Author shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 I think the profile is way too long. Sorry. I'd want to see you picture, and know you can carry on a conversation about things I like. Period. Well then we probably wouldn't get along, and my profile did its trick.
Author shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 In my experience, a long profile can be a good way to weed people out. A short profile leads to people asking basic questions, but a long one leads to people actually responding to what they think of you as a person. And those responses are more telling. It's saved me time in the long-run. Mine is longer than hers (though hers isn't finished). I still get more messages than I need or want, but I think a decent amount of them are quality. And, honestly, as long as I'm pretty to them and there are no red flags, I don't think many fellows are going to be kept away from messaging me----and certainly not lacking in something to say if I message them! (But, then, that depends on your type of fellow----a guy who doesn't want to know so much about me isn't going to be a guy that I want to go out with. Nor are the "Well, I want to know it, but reading it is a chore" fellows, as I like boys who dig reading. So it all depends on the OP's audience.) I feel like the danger with a short profile is that you let a lot more mediocre messages slide by (or at least I do) because you haven't given the guy as much to comment on or ask about. So, you wind up having to send more messages back and forth to weed people out. If you want volume, I think short might be better. I think volume is what frustrates so many people (either sending a volume as a guy or receiving a high volume as a gal) in online dating. Exactly, with a very short profile you can assume most of the messages you get are only in response to your looks.
Author shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 (edited) Interesting, it seems like women like my profile better than men do. Is it that men are just more shallow and don't care about the content of profiles, so they're put off by having to read too much? Is a lot of male interest in a girl's life just a pretext for getting into her pants or attaining a hot girlfriend? I can honestly say that none of the guys I've been in relationships with were like this, but then they were all smart men (with the possible exception of the last). Edited August 1, 2010 by shadowplay
Author shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 Hmm...it's seems your profile has words in it I'm not going to post my pictures on here, silly.
Shakz Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Because it is a peculiar talent, being that good at remembering faces. I guess it's like with the understanding people thing where a lot of people say they can do it well, but few actually can. I think it would be weird to omit that simply because a lot of people think they can, when I actually am exceptionally good at it. Forgive me if I sound ignorant but I don't do online dating but..... Is there anyway for you to include an example of your work in your profile? Maybe scan a couple of portraits and include them in your pictures? As an artist some aspects of your personality that might be missed in a narrative might become apparent by viewing your work. Otherwise, although you're not my type, you sound like a pretty good catch.
bayouboi Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I'm not going to post my pictures on here, silly. How's a guy supposed to critique your profile then??? o_O hahaha
WintersNightTraveler Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 (edited) Very cool, especially when I hit the book and movie lists. Wasn't a big fan of the section "Because I have a lot of interests, ... different talents. " It kind of sounded straight off a resume. Good length, don't go any longer. Lose the section mentioned and throw in some humor to make it an A+. Well in my opinion anyway. EDIT - Maybe trim the movie list. A list with 5 well chosen things usually says a lot more than a list with 15 things. Edited August 3, 2010 by WintersNightTraveler
BobSacamento Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Personally I'm looking to have fun and a I'm looking for a woman who likes to have fun. Where is the fun in your profile?
Author shadowplay Posted August 4, 2010 Author Posted August 4, 2010 Very cool, especially when I hit the book and movie lists. Wasn't a big fan of the section "Because I have a lot of interests, ... different talents. " It kind of sounded straight off a resume. Good length, don't go any longer. Lose the section mentioned and throw in some humor to make it an A+. Well in my opinion anyway. EDIT - Maybe trim the movie list. A list with 5 well chosen things usually says a lot more than a list with 15 things. Good advice, will do!
Author shadowplay Posted August 4, 2010 Author Posted August 4, 2010 Personally I'm looking to have fun and a I'm looking for a woman who likes to have fun. Where is the fun in your profile? I guess we have different ideas of fun.
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