buzzie2 Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Someone told me once that guys like girls that can have fun and be somewhat of a guy and do things guys like as long as she can still be sexy. So recently I started a karate class with a bunch of guys and it's quite intense. Since I started taking the class I've noticed that other guys from work who know about it are flirting with me more. So is it true that guys like girls who can be one of the guys?
impz Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 As a close friend and silly flirting, yes. Seriously as a long time partner, probably no. I will feel a bit awkward.
Disillusioned Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Yes, especially when it comes to stuff like DIY home improvement, tech stuff, cars, etc. I'm one man who wishes there were more lonely single women who like to make stuff out of metal and wood. I've lost count of the number of times I've recommended becoming a radio ham to women who want to meet men... go to any ham club meeting, and there will be about 3 women at the most to every 20 men.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 It depends on a lot of things but it can be so that women can be still feminine and diesireable and do guy stuff. Danica Patrick anyone?
Soul Bear Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 One of the guys- not so much. But someone who can be equally as much a tomboy as she can a lady is great. I can't take a girly girl out on the hill.......
xpaperxcutx Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Guys want it- a girl who can be one of the guys and still be sexy and feminine. One of my girlfriends is a tomboy, and she was friends with all the guys in high school. She changed her appearance when she got to college and started dressing up. Suddenly all the guys started hitting on her and asking her out. She is really pretty though, and I guess both her personality ( honest and down-to- earth attitude) really makes her attractive.
crimsonmike Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 It varies with men. I personally don't care for tomboys. I like girly girls. But as you see, the poster above is just the opposite.
phineas Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Don't like girly girls myself. I prefer a woman that's not afraid to get dirty & looks good doing it.
meerkat stew Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Being able to do something as a woman that is normally thought masculine is appealing because it shows flexibility, adventurousness, and consistency in sticking to something, attractive character traits all.
Enchanted Girl Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 I think that it's easier for anyone to relate to someone who shares the same hobbies and interests as them. I'm not a guy, but I thought I'd throw that out there anyway,
purgatori Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I don't know about this 'one of the guys' business, because I don't consider myself 'one of the guys', any more than most guys consider me 'one of the guys.' I do, however, like tomboys as much as I like girly girls. I'm just putting that out there. I know that it's not my opinion that you want, because I am not a 'real' man, or even a typical example of how my sex thinks or perceives.
carhill Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I really don't think about it as a delineation. I was raised by one, someone who modeled in her single years and never went out, even to drag me to the grocery store, without being 'put together', but could change the oil in the car and replace electrical switches and refinish furniture. I just never saw a 'distinction' and, constantly being exposed to it, thought it 'normal'. That setpoint still exists and I often find myself exasperated with women who are clueless about everyday tasks. It's not their fault, it's mine for how and by whom I was socialized. We all have our burdens. So, a woman who can be 'one of the guys' is not unattractive to me. She seems 'normal'.
alphamale Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 So is it true that guys like girls who can be one of the guys? not really, guys like feminine women more
purgatori Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 not really, guys like feminine women more ^ This is the guy to listen to if you want insight into what most meatheads think.
carhill Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 P.S. - She taught me how to fish too. She always wore lipstick with her hip waders. 'Normal' Also, the one woman for whom I had a near lifetime attraction to also was like this. She could knock the guys over with her looks, completely girly-girl, but yet would be out stacking firewood with me or driving truck or muscling loads or whatever. A woman who could look good sweating at a manly job. Anyway, one datapoint
Els Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Don't like girly girls myself. I prefer a woman that's not afraid to get dirty & looks good doing it. This pretty much sums up the responses on this thread. Not to attack you guys, because everyone's entitled to their own preferences, but didn't you think that in general, non-girly girls aren't going to be taking so much time to do girly-stuff (shopping, manicures, hairstyling, etc), and that will inevitably affect their appearance? Also, I have never met anyone that actually looks good getting down and dirty. I do have very good-looking and feminine friends that go hiking and camping, but they are very rare, and also WHEN they are camping they keep their supplies to the minimum. Which means they look less than great while doing so. I know several women now feel prompted to say, "Hey, I can fix a car better than my mechanic, climb mountains and survive in the tropical jungle for a week - AND I would objectively rate myself 9/10, guys are always falling over me!" While I am quite skeptical of this, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you're one of the rare ones. But the point is, logically, such girls are EXTREMELY rare. As rare as it is to find a macho, buff guy who owns a Harley... and also sends his gf sweet handmade cards for every occasion and loves cuddling with her to watch Sex and the City. And I have never seen any of them TRULY be one of the guys.
