Viking Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Well, recently I was broken up with, but that night I realized how little I actually cared. The stress and worry my relationship had been causing me was worse than the feeling of being broken up with! I realized that I didn't actually care anymore. Anyway, that same night, I had invited a friend over for movie night and hanging out with me and my roommate. She works with me and we've gone to the bars as a group before, but never really done much one-on-one except I danced with her last week pre-breakup. A few days later, I invited her out after I got off work on Sunday to go for a bike ride as it was still nice out and she had gotten off work much earlier than me. We went out and rode for a long time and got ice cream and visited a friend of hers. I also explained the situation with my ex-gf as she had told a mutual friend that she likes me but wasn't sure what my situation was and whether or not I was flirting with her. At the end of the night when I got home, I sent her a "Thanks for a great night, I had a lot of fun" kind of text and she said the same back. Then yesterday (Tuesday) we both had a day off and spent it at the lake with friends and my roomie. Biked there and then back to her house and I went back to my house with my friend and then everyone from earlier came to my house for a BBQ. Then went to the movies in a small group but I sat next to her. After the night was over and we hung at my place some more, she sent me a text saying that she had a great day and enjoyed hanging out. My question is -How do I keep this fun and not too serious because I recently am out of a relationship? Surely she would understand that I like her and that I am having fun, but don't want to jump back into anything serious right now? I know her saying that she had a good time is a good thing to have her say. Do girls take it personally when a guy doesn't want to be a BF again right away? I feel like this has potential, but I don't want to rush back into anything.
that girl Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 How often are you seeing this girl? It sounds like every few days and that really does not give a casual vibe.
Author Viking Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Haha, yeah, I can see that being the case. However, I saw her all day Tuesday, none on Wednesday but did talk to her to set up a meet up time for Thursday. Monday we biked around and grabbed lunch downtown with my roommate... I guess what I meant to say was, "How can I date this girl without feeling like I need to jump back into a relationship to keep seeing her?" I like her and she likes me. Last night at the movie, we went in a group and she ended up not sitting next to me at first. She was talking to our mutual friend and felt that she might be being clingy if she got up and sat next to me. She did end up sitting next to me though. I was told that she likes hopeless romantics...what does that mean?
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