OrdealByFire Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I guess a lot of people are really secretive about this and don't like sharing it with strangers, but... I'm pretty open. Especially since I haven't lost it yet. And I'm 19. Makes me feel like I'm undateable. I haven't had a real girlfriend or kissed, so I've had to turn to the internet for a relationship, which is super hard. I digress. Anyone willing to share? I'm just curious! Maybe I'm not so alone.
aimeeg Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I lost it about 3 1/2 months ago, at age sixteen. Don't feel alone, most of my friends are virgins and I'm seventeen now!
Art_Critic Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Last night.. I'm 47.. See.. being 19 and being a virgin isn't bad.. and certainly nothing to be ashamed of.. Your time will come.. it could be in 2 weeks or 2 years.. By the way... I dated tons and had many GF's before I lost my virginity.. You are not undateable because you haven't had sex.. A relationship has more to do with being with someone you like spending time with than having sex with them.
0hpenelope Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 In my 20s. There's no timetable for when one "should" lose it in order to "become dateable." Most regret the person they lost it to, not the age.
molimo140 Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 It definitely doesn't make you undateable. I lost mine at age 21.
MyNameIsJane Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I was really young. 15. A freshman in HS It was with my first serious bf and I guess it seemed like the next step. I didn't think it was too young at the time, but looking back it seems really young. I didn't sleep with another person until 18 though. Being a virgin at 19 is soooo normal. Don't stress.
Chinook Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I was 18 too. Way too long ago now for me to think about
Green Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I guess a lot of people are really secretive about this and don't like sharing it with strangers, but... I'm pretty open. Especially since I haven't lost it yet. And I'm 19. Makes me feel like I'm undateable. I haven't had a real girlfriend or kissed, so I've had to turn to the internet for a relationship, which is super hard. I digress. Anyone willing to share? I'm just curious! Maybe I'm not so alone. I didn't kiss a girl until after I graduated college. I was so afraid of rejection. I got fed up of being alone and really really horny... so horny I stopped being afraid of rejection and asked a pretty girl out. She ended up being my gf for a short while and I did all the things I always wanted to. After we broke up, which didn't take long because I was an idiot... I cried like a bch baby and thought I would never know the touch of a woman again... but with my new found confidence I was able to get another gf in no time and really came to the conclusion that all you have to do is TRY... I had been so afraid of rejection or looking like a creep or people knowing I'm not perfect that I was afraid to try. I currently have a great gf and it doesn't matter that I was awkward and afraid of girls for HS and College. First please know that guys who have gf or sex are not better then you... just more confident. How do you get confidence? Well go out there and try and learn from your mistakes and enjoy your sucess. Dating is best done for FUN. From that perspective you will enjoy it. When you spot a girl you like have a good time having fun silly conversation designed to make her laugh... don't make some elaborate plan... 1) ASK HER OUT 2) GET HER NUMBER 3) KISS HER ON THE DATE just do it... stop fearing rejection. Don't worry even if you don't have the balls to take my advice your hornyness will eventualy push you to be more confident.
tigressA Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I was 18. It's perfectly fine to still be a virgin at your age and it really doesn't put off a lot of girls. I "took" the virginity of two guys; one was 23 and one was 21. There are some girls who like the idea of being the teacher.
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 Seems like most people I know have had sex, that's why it seems unusual to me that I haven't. I don't want to have sex for the sake of sex... I'd rather have it be with someone I love, and hope that it's just with that one person forever. That's probably scary to most people, and clearly wishful thinking. But hey, I can HOPE, I guess.
D-Lish Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Seems like most people I know have had sex, that's why it seems unusual to me that I haven't. I don't want to have sex for the sake of sex... I'd rather have it be with someone I love, and hope that it's just with that one person forever. That's probably scary to most people, and clearly wishful thinking. But hey, I can HOPE, I guess. I'm surprised you haven't gotten laid yet- you look like Justin Beiber:lmao:
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 WHY DOES EVERYONE SAY THAT!?!? My hair's been like this for ages. It's probably because I'm extremely insecure. Almost entirely about mah chest area. I'm not overweight either, which makes me more pissed off. 5'8'' 150 pounds.
Green Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 WHY DOES EVERYONE SAY THAT!?!? My hair's been like this for ages. It's probably because I'm extremely insecure. Almost entirely about mah chest area. I'm not overweight either, which makes me more pissed off. 5'8'' 150 pounds. People probably say it because they want you. Dude chest hair is a good thing. I have plenty and the ladies love it. Also feels great to have a woman run her hands through it.
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 People probably say it because they want you. Dude chest hair is a good thing. I have plenty and the ladies love it. Also feels great to have a woman run her hands through it. lol I'm not referring to chest hair. I'm referring to chest FLUB. Embarrassing, yes, but eh. No one here knows me. It's obviously not terrible, but it's enough to make me insecure about. People say I look like Bieber because they WANT me? Most people when they say that mean for it to be an insult.
Serenitynow Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I was 16. And I didnt lose it, I know who took it from me and where they live
D-Lish Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 lol I'm not referring to chest hair. I'm referring to chest FLUB. Embarrassing, yes, but eh. No one here knows me. It's obviously not terrible, but it's enough to make me insecure about. People say I look like Bieber because they WANT me? Most people when they say that mean for it to be an insult. Not meant as an insult at all hun, didn't mean to have it come off that way. You look super cute in your photo, and I am sure girls must find you attractive, that's all I meant by my comment. Sorry if I offended you in any way. And, to answer the question, I was 18 when I lost my virginity.
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 Aw thanks. That's another thing, I mean girls comment on my picture online and say I'm cute, but I've never been told in person that I was... well, family, but obviously that doesn't count!
SilentVoice Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I lost it young ... real young ... like so young I shouldn't even mention how young.Like 6 years ago young and I am 19 now.But I didn't start back until last year (I will be 20 in a couple weeks) . I wish I didn't lose it so young but for some reason I don't count that time. We were young and stupid ,just copying crap we seen online. Idk you shouldn't be worrying about being virgin anyway . Sex is more fun when you don't have to worry about parents walking in on ya. :-)
Green Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 lol I'm not referring to chest hair. I'm referring to chest FLUB. Embarrassing, yes, but eh. No one here knows me. It's obviously not terrible, but it's enough to make me insecure about. People say I look like Bieber because they WANT me? Most people when they say that mean for it to be an insult. Only girls worry about FLUB... be a man. Seriously I have tons of back hair yet that wouldn't stop me from being shirtless and talking to girls at the beach if I were single. Plus if a girl is making fun of you then you should just assume she likes you... if a girl tells you that you smell assume she likes you.
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 Plus if a girl is making fun of you then you should just assume she likes you... if a girl tells you that you smell assume she likes you. Oh I know that much. You can usually tell by the way it's said but... I know what you mean.
D-Lish Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Aw thanks. That's another thing, I mean girls comment on my picture online and say I'm cute, but I've never been told in person that I was... well, family, but obviously that doesn't count! Well, people feel safer to say certain things at a distance (online) than in person. Everyone is insecure- remember that.
make me believe Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I was 21 and I didn't feel freakishly old or anything. The guy I was with was a virgin too and he was 20. I dated a guy from 16-20 who was waiting for marriage, so... I don't think 19 is too old by any means. I think a 19 year old virgin is pretty common. Remember, people embelish, exaggerate, and straight up lie about their "experiences" a lot!
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 Very true. I hate being insecure, (Who doesn't?) but I don't see my insecurity going away. Even if it did a little bit, I'd feel tons better. I've got just about ZERO confidence. The last thing girls want - from what I can understand - is an insecure guy.. I'm working on it.
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