high_speed Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 im in the military and on the other side of the country from my family i called my sister tonite and she told me her bf had beaten her and choked her out and draged her out of there house and when she got the cops there they took his side and basiclly told her that shes wrong and he was right she told them that he hit her and he informed them that she had hit him which is bull**** i know my sister and she wouldnt she is currently gotten out of that house and is spending the time being with a firend of hers i really need some help with this because in my current situation i cant get over there the next day i told her she did the right thing by getting out of there and gave her the national domestic abouse hot line any advice will be greatly appericsted
skydiveaddict Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 tell me where this guy is and I'll tune him up
Enchanted Girl Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Just keep encouraging her that she's doing the right thing and consider telling her to go to a shelter rather than stay with a friend. They will keep the man away (he might try to persuade her to come back or attack her physically again without that kind of protection) and also help her get counseling so that she doesn't go back to the situation or get with another guy who will treat her that way again. You can't undo what's already been done, but you can help encourage her and protect her from going through the same thing in the future. And I'm PISSED that the police did that. Tell her to take pictures of her injuries though and go to the hospital if she needs to. She might still be able to take him to court to get a restraining order if she has the proof of the police call that night and a visit to the hospital and pictures of the whole thing.
jamesum Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 And I'm PISSED that the police did that. To be fair, none of us here knows the real story.
HeldbyGravity Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 (edited) First off, you did the right thing in making sure that she was safe and then giving her that hotline. Don’t be afraid ot call it yourself if this situation gets worse. And she did a good thing by getting out of there. She can’t go back to him, I hope that she understands this. No one deserves to be treated that way. Some people just have anger issues and can’t control themselves- they need their own help, and not to be in a relationship until the behavior is gone. But otherwise, this type of thing is rarely a one time occurrence. Make sure she understands that in no way is this her fault, and praise her for getting away. Sounds like the situation is in check for now, so just keep caring and making sure that she is safely away from him. If she were to go back to him against your advice, then realize it isn’t your fault- although it sounds like she is detached enough to save herself, sometimes women in this situation get a little mixed up, and end up staying with the abuser. ... oh, and I have a strong belief that if anyone cries, "abuse", the situation needs attention. We don't know the whole situation, but in the respect that we only have her word that they acted this way, in this situation, the police did the wrong thing. Edited July 24, 2010 by HeldbyGravity
Enchanted Girl Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 To be fair, none of us here knows the real story. Of course, but that's true with every single thread on this forum.
Rhythmic Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 im in the military and on the other side of the country from my family i called my sister tonite and she told me her bf had beaten her and choked her out and draged her out of there house and when she got the cops there they took his side and basiclly told her that shes wrong and he was right she told them that he hit her and he informed them that she had hit him which is bull**** i know my sister and she wouldnt she is currently gotten out of that house and is spending the time being with a firend of hers i really need some help with this because in my current situation i cant get over there the next day i told her she did the right thing by getting out of there and gave her the national domestic abouse hot line any advice will be greatly appericsted Cool story bro New Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 1 You are lying. No police is going to sit around and blame the woman for it and then say the guy was right and then just walk away. Poor troll job.
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