phineas Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Right now the biggest deal breaker for me are really attractive women that ALWAYS find something to hate about their bodies. Guys can hit on them 24/7 & they will still think their unatractive & constantly critisize their body. I can't stand it. I refuse to date a woman like that. It's infuriating to tell a woman how attractive you find her only to have her tell you "you're just saying that". And mean it because she thinks she's fat, or flat chested or ugly or whatever.
tigressA Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Right now the biggest deal breaker for me are really attractive women that ALWAYS find something to hate about their bodies. Guys can hit on them 24/7 & they will still think their unatractive & constantly critisize their body. I can't stand it. I refuse to date a woman like that. It's infuriating to tell a woman how attractive you find her only to have her tell you "you're just saying that". And mean it because she thinks she's fat, or flat chested or ugly or whatever. UGH I can't stand that! It happens with guys too! A couple of guys I dated couldn't believe that I found them incredibly attractive and sexy and that I told them so often.
lso802 Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Drinking Smoking Not liking/getting along with my dogs Rude Always critizing other people etc....
USMCHokie Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Smoking and infidelity are my only dealbreakers. Sassy and others with long, detailed dealbreaker lists...do you truly understand what a "dealbreaker" is? That is, if a guy exhibited any single one of those traits, you'd drop them instantly, with no hesitation or second thought...? Because Sassy, your list just seems to be a list of attributes that you stay "mindful of" while you're dating someone...that is, things that you might not like about a guy...do you pull out your checklist every day and do a daily check to make sure no dealbreakers have been violated...?
blahh12 Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 smoking!! heavy drinker does any sort of recreational drugs unreliable- doesnt call when he says he will or breaks plans talks about himself all the time and doesn't listen to what I have to say lack of education and/or job (or in this economy is unemployed and not actively searching for a job) full of himself and thinks he is God's gift to women checks out other women or talks about how hot they are in my presence commitment-phobe hates animals or kids cheater
tigressA Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 I'm seeing how so many of these things can be shelved under "basic incompatibility". If you don't drink or do drugs or smoke, then someone who does any of those things is incompatible with you. If you have really conservative values, then someone who has liberal values is incompatible with you. Et cetera.
USMCHokie Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 I'm seeing how so many of these things can be shelved under "basic incompatibility". If you don't drink or do drugs or smoke, then someone who does any of those things is incompatible with you. If you have really conservative values, then someone who has liberal values is incompatible with you. Et cetera. And that's what I was getting at...a lot of the things I'm seeing in people's lists are just traits that are incompatible with their own...but are those incompatibilities so egregious that you'd end a relationship or dating based solely on one of them...? Or is it more along the lines of something that makes you reconsider being with that person...? Is it really a "dealbreaker" or just a factor you use in deciding whether to continue a relationship...? Add drug use to my list...
Author SassyKitten Posted August 2, 2010 Author Posted August 2, 2010 Untouchable - I am seeing a therapist, but it's not helping as quickly as I need it to. What I really need is a hypnotherapist, and I do have some hypnosis MP3s I play while I sleep, which seem to help a lot more than therapy. Also, some of the things on the list such as drug use have always been rules, and some I have always had on my mental checklist, which then gets thrown aside as soon as hormones take play. Yet another part of the leaf I need to turn over.
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