FL Lady Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Hey Guys, My divorce has been final for a little while now. A great guy I met (we are both 40) is coming back to my town next week. He said he'd give me a call so wecoukd meet for drinks when he comes to town on Monday. When should I expect him to call to firm up the details? When he arrives Monday or prior? I texted him last so don't want to bug him. But I am a professional too and my schedule is booking for next week. I am doing my best to block it, but with the real estate market as it is, I need my appts. I HATE games. But I know I have texted more than he. But we are both flirty. I just want to keep my expectations level. He lives about 4.5 hours from me (Pensacola versus Naples area). We are both educated. No kids. Big chemistry. I haven't seen him in z4 weeks and can't wait for our "first date" albeit drinks and chatting.
robdrm32 Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 i'd say wait until friday (if your schedule allows) then call him and say "I was wondering if you had a time-frame for when you wanted to meet up? I have a hectic schedule and I'd hate to miss a chance at seeing you!" I think he'll understand that you are a busy person, and want to make time for him but you can't wait around and be on call.
Author FL Lady Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 i'd say wait until friday (if your schedule allows) then call him and say "I was wondering if you had a time-frame for when you wanted to meet up? I have a hectic schedule and I'd hate to miss a chance at seeing you!" I think he'll understand that you are a busy person, and want to make time for him but you can't wait around and be on call. Thanks. I know he is busy too. I wasn't sure if I should text, seems like he would want to confirm etc. Although he has told me at least 6x "next week when I get in...." BTW I made a typo- it's been 4 weeks since our first meeting. At least 2 other handsome guys have hit on me this week, but I'm holding off. Wanna give this nice guy a shot first. Thanks.....
Sabali Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 I am not sure if I understand. Are you supposed to meet Monday or did he say he will call you on Monday. If he is just supposed to call you on Monday then, of course, expect him to call on Monday. If he is supposed to call you and meet you on Monday, that is mighty short notice to come up with details for a date.
Author FL Lady Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 I am not sure if I understand. Are you supposed to meet Monday or did he say he will call you on Monday. If he is just supposed to call you on Monday then, of course, expect him to call on Monday. If he is supposed to call you and meet you on Monday, that is mighty short notice to come up with details for a date. Agreed! All he has said is "we'll get together when I come in on the 26th" ...or..... "we'll pick it up when I get there next week"
alphamale Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Big chemistry. I haven't seen him in z4 weeks and can't wait for our "first date" albeit drinks and chatting. you should call him to firm up the details due to your business schedule. you don't want to lose any sales in this weak real estate market
Author FL Lady Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 Agreed! All he has said is "we'll get together when I come in on the 26th" ...or..... "we'll pick it up when I get there next week" OK. So, I just texted , "There is a pretty brunette thinking about U in the Housfon airport". He replied immediately and said "See U next week". I have not replied. I am hot him though.
Author FL Lady Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 you should call him to firm up the details due to your business schedule. you don't want to lose any sales in this weak real estate market Agreed. But I don't want to be a PIA. I am doing OK financially right now. I'm a saver. $$$$
alphamale Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 I am doing OK financially right now. I'm a saver. $$$$ then you should be buying the drinks
Green Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 He already said he was going to be in town monday and that he wanted to do drinks... So if it were me I wouldn't call again until Sunday or the day of the drinks (monday)
Author FL Lady Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 He already said he was going to be in town monday and that he wanted to do drinks... So if it were me I wouldn't call again until Sunday or the day of the drinks (monday) Really? You wouldn't call prior??? Honest answer please.
carhill Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 'My appointments on Monday are filling fast. I have us penciled in for xxx (time) but if I don't get a firm commitment by xxx (name the day), I'll go ahead and fill that time with clients. Take care.' Don't mention anything else. Continue to enjoy flirting with the other nice gentlemen you mentioned. If he mentions a different time and that works for your schedule, confirm it. Otherwise, he can enjoy his visit without the pleasure of your company.
Sabali Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Really? You wouldn't call prior??? Honest answer please. Don't smother the guy before he can step a foot off of the plane.
