TaraMaiden Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 I guess im stubborn then. Because if i cant go with my bf then I wouldnt want him to go. and I would do everything in my power to stop him That's a really dreadful thing to say. You're admitting you'd do everything in your emotional power to prevent your BF from doing a job he'd always wanted to do, simply because you didn't want him to? That's sounds selfish, insecure, needy, demanding and very dependent. I think you should go, to give you both some much-needed space, and a chance for you to grow up, and realise that his world doesn't revolve around you, and neither is he dependent on your presence for his happiness. Just as yours shouldn't be dependent on his.
flying Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 I know, hon. You're young, and in love, and right now, the drama part is probably pretty exciting at times. I know - I've been in this kind of thing before. lol But, these kinds of things simply aren't sustainable for the long haul. Just picture a future, Candy. Would you want to bring children into this? I'm sure not. And, like most abusive relationships, there is always the promise of "this time will be different". And you know the thing about the definition of insanity... I hope you get the job, as I think you really need something else to pull you away from this guy. You can't save him. You can't change him. And no amount of love and support from you will change that. Instead, it will suck the life out of you. Go. Take the job. MAKE the job happen. I 100% agree with Jilly...Eyecandy, I've read your backstory, and it seems like this relationship has often been toxic for you, as Jilly said. It may be that you and your BF will work this out...but I think that this 6-month commitment could be just the thing you need to set you on your own feet and give you perspective on your future.
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