Bogo123 Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I have a 2nd date with a girl tomorrow. About 3 weeks have passed since our first date and now she seems to have low interest in me but for some reason, agreed to a date. My question is, should I take her to a nice dinner or invest less and just get drinks? I'd like to mirror her interest level. I feel a fancy dinner would be too try hard. Opinions?
Green Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Did you try to kiss her on the first date? Why did 3 weeks go by? Did you try to set something up for the next week when you were having your first date? Did you atleast call and ask her out before now? Look who cares if she is on the fence. As long as she hasn't done anything rude or disrespectful and you still like her just do what you think gives you the best chance of getting her to like you.
Author Bogo123 Posted July 24, 2010 Author Posted July 24, 2010 Did you try to kiss her on the first date? Why did 3 weeks go by? Did you try to set something up for the next week when you were having your first date? Did you atleast call and ask her out before now? Look who cares if she is on the fence. As long as she hasn't done anything rude or disrespectful and you still like her just do what you think gives you the best chance of getting her to like you. Yeah we kissed on the first date. I tried setting up a date for 2 weekends but she had excuses each time. I just get the feeling she agreed to this date because she has nothing better to do.
Green Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 How big are her breasts? How good do they look would be a better question as bigger is not always better. (exampe FAT women)
Green Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Yeah we kissed on the first date. I tried setting up a date for 2 weekends but she had excuses each time. I just get the feeling she agreed to this date because she has nothing better to do. Yeah so what if she agreed because she has nothing better to do... face time alone gets women to fall for you. It gives you another chance to get her to really like you. Plus why did you only try for the weekend... people are usualy busy. A better time to try would have been like a wednesday night or something like that. Look if you like to dance I say you suggest going to a nice club. You could pick her up at 8 take her to a nice cheap frozen yogurt place... you eat the yogurt have some fun talk real flirty. Then you bring her to a lounge that is in walking distance of a night club. At the lounge buy the first 2 rounds then try to get her to buy the third. Finaly go to the dance club and have fun dancing with her. Maybe pull her into a dark corner and make out.
zengirl Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I have a 2nd date with a girl tomorrow. About 3 weeks have passed since our first date and now she seems to have low interest in me but for some reason, agreed to a date. My question is, should I take her to a nice dinner or invest less and just get drinks? I'd like to mirror her interest level. I feel a fancy dinner would be too try hard. Opinions? If you actually like the girl, my advice is always to plan something more whimsical. I feel like fancy dinners feel a bit uncomfortable early on. (But then I just might not be the fancy dinner type.) Whimsical: Artsy things, like we have cocktail events at museums where I'm from, one museum has an old-fashioned board game night once a month, there are local theatre productions (really cheap, like $10-15 each), local music shows, comedy shows, etc. Or fun, silly things, like mini golf or bowling or something. Pair that with a fun, but cheap/mid-priced dinner, like pho, or conveyor-sushi, or falafel whatever (There are all kinds of restaurants where I'm from that have moderate prices, are not chains, and have good atmospheres that I like). Heck, one of the best dates I ever went on back home was a movie/picnic in the park---the movie was free, and the dude packed a picnic. Men don't do enough to exploit their own cities and areas for better, rather than more expensive, dates.
stillafool Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Yeah we kissed on the first date. I tried setting up a date for 2 weekends but she had excuses each time. I just get the feeling she agreed to this date because she has nothing better to do. Bingo! If a girl is into you she can't wait for you to ask her out on the weekends and she has turned you down two times straight. I would not spend another dime on her if I were you.
D-Lish Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 You don't have to spend money to have a quality date. I wouldn't go out of my way and spend too much money on a girl that gives you the vibe she is on the fence.
jenifer1972 Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Bingo! If a girl is into you she can't wait for you to ask her out on the weekends and she has turned you down two times straight. I would not spend another dime on her if I were you. Totally agree. If a girl is really into you, she will cancel plans with her own mother to be with you! Kidding, sort of.. Women will find ways NOT to turn down someone they really want to be with.
Jilly Bean Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 No nice dinner for lukewarm girl!!! Id take her bowling or to the arcade to play video games. Seriously. Something fun is in order, and if that doesnt reignite the spark, no third date.
Shakz Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 It sort of depends more on how you feel about her and whether you feel like impressing her or not. Personally, if I liked her I'd take her to the finest restaurant in town, whether she was into me or not. At least I'd get a decent meal out of the deal, and she might just be impressed after all.
bac Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I have a 2nd date with a girl tomorrow. About 3 weeks have passed since our first date and now she seems to have low interest in me but for some reason, agreed to a date. My question is, should I take her to a nice dinner or invest less and just get drinks? I'd like to mirror her interest level. I feel a fancy dinner would be too try hard. Opinions? Invite her for dinner at your place.
TheLoneSock Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I have a 2nd date with a girl tomorrow. About 3 weeks have passed since our first date and now she seems to have low interest in me but for some reason, agreed to a date. My question is, should I take her to a nice dinner or invest less and just get drinks? I'd like to mirror her interest level. I feel a fancy dinner would be too try hard. Opinions? Hmm... 3 weeks is a while to go before a second date. Anywho, I'd go with the exact opposite. Don't spend money on an expensive restaurant, you shouldn't have to buy her. I'd go with something a little more creative and quiet. Grill up some chicken, buy some fresh fruit and make an afternoon snack somewhere outdoors; it is summer after all. If she doesn't go warm after 2nd date, it's time to move on. Save the expensive stuff for when you are exclusive.
monkeymaid Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 cancel on her if she doesnt try to reschedule, then move on its over
zengirl Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 All this game nonsense is silliness: Canceling on the girl is not a relationship-building move, it's a competitive counter-move. I'm curious, OP, what made you keep asking for 2 weeks if you thought she was not interested? She's either interested or not, and a fancy dinner is unlikely to help that, unless she's the kind of girl easily swayed by a fancy dinner. . . and is that the kind of girl you want to date? That said, don't take the girl to McDonalds or start doing weird things like canceling on her over it. And, whatever you do: Do something that you'll have fun doing anyway.
stillafool Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 cancel on her if she doesnt try to reschedule, then move on its over I wholeheartedly agree.
homersheineken Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 cancel on her if she doesnt try to reschedule, then move on its over I can guarantee she'll won't reschedule. She's going to think that since he cancelled the date, it's his job to reschedule and wait for his cue.
marsle85 Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 You get what you give... it's not rocket science. Take the girl out to a nice place, and stop being petty.
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