carhill Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I have never seen any of them TRULY be one of the guys. You are welcome to join any of our camping/home improvement trips and see for yourself. The key is these women and men are 'old' people, people from another generation and time in our evolution, but have evolved as sociological change has taken place without abandoning the essence of who they are. The men are on the floor playing with grandchildren or the cats (my best friend does both) and the women are hashing out home improvement projects, humping lumber, running parts and working beside us as we do the 'manly' work, yet still can throw on a killer dress and go out on the town after a long day and make all the guys in the room do a double take. They celebrate *all* facets of who they are, not just the ones society deems 'proper'. When you get to my age, you don't care what people think of who you are, you just are who you are. If you ever get to see me slaving away over a batch of my famous cookies after pouring concrete all day, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. If women find the baker unattractive, I thank them. No cookie for you!
Els Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 You are welcome to join any of our camping/home improvement trips and see for yourself. The key is these women and men are 'old' people, people from another generation and time in our evolution, but have evolved as sociological change has taken place without abandoning the essence of who they are. The men are on the floor playing with grandchildren or the cats (my best friend does both) and the women are hashing out home improvement projects, humping lumber, running parts and working beside us as we do the 'manly' work, yet still can throw on a killer dress and go out on the town after a long day and make all the guys in the room do a double take. They celebrate *all* facets of who they are, not just the ones society deems 'proper'. When you get to my age, you don't care what people think of who you are, you just are who you are. If you ever get to see me slaving away over a batch of my famous cookies after pouring concrete all day, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. If women find the baker unattractive, I thank them. No cookie for you! This is really great. However, when people say 'one of the guys', I take that to mean its literal form. If there are several people on the home improvement project of both genders, I don't think it's a 'guy thing' anymore - it has become a unisex project. When a girl is 'one of the guys', they treat her as one of them. They talk about girls in front of her, do all the stuff that they would do with a male buddy, they don't hold back because of her gender or treat her as an intrusion on 'guy night'. Some basic allowances are made for gender, such as she gets privacy when she changes but they change casually in front of each other, but that's it. Regarding the 'how she looks' part, experience has shown me that the girls who spend the most time, effort, and money on appearances, ARE the girly-girls. And that usually does bring results. Models don't spend all that if it doesn't.
carhill Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 When a girl is 'one of the guys', they treat her as one of them. They talk about girls in front of her, do all the stuff that they would do with a male buddy, they don't hold back because of her gender or treat her as an intrusion on 'guy night'.Yep, and I just got a racy e-mail from one of 'those' ladies last night, outlining the obvious benefits, complete with pictures, of those spring-loaded stringless bikini bottoms. My response: 'OK, you got my attention. When do we work on the shower? (A job I've promised to do for her and her husband)' Her response: 'Like that, eh?'. BTW, she's 60 and her H is 62 and married over 25 years.... and she'll 'talk about girls' right down and dirty with us dirty old men and then throw on some killer jeans and a blouse, primp her hair and head out on the town. I'm just giving you one example of many, and only amongst my close circle of friends, a mere spec of sand on the beach of humanity. I enjoy women like her. This causes me to work on her shower
Pfiend101 Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I personally prefer a girly girl. Always wears makeup/has hair done. Nails done. Girly clothes. Doesn't like to work on her car or get too dirty. That way I can do the guy stuff. Like fixing her car etc.
Pyro Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 It's a definite plus. CE has already met my friends....guys and girls and she fits in perfectly with them. It is a big plus to have a SO that will take part, or at least attempt to inyour hobbies/activities. My friends and I have our moments of being a smartass to one another and its a big plus to have a SO who can take it and dish it as well. All while still being able to dress and act sexy when its our alone time together.
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