Do some guys just not respond to text messages? Or is there more to this?

[Questionable1]

A couple of weeks ago, I started talking to a guy on this online dating site. He asked me if I wanted to meet up with him and grab a drink, and I told him that I would love to but I was extremely busy that week with my family. We still exchanged numbers and he told me he would call in a week to arrange a time to meet up.

 

He did end up calling me but I missed his call because I was again busy. I sent him a text saying that I would return his call later that day. He didn't respond to my text. I called him back and we arranged a meet up. It went great! Or so I think. At the end he asked me if I wanted to get together again with him sometime and told him that I would. He said that he would be busy with work this week so it would probably be next week.

 

After the date, I sent him a text message telling him that I had a lot of fun and that I was looking forward to seeing him again but I didn't receive a response again. I don't quite see how hard it is to respond with a short message. I don't know if this is a guy thing or if he truly wasn't interested and only mentioned meeting up again just to be nice.

 

Thoughts?

[Star Gazer]

Maybe he doesn't even GET text messages? Are you sure you even have his cell phone number?

 

That said, hard to say what caused the pre-date communication breakdown. But afterwards, it would suggest a lack of interest on his part (assuming he gets messages, that is).

[AverageJoe]

I will txt with someone as long as it is cursory. When someone trys to start a full blown conversation with me via txt I have no interest in it. Dial my number.

 

Personality gets muddled, and txt messages can be lost in translation and sometimes come across the wrong way.

 

So there are times when I wont be bothered with responding to a txt message. Why should it be implied if somone sends me a txt I am obligated to respond?

[Questionable1]

Maybe he doesn't even GET text messages? Are you sure you even have his cell phone number?

 

That said, hard to say what caused the pre-date communication breakdown. But afterwards, it would suggest a lack of interest on his part (assuming he gets messages, that is).

Yes, I have his cell phone number and I know it does work because I called him on it before. I know that he does get text messages on his phone because when I called him pre-date, he did mention that he read my text message.

[Jilly Bean]

After the date, I sent him a text message telling him that I had a lot of fun and that I was looking forward to seeing him again but I didn't receive a response again.

 

Why did you pursue him like this? He already asked you out for a second date, said he would call you in a week to arrange it.

 

No need to chase a guy when he's already told you the plan, and you've agreed to it.

[Green]

If he likes you he'll call or txt

[Feelin Frisky]

A couple of weeks ago, I started talking to a guy on this online dating site. He asked me if I wanted to meet up with him and grab a drink, and I told him that I would love to but I was extremely busy that week with my family. We still exchanged numbers and he told me he would call in a week to arrange a time to meet up.

 

He did end up calling me but I missed his call because I was again busy. I sent him a text saying that I would return his call later that day. He didn't respond to my text. I called him back and we arranged a meet up. It went great! Or so I think. At the end he asked me if I wanted to get together again with him sometime and told him that I would. He said that he would be busy with work this week so it would probably be next week.

 

After the date, I sent him a text message telling him that I had a lot of fun and that I was looking forward to seeing him again but I didn't receive a response again. I don't quite see how hard it is to respond with a short message. I don't know if this is a guy thing or if he truly wasn't interested and only mentioned meeting up again just to be nice.

 

Thoughts?

 

I don't even know how to do it. I have the technology and can figure it out but it's not part of my play book. And I think it is not something good to get into. It sets precedents that often become essentially an expectation that one must be in constant dialog with another. This kind of attachment should be earned first by handling some detachment and showing your emotional security with yourself. Keep watching LS and you'll see how many problems start by or involve texting. If I were a believer I'd say God doesn't want people to text otherwise he'd have made us empaths.

[O'Malley]

 

After the date, I sent him a text message telling him that I had a lot of fun and that I was looking forward to seeing him again but I didn't receive a response again.

 

I probably wouldn't have responded to it either, even if I were interested in seeing you again. I'd have considered it an open ended communication that I wasn't necessarily expected to respond to (since he's already mentioned when he would call you).

 

It sets precedents that often become essentially an expectation that one must be in constant dialog with another.

 

Agreed.

 

Let the ball be in his corner, as far as contact.

Edited August 4, 2010 by O'Malley

[Questionable1]

All this talk brings me to another question about the "rules" of dating:

 

When, if it all, is it appropriate for a girl to send a guy a text message saying that they had a good time after a first date?

[Engadget]

Some people don't like texting, it's impersonal and robotic.