course there's nothing a woman can do to increase her enjoyment during sex... You're right that there is a bit of a double standard that women are called sluts while men aren't. The reason for that is because it's so easy for women to find a partner, that standards are expected. For a man, finding somebody is an accomplishment. It's two very different sides of the same game. Combination of that, and it also dates from when there was a double standard as far as legal rights and place in society went! Could be nature's way of balancing. And when it comes to the woman pleasing herself, it works a small fraction of the time, but the reality for me when I was in my one night stand stage was that men would throw me around, do their thing not caring if it was painful for me, and there wasn't much I could do to stop it seeing as they had physical strength advantage over me. You know, I've never felt it was much of a benefit to know that I could always take someone home with me if I wanted. If you were a girl and you had this amazing benefit, the truth is, you probably wouldn't care about it one whit, and would in fact complain that it means that it's very hard to know if the fellows who approach you are interested in anything else, and so you have to somehow balance this whole sex thing with caution in order to weed out those just trying to sleep with you, etc. It's a headache. Not an ego-rush. For me, at least. Massive headache! I'm learning as I get older that the only way forward is to increase the number of hoops men have to jump through before they can have me.
LoveLace Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 That's awesome. Are you me? Half the time I can't decide if I'm happy single, or not...ups and downs for sure...just like marriage, I suppose. But they don't get too many happy as hell pals that are single shoved in their faces...they outnumber us by a ton. My friends are just tired of my single drama and I know they wish they didn't have to hear it anymore, well that's funny, I don't want to hear about your marriage problems, then. They won't go away and neither will mine!! Accept it! Or is it only acceptable to complain when I have a marriage in trouble? Seriously now...lovin life but being single is the absolute hardest part about it anymore...it's no different than feeling forced to feel "happy" in a marriage...I can do it, but there's always something to rain on my parade!
Author SassyKitten Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 Seriously now...lovin life but being single is the absolute hardest part about it anymore...it's no different than feeling forced to feel "happy" in a marriage...I can do it, but there's always something to rain on my parade! That sounds so much like a thought that was spinning around in my head that I didn't know how to sum up! The outnumbered part is hard, as well as me feeling like I'm not really well on my way to doing something about not being single. I think I would enjoy it a lot more if I knew there was a light at the end of the tunnel!
Author SassyKitten Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 Gamma - Oh yes, from now on I am grilling the hell out of any potential suitors!!!!
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