MisUnderstanding Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I am not a mind reader, so this is driving me nuts. You tell a man you care about him, and he says "thank you", you express your feelings, and he just says "thank you". What does that "thank you" mean? When it comes to feelings or emotions, I want to hear at least something of what he feels back. He keeps seeing you, keeps being superawesome, his actions are unspeakeably amazing, and yet his mouth won't produce anything but "thank you". What am I missing? How do you decipher that?
Shakz Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Generally speaking, a man has to have something actually happen for him to be able to express his emotion honestly. When you press a man for his feelings all he can do is try to be polite, because he's not feeling anything strong enough to make it worth expressing, without being dishonest.
skydiveaddict Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 He likes you, but is afraid of coming on too strong.
USMCHokie Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 1. He's not ready to express those emotions to you yet. 2. He doesn't that feel that way about you yet. 3. He's afraid that he will be unmanly to open up emotionally. Generally, actions speak much louder than words. As long as his actions show that he cares, then he'll open up when he's ready. But if he is truly emotionally stoic, then perhaps this will be a point of incompatibility between the two of you...
runner Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 perhaps he's just being conservative in his expressions and would prefer to 'show' it rather than 'say' it. if he keeps "seeing you ... being superawesome ... [and] his actions are unspeakeably amazing," then what is the problem ? but if it really is driving you bonkers then replace him with someone on your level of expressiveness. problem solved.
Author MisUnderstanding Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 1. He's not ready to express those emotions to you yet. 2. He doesn't that feel that way about you yet. 3. He's afraid that he will be unmanly to open up emotionally. Generally, actions speak much louder than words. As long as his actions show that he cares, then he'll open up when he's ready. But if he is truly emotionally stoic, then perhaps this will be a point of incompatibility between the two of you... Aren't actions invoked by the same "i care about her" brain cell as the words? I am not trying to pry anything out of him, because that's just a bad idea, but I wonder if me continuing to say caring and loving things may seem pushy on its own.
USMCHokie Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Aren't actions invoked by the same "i care about her" brain cell as the words? I am not trying to pry anything out of him, because that's just a bad idea, but I wonder if me continuing to say caring and loving things may seem pushy on its own. To answer your question, I don't know. In response to your fear, I think it's a little unnecessary. If he has a problem with you openly showing affection through words, then there is definitely a fundamental incompatibility between you two. I don't buy all that "pushy" nonsense...it's just more bullsh*t games that people like to play...if he sees you saying loving things to him as pushy, then I'd run FAR AWAY and FAST...but to each his or her own...
Author MisUnderstanding Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 To answer your question, I don't know. In response to your fear, I think it's a little unnecessary. If he has a problem with you openly showing affection through words, then there is definitely a fundamental incompatibility between you two. I don't buy all that "pushy" nonsense...it's just more bullsh*t games that people like to play...if he sees you saying loving things to him as pushy, then I'd run FAR AWAY and FAST...but to each his or her own... No, he doesn't see it as pushy, he just says thank you and smiles. I can only assume he likes hearing it. Although assuming is a dangerous game with guys. I would run if he saw it as pushy, but I know some men do act that way.
tanbark813 Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 You tell a man you care about him, and he says "thank you", you express your feelings, and he just says "thank you". What does that "thank you" mean? It means "thank you". It's not rocket science. If you want to know what he thinks or feels, ask him.
tincanman99 Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Because he is not comfortable telling you or is not sure what he is feeling. In my experience though, most women lose all respect for you in the beginning of a relationship if you tell them too much. Just saying.
fishtaco Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 If you tell him you care about him, he's just going to say thank you because he appreciates you caring about him. If you want him to express his feelings, ask him to. Kind of like you're not a mind reader, he's not one either.
tanbark813 Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 If you tell him you care about him, he's just going to say thank you because he appreciates you caring about him. If you want him to express his feelings, ask him to. Kind of like you're not a mind reader, he's not one either. Agreed 100%.
paleblue Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 i dunno. i mean don't most people just know how to show it for each other if you feel it? i am assuming so, but then again not sure.
BobSacamento Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Pretty simple - Actions speak louder than words.
Author MisUnderstanding Posted July 14, 2010 Author Posted July 14, 2010 Pretty simple - Actions speak louder than words. That's what everyone says all the time. Is that really so much true with men? I mean, if I go by his actions, then he must feel like he's in heaven when it comes to me.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Despite your report of superawsomeness it seems you may have found his achillies heel--he's dense. It doesn't sound at all like you're complimenting him whereby a "thank you" might be appropriate. Either he doesn't sense your meaning or is not interested in encouraging it. Knock-knock. Who's there? I love you. OK, thanks, you go now, huh? Awesomely unawesome.
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