MisUnderstanding Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 How do you, men, feel, if a woman sends you flowers? Considering you two have some kind of relationship, even a short one (or a long one). Link to post Share on other sites
Gero Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 How do you, men, feel, if a woman sends you flowers? Considering you two have some kind of relationship, even a short one (or a long one). I don't know how I would react to that. It would seem sorta odd to me, but I can't speak for everyone. Why not send a card with a nice hand written message in it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MisUnderstanding Posted July 11, 2010 Author Share Posted July 11, 2010 I don't know how I would react to that. It would seem sorta odd to me, but I can't speak for everyone. Why not send a card with a nice hand written message in it? Well that's the whole question, how would you react? I am not looking for ideas of alternatives, I just want to know how men would feel if they are given flower(s). Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Send a six pack instead I guess it would be ok to get flowers. It's just never happened to me before Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 They would feel weird. Men don't think like women and therefore appreciate different romantic gestures than women do. Link to post Share on other sites
Gero Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Well that's the whole question, how would you react? I am not looking for ideas of alternatives, I just want to know how men would feel if they are given flower(s). Okay, well for me flowers wouldn't mean much I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MisUnderstanding Posted July 11, 2010 Author Share Posted July 11, 2010 I gave a flower to my now ex, he kept it (when it dried) even after we broke up. I just don't believe he's the only one who appreciated the gesture. He was really touched by it. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 It all depends. My now wife wanted to send me flowers at work when we were dating. She asked how I would feel. I said no. I still would say the same. For me, getting flowers was kind of weird if it meant that it was a public thing. I had a girl send me cards almost every week, and it was too much for me. My feelings were not at the same level for her as her feelings were for me. On the other hand, I had a girlfriend put a single rose with a note on my car seat for my eyes only. I loved it, and still remember it. Most guys consider a gift of flowers as a feminine thing. In fact, many guys consider a note or card sufficient. As was said, men view such gifts differently than women. Link to post Share on other sites
Gero Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Yes we men have been trained to show such gestures are unmanