shadowplay Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 and a legit one. Whatever happens with it, I think this is a pretty significant step forward three months after break up. For awhile I really couldn't fathom being attracted to any other guy. All guys seemed dull to me. The amazing part is I can honestly say I'd rather be with this guy if my impression of him is correct than with my ex even if he were a stronger person. I just hope I can enjoy this and not get too invested, because I have no clue whether he likes me.
tigressA Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 This sounds really good for you, shadow. Just enjoy the fact that you're capable of having feelings for someone else after your breakup. But if you'd like to get to know him, I'd suggest starting sooner than later; that way you'll be less likely to idealize him.
threebyfate Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 My fingers are crossed for you. Even if you start dating, if at all possible don't invest too early unless he consistently shows that his words and actions mesh and that he's all in.
SadandConfusedWA Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Shadow has been thorugh so much, she really deserves a break
LoveLace Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Well that's awesome to go from thinking all guys are dull to thinking one isn't. It's probably a sign that you might start noticing other guys who you don't think are dull, either Yay for you!!
Stockalone Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I just hope I can enjoy this and not get too invested, because I have no clue whether he likes me. This is important. You already know that, but it's worth repeating. That said, I believe a (healthy) crush can be quite lovely, especially this time of year. If it makes you more hopeful and optimistic in general and additionally makes you "forget" the ex even more, your crush sounds good and healthy. Enjoy it, and best of luck.
Author shadowplay Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 Aw, thanks for the support guys. Yeah, I'm making a conscious decision to not get invested. I think the last time I really got hung up on a crush was two years ago, and after that I've been very careful to keep my feelings at bay. My recent breakup has also taught me to take that a step further and not invest immediately even once I start dating someone.
Author shadowplay Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 I hate myself. I don't think I'll ever find another guy who finds me attractive. I wish I wasn't ugly.
Rifareal Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Why you hate yourself? Take things slowly and don't expect something so in the end if ever you get disappointed it won't hurt that much.
Author shadowplay Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 Why you hate yourself? Take things slowly and don't expect something so in the end if ever you get disappointed it won't hurt that much. I don't expect much. It's just that EVERY single time I've shown interest in a guy except for my ex, I've gotten flat out rejected. Every single time. I can't take it any more.
bayouboi Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I hate myself. I don't think I'll ever find another guy who finds me attractive. I wish I wasn't ugly. I seem to recall you posting a body shot. Never saw your face, but considering the shape the majority of women these days seem to be in, you looked pretty attractive to me. Don't beat yourself up too much.
Author shadowplay Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 I seem to recall you posting a body shot. Never saw your face, but considering the shape the majority of women these days seem to be in, you looked pretty attractive to me. Don't beat yourself up too much. Yeah my body is fine. It's my face, I think.
TouchedByViolet Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Yeah my body is fine. It's my face, I think. I remember when you had your face as your avatar. Honestly, you have a unique and interesting face. More sexy then cute. 7/10 at least.
bayouboi Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Yeah my body is fine. It's my face, I think. Well I can give you the response most people give the "nice guys" when they complain about never getting a woman. "Perhaps your negative perception of yourself is coming through during your interactions with the opposite sex." or the whole "Well maybe your standards are too high. You want a supermodel but you don't have the same level of beauty to offer." But my answer would be, I'm sure there's plenty of dewds out there that would do ya.
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