Should I Sleep with Her...

[meerkat stew]

Why are you quick to rule her out as someone to date? you are seeing her as just a human sex toy to provide you with sexual pleasure, that's it.

 

Sounds like someone is bringing their own baggage into OP's situation unduly.

 

As long as you treat her with respect, there's no reason not to do whatever you two want to. Why does everyone assume that the man is always having to "convince" the woman? or owes her something in return for her supposed "gift" of having sex with him? or merely seeking a sex toy? Why is it so implausible that she also wants some casual fun? Pleasure runs both ways, enjoy yourself and show her an enjoyable time, treat her well, and you shouldn't have any problems. If anything, your friend may be put out with her for stringing you along or using you given that there is some other guy in the picture.

[USMCHokie]

also, I don't want to date her necessarily... and I have yet to be in a situation where sex doesn't equal emotional bonding in women.

 

any advise on that front? I'd be cool hanging out with her a few times a month or something, but I'm not really interested beyond that - unless her bed play is stellar, perhaps...

 

As everyone else has been saying, cross that bridge when you get to it...this is just a date...if sex happens, it happens...live in the present, not the anticipated future...don't let what you speculate might happen a week or a month from now affect a simple date...

[ConflictedGuy27]

As everyone else has been saying, cross that bridge when you get to it...this is just a date...if sex happens, it happens...live in the present, not the anticipated future...don't let what you speculate might happen a week or a month from now affect a simple date...

 

excellent point, my friend; roger that.

[that girl]

I'll be seducing her, that's a given; and she WANTS to be seduced, which is why she's coming over.

How do you know this? Unless this woman flat out said "I want to come over on Friday and bang your brains out" I would not assume this.

 

She already knows exactly what the intentions are, she is going to his house.

We don't know this. The fact that Sally expressed concern suggests that Julie is likely to get hung up on him.

 

I just don't want a girl friend, you know. I just got out of a long term relationship with my ex in Feb.

Then Sally is right, you shouldn't be getting involved with semi-friends. If things go badly, you will be ostracized. If you just want to casually screw around, look outside your friend group.

[ConflictedGuy27]

Then Sally is right, you shouldn't be getting involved with semi-friends. If things go badly, you will be ostracized. If you just want to casually screw around, look outside your friend group.

 

as much as I try to justify it, your comment above is right. I think I'll approach things differently tomorrow. I.e., I'll leave any "move making" to her. I'll still be flirting my ass off tho; cause that's how I am with women.

 

if she doesn't make any moves, then nothing happens and I'll just continue our relationship as friends.

 

which is probably for the best.

[Pink Cupcakes]

So how did it go, Conflicted Guy? Did you get laid?

[TaraMaiden]

That's called a blunt and direct approach.

 

A more subtle way to ask, would be:

 

"Did you have a nice evening? How did things pan out?"

 

(The resulting response however, would hopefully be the same in either case.....)

 

[Katie29]

I met a guy last weekend, that I'm also considering going to that level with. And its a similar situation. I met him through mutual friends and I worry about them all knowing. But hell, I'm attracted to him and we are both adults. If hes game, I may wanna play!

[mr.dream merchant]

Just sleep with her. Did anything about a relationship come out of your mouth before you banged her? Nah, cause you don't want one. That why, after you two f*ck, if she speaks of a relationship - it's on her...you didn't mention anything about one afterall.