Green Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Really? You wouldn't call prior??? Honest answer please. Well all men are different. But if it were me and I had already told you "I'll be in town monday lets get a drink" I wouldn't call again until the day before or the day of. You guys live far apart. If I only lived like an hour away or less then I would have called TODAY like right this moment and said "lets hangout."
carhill Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 OP, I'm 51 and I 'date' women. What's your status? Are you drinking with this guy or is he asking you on dates? If the former, disregard my advice. It's inapplicable to casual NSA meetups. My advice pertains to dates. If casual NSA stuff, don't leave a hole in your schedule. If it fills up, it fills up. Only men who 'date' you get the privilege of advance booking via advance asking on advance dates. Sell a house or meet a girlfriend. Whatever. If a hole and he calls, meet him for drinks. Even if casual, and I fly a lot, when I'm meeting up with someone at a destination for 'drinks' or dinner or whatever, they know in advance when to expect me. That's called being respectful of their time.
alphamale Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 If a hole and he calls, meet him for drinks. i think he is looking for the "hole"
Author FL Lady Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Well all men are different. But if it were me and I had already told you "I'll be in town monday lets get a drink" I wouldn't call again until the day before or the day of. You guys live far apart. If I only lived like an hour away or less then I would have called TODAY like right this moment and said "lets hangout." Ahhh... So beyond my flirty text tonight I'll do nothing else. Here is what I did: ---------------------------- Me: "There is a pretty brunette thinking about u tonight in the Houston airport". @7:37pm Him: See U Next week. @7:38pm Me: Just a flirty text @8pm Him: Nice. @8:13 What do ya think?.. Still no confirmation on plans.
carhill Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 (edited) 'A certain brunette at the Houston airport is looking forward to seeing you at 7pm for drinks on Monday. She'll be wearing the outfit that gets her all the upgrades' NSA = national security agency or, here, 'no strings attached', e.g. casual... I'll be in Branson on Monday...if he's not careful, I'll fly into Florida for drinks Edited July 22, 2010 by carhill
Author FL Lady Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 'A certain brunette at the Houston airport is looking forward to seeing you at 7pm for drinks on Monday. She'll be wearing the outfit that gets her all the upgrades' NSA = national security agency or, here, 'no strings attached', e.g. casual... Yikes! No, I am not saying no strings attached. I am irked with him not giving me more specifics. I am a planner. Did u read our texts tomight that i posted earlier? I don't want to text again if I don't have too. I hate games However , I sent some drunk, sexy texts to him this past weekend I wish I could recall. Oh well.
carhill Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 (edited) Yep, read them and offered my own version which was suggestive (in a 'proper' way) yet delivered the message (I value specifics) from the 'planner' If he waffled on the time, then: 'Well, I know I'll be there and I'm sure someone will enjoy upgrading me.' BTW, lose the texts. Talk with your voice. Trust me. Edited July 22, 2010 by carhill
Author FL Lady Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Yep, read them and offered my own version which was suggestive (in a 'proper' way) yet delivered the message (I value specifics) from the 'planner' If he waffled on the time, then: 'Well, I know I'll be there and I'm sure someone will enjoy upgrading me.' BTW, lose the texts. Talk with your voice. Trust me. Ahhh... Agreed. About the sexy voice. I have one, southern, but sexy, and so does he. I'm from the South and love his southern voice. I've told him via text too. Gotta get him off text. Maybe when he sees me again he will go Wow!! And change his tune. If not, trust me, Plan B has crushed on me while I was married and he will get a shot. I am sure Plan B has a Plan B too. I would. Right now... Plan A..... Ahhhh. Hot!!!
carhill Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Next time he texts something, merely text back 'call me, honey' Done. Men are like dogs. You have to train them
gizbug Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I'm in a similar spot. Met a girl end of June. I'm a pilot, live in Chicago, she lives in Ohio. I've gone out there 3 times so far. Last week I told her if she would like to do another dinner date. She told me tomorrow night would work best. I told her I get done flying at 2pm, could take the 4pm flight to Ohio. I then told her "You let me know................" Brought it up 2 days to her, and she said we would talk about it later. When 2pm comes tomorrow, and there is no mention of an official date from her, I will go home, and have fun in Chicago. Sad, yes, wish I was going to see her, sure, but I'm not going to chase. Ball is in her court, I've made my attempts. Good Luck. BTW - I really like this girl too.
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