Author somedude81 Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 (edited) There's the problem, you are so desperate to get to the sex part that you actually are turning people away. You need to get out there and ask girls out in the first few times of meeting them. No more of this waiting around bullcrap. You need to get shot down 20-30 times before you start to realize that you'll live. It's not the end of the world. The more your realize that, the less pressure you'll put on yourself and the situation, the more your confidence grows. Yes, you grow confidence out of failure. The less pressure, the less scared you get, the more confident you become, the more success you'll see. You almost need to show the girl that you could care less if she accepts. If she does, fine and if she doesn't that's fine too. Now, it seems as if you are so desperate for her to accept and she can sense that. How am I turning people away? Well actually I have lost a couple of female friends because I wanted to have sex with them. Is that what you meant? One thing that I hoped you notice was that while it initially took many months for me to ask women out, I've been speeding it up as the years went on. I basically asked the most recent girl out after having 2-3 conversations. The only reason it took so long was that she was absent one day in class and the next day she was feeling bad. When you say 20-30 times, in what time frame are you talking about? A lifetime, a year? If were counting a lifetime, I've been pretty much rejected by 20 girls in a row. I was very interested in each one and all the rejections hurt like hell. I've also been rejected by girls that I wasn't too invested in. Even now I'm more upset that I was rejected by a girl than by this specific girl. I'd feel the same way if she was swapped with the Asian girl I was talking to in my other class. As it is now, you let your fake-ass feelings grow to unrealistic proportions before you even ask her out, then when it falls flat on it's ass you are ready to jump off a bridge. Stop trying to be friends when you clearly don't want to be friends.Fake-ass feelings? How can my feelings be fake? I meet a girl, we talk and I look for a connection, then I start to like her. That isn't fake. My biggest issue is that I believe that the girl I'm closest to at the moment is going to be the one that changes my life. It's like I have a mold that I carry around and I need a substance called girl to fill it. I don't care who she is, anybody within reason can fill it. I strongly believe that when I can finally get a girl to date me and have sex with me, I can fill that hole in my life and focus on the other things that matter. I'm basically running in survival mode where I need a woman in my life just so that I can exist. I am not trying to be friends with girls. In the past I became friends because I was too afraid to make a move and I let friendship happen. Now I show my interest from the very beginning. If a girl rejects me, I simply stop talking to her. Be honest, are you going after the hottest girls in the class? They have way too many options. You just need to start with people on your own level. Sign up for online dating, get reject or not responded to 50 times and you'll see that you still are alive and well. Figure out what works and what doesn't work. Because with 5 different girls all giving you the same result, it's obvious the major broken thing is your actions. You are doing something either by choice or inadvertently that is throwing the gears off. You think you are average, therefore you act average and get average results. You are doing this to yourself. No, the girls I've been going these pas few years are just average. On a 1-10 scale they'd be 6's and 7's. This girl was just cute, 5'2 about 140lbs. The girl before her was a total nerd who never wore makeup, did nothing to her hair and didn't know how to dress. And yet they were still too good for me Online dating will be a joke for me. I can get rejected by 100 women and it won't mean a thing to me. I already know I don't have a chance because I'm short, average looking and don't know how to make a good profile. I also need to display my age which is a hinderence for me. The only way a girl will date an older man, and the reason why so many do, is that generally they are more mature and confident in life than they are. They see them as sort of a father type figure. You show zero signs of that. Why would a girl date some meek man? This has nothing to do with sexual experience either, though let's not lie it certainly helps, but it mostly has to do with your overall confidence. I don't see you having any. Girls don't know that I'm older. Every person who've I told my age to has been shocked. I won't tell a girl how old I am till after I've been intimate with her. By then my age isn't going to change her mind about me. The lack of sexual experience really only hurts me if I pursue women my age who expect a man to know what he's doing. Heck I haven't had sex in a year so I'm probably as skilled as a virgin. I need a girl who can understand that and work with me. If you can't develop healthy connections with men, how the hell can you even think to develop connections with women?I don't see how not having connection with men affect how I do with women. I get along much better with girls than I do with guys. I love women and enjoy their company. I get energy from being around them. I have no drive to talk to guys. Sure I make random conversations but I'm not going to invite guys out to do stuff with me. That just seems really weird, me and some other dude hanging out. What would we even do? Edited July 31, 2010 by somedude81
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