sweetblubrry Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I've been dating a guy for a month now that was an ex-stripper in a gay club for 2 years. Mind you, he is not the least bit gay but did it for the money. This freaked me out at first.... he doesn't do it anymore. From my experience, I have a lot of gay guy friends and have gone to gay clubs with them and all the strippers do is dance on the pillars in like speedo-type underwear. But its still kind of bothers me, ya know? Last night we were talking about our mutual friend who is turning 25 next month (she is also dating his best friend) and he was planning to do a strip tease for her while at the party. I got super upset with this... and at first he couldn't understand why. Not that its my friend because I don't care... but the whole idea of it. But we talked it out and he apoglized and hugged me and said he forgets that sometimes he can be pretty over the top and doesn't realize it. Now I've just been thinking a lot... I like this guy and he is really sweet and good to me. He is also kind of a geek like me too hehe. But I worry that he will do something that will upset me someday and not even realize it. I remember two weeks ago he brought up going to a nude beach and how its fun... and i'm like oh my god... i would never do that. Things that are no big deal to him are like a huge deal to me. I'm pretty conservative so I don't know if this is doomed to fail or if I should just communicate with him. He seems to listen and understand pretty well.
HeldbyGravity Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Talk to him about these worries! You guys need to open up and communicate your way of life to one another, so that these things don’t jump out at you and shock you. Only after these things are addressed can you decide if this relationship is going to work. I have a fairly go-with-the-flow boyfriend, and I forget that sometimes. He’ll bring things up so casually that others get fired up about, and I’ll have to just take a step back and be careful not to go too far.
Author sweetblubrry Posted July 24, 2010 Author Posted July 24, 2010 True. We really haven't talked about what "boundaries" or "limits" I would have. He's def very outgoing person and I'm more quiet. But we are hoping we can balance each other out. Obviously this is still new, but I will talk to him~! Thanks
HeldbyGravity Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 No problem, me and my guy can be the same way- me quiet, him talkative XD.
Sabali Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Doesn't sound like he is an "ex" stripper. Sounds like he just likes to strip! No matter whose around... I can tell you this, if you date an ex stripper or a current stripper, expect one helluva a relationship ride.
Author sweetblubrry Posted July 24, 2010 Author Posted July 24, 2010 What do you mean relationship ride.... explain please??
taiko Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 What do you mean relationship ride.... explain please?? Odds are that sex workers have more issues then the general population before and after they enter into sex work
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