xpaperxcutx Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Following my last thread, I finally went on my date this past weekend. I didn't really start off making a good impression on the guy as I unintentionally made him wait two hours for me ( got stuck in traffic) but afterwards, everything went really smoothly.We went to dinner at a vegetarian restaurant followed by entertainment at the piers on the west side; then took he took me to his favorite bar/hangout place At the end of the night, he walked me to the subway station and I gave him a peck on the lips for goodbye. I know I had a good time because the entire night I didn't bother to check the time on my phone. And even after I got home, I texted him a short msg to thank him for the date ( he basically paid for dinner and the cab ride). Now two days later, I feel really aloof. Normally after a date, I can just talk or text with the guy about whatever, but I can't seem to do the same with this guy. We're both really busy people, he has work and I have workout classes and schedules. Even before our date, I didn't text him all that much except to make our date official. Even then, he was mostly the one that initiated. Am I being too passive here? I like the fact that I'm particularly calm since most of the time I become really clingy but at the same thing I feel like I'm giving him the impression that I'm not interested.
brainygirl Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Are you interested in him? Sounds like one of two things. Either you feel embarrassed about making him wait and are subconsciously avoiding him because of it, or you just aren't all that attracted to him but feel like you should be.
Ronni_W Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Has he contacted you, at all or very much, since the date? If not, I think how you are doing your side is perfectly appropriate. Your 'wiser mind' may be realizing that it would prefer to find out his level of interest before sending you out into the 'unknown'.
Star Gazer Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Your 'wiser mind' may be realizing that it would prefer to find out his level of interest before sending you out into the 'unknown'. Agreed. This is the anxiety-less way to go.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 Has he contacted you, at all or very much, since the date? If not, I think how you are doing your side is perfectly appropriate. Your 'wiser mind' may be realizing that it would prefer to find out his level of interest before sending you out into the 'unknown'. No we haven't talked to each other since sunday night, when he replied to my text that he hoped we could do this again. It was late, I thought one thank- you text was enough.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 Are you interested in him? Sounds like one of two things. Either you feel embarrassed about making him wait and are subconsciously avoiding him because of it, or you just aren't all that attracted to him but feel like you should be. It's still too early to tell. We only met up once. I'm not really "avoiding" him, I just feel like going with the flow.
Star Gazer Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Normally after a date, I can just talk or text with the guy about whatever... ...most of the time I become really clingy. See that? Texting a lot before and right after a first date? Clingy. That's the difference here, Paper. You're not being clingy. That's a good thing. It's only been 2 days. You texted him to thank him for a good date. Anything more at this point would border on the clingy. What's happened thus far is normal, natural. Don't second guess yourself here. Just go with it. And date others too!
kalikula Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I don't think you're being too passive... He should be texting you or calling you fairly soon if he's interested. (Might take awhile if he's busy but still).
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 14, 2010 Author Posted July 14, 2010 I don't think you're being too passive... He should be texting you or calling you fairly soon if he's interested. (Might take awhile if he's busy but still). Well, I just logged onto the site we met on, and he left me a message saying he's busy and that he might probably try contacting me next week, when he's more sure of his schedule. The weird thing is, he has my number, but he chooses to write me a message on a dating site rather than just picking up his phone to call me or just text me a short msg. Should I be wary? I don't think I'm going to contact unless he contacts me first.
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