SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Why do 40 something men have to act like horny teenage boys? At what age do men mature and think with the head on their shoulders? The men I have met this past year are all destined for a lonely life in their later years. They won't be so full of themselves when they hit their 50's & 60's and the only women they can attract are prostitutes. No wonder ladies of the nite are in business. It's for the old, sad f*ckers. Pardon my language. Good luck in getting laid on your first date. It wont be with me bucko. I agree theres another thread going around at the moment and apparently SOME on that thread are suggesting that women go as far as even OWING men sex after so many dates Sadly tho we may have brought some of this onto ourselves whats that saying about a few rotten apples? Well seams a few million whores ruin it for the few decent women out there. So much so that when a guy runs into said decent women they just cant understand WHY we wouldent want to hump them after 10 mins.
Serenitynow Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 If you tell the women you want to wait, she thinks there is something wrong with you. If you make a move to show interest, she thinks you are just looking for sex. There are plenty of threads on this site to prove both points.
Serenitynow Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 I agree theres another thread going around at the moment and apparently SOME on that thread are suggesting that women go as far as even OWING men sex after so many dates Sadly tho we may have brought some of this onto ourselves whats that saying about a few rotten apples? Well seams a few million whores ruin it for the few decent women out there. So much so that when a guy runs into said decent women they just cant understand WHY we wouldent want to hump them after 10 mins. Agreed, both sexes have bad apples that are to blame for setting generalized precedents.
gamma1 Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 This is what I am looking for and have yet to find. Where are the women like you? Your post tells me you are out there somewhere.
zengirl Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 I don't know anything about men in their forties and (perhaps naively) expect I'll be married long before it's time to date them. But. . . Why do 40 something men have to act like horny teenage boys? Because they can, I suppose? I seriously doubt ALL men in their 40s, even all the single ones, do any one thing. Maybe look inward and see why you're attracting/choosing these men. At what age do men mature and think with the head on their shoulders? I assume it varies on a man by man basis. I know some twentysomethings and thirtysomethings who think just fine. These are my inner thoughts. These thoughts are not written on my forehead. Geeeesh. All inner thoughts kind of are. The attitude you put into the world is going to be felt by everyone around you, and your life is going to reflect your inner life to a degree (not all the Oprah/Secret/magic crap, but garbage in, garbage out, you know?).
Author hopesndreams Posted July 18, 2010 Author Posted July 18, 2010 I don't know anything about men in their forties and (perhaps naively) expect I'll be married long before it's time to date them. No matter how old anyone is, we are all just children inside. Dating in my 40's? Never thought this would happen to me. I married for life, both times. Funny how things don't work out the way you envision. Maybe look inward and see why you're attracting/choosing these men. It must be the come-hither look in my eyes. Seriously though, being alone isn't all that bad. I'm already re-thinking this dating stuff. Will just go on dates without any expectations and just try to have a good time, even if he turns out to be an ahole.
Pfiend101 Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 inappropriate groping = unwanted. appropriate groping = wanted. So how's the guy supposed to know whats wanted? lmao
Author hopesndreams Posted July 18, 2010 Author Posted July 18, 2010 When she doesn't cringe at your touch, it's wanted.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Why do 40 something men have to act like horny teenage boys? At what age do men mature and think with the head on their shoulders? The men I have met this past year are all destined for a lonely life in their later years. They won't be so full of themselves when they hit their 50's & 60's and the only women they can attract are prostitutes. No wonder ladies of the nite are in business. It's for the old, sad f*ckers. Pardon my language. Good luck in getting laid on your first date. It wont be with me bucko. Um, babycakes, if you're looking at candidates in their 40's as being suitable for dating, you are in your later years socially. Furthermore, a study asked men of all ages what they felt was the perfect age for women they'd want to date. The consensus answer was "half his own age plus 7 years". So, do that math, and then you'd better reconsider those ""horny (legal) teenage boys" and their offers.
Pink Cupcakes Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I am dating a 58 year old man right now and he is fantastic in bed and treats me like gold, so speak for yourself.
Pink Cupcakes Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 (edited) I hate to agree with sincereonline guy, but the 40 year old men you are dating are not going to take you seriously because you are too close to their age range. They are really wanting the twenty to early 30 somethings. They will treat those women the way you are expecting right now to be treated by them, because they are looking at you as a one night stand and aiming at the 20 and early 30 somethings to date and marry. Sorry, but that's how it is. You might not like it, but it is biology and you can't change reality. I am 42 and thought originally that I was settling by dating a 58 year old, but he, like I said, treats me like gold, is successful, and is amazing in bed. I mean, what else could I want? If you are in your 40s, go for the 50's.....then you will be in their age range of what they are looking for and respect you. Honestly, that is the problem for you, you are expecting to be taken seriously by 40 something men, but they are only looking seriously at relationships with 30s or lower age. So, change your target to proportionately higher and you will not only have men panting for you but respecting you and offering you a relationship/marriage. Edited July 20, 2010 by Pink Cupcakes
txsilkysmoothe Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I think "some" men in their forties go through a second coming of age - reliving their teenage years. This usually follows divorce and they just aren't ready to be in a serious relationship. However, they are attracted to good, high quality, women. It would be helpful if such men did some self-analysis, realized they just want casual dating, and not subject relationship-minded women to their boyish behavior. There isn't anything wrong with them wanting to have fun, but they often convey a different message to the women they date. No, this isn't true of all men in their forties. Yes, some women are guilty of this type of behavior as well.
txsilkysmoothe Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I hate to agree with sincereonline guy, but the 40 year old men you are dating are not going to take you seriously because you are too close to their age range. They are really wanting the twenty to early 30 somethings. They will treat those women the way you are expecting right now to be treated by them, because they are looking at you as a one night stand and aiming at the 20 and early 30 somethings to date and marry. Sorry, but that's how it is. You might not like it, but it is biology and you can't change reality. I am 42 and thought originally that I was settling by dating a 58 year old, but he, like I said, treats me like gold, is successful, and is amazing in bed. I mean, what else could I want? If you are in your 40s, go for the 50's.....then you will be in their age range of what they are looking for and respect you. Honestly, that is the problem for you, you are expecting to be taken seriously by 40 something men, but they are only looking seriously at relationships with 30s or lower age. So, change your target to proportionately higher and you will not only have men panting for you but respecting you and offering you a relationship/marriage. I have to, for the most part, disagree with this analysis. It may be true of a small percentage of men. The flaw is that it assumes all men in their forties are relationship minded. A good majority are divorced, lost half of what they accumulated financially, don't live in a house they are paying for, don't live with their children and feel burned. Therefore, they aren't looking for a serious relationship with any woman of any age. They need a few years to recoup. I don't think it has anything to do with men wanting younger women. I've dated several men in their thirties and forties and find men in their thirties to be more relationship oriented. The men in their forties want to date and say they want a relationship, but have trouble making that kind of commitment. Some do realize it's just too soon after a divorce to be getting back into a relationship. I have yet to see any forty-something man I've dated go on to be in a relationship with a younger woman. A couple of them are dating older women, in fact. But the majority are still floundering around not certain what they want.
impz Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Let me stereotype a few possible views (and get slammed). 1. Many guys in their 40s who are single are likely to be divorced with kids. They do not want commitment and are still reeling from the hurt. 2. Many guys in their 40s who are single are likely to have commitment issues and are unable to settle down with a single girl because they do not understand what it means by commitment. 3. Many guys in their 40s who are single rather date young little un compared to a girl of the same age. It's the predator instinct. 4. Many guys in their 40s who are single simply are not relationship material. As such, it should answer your rant perfectly.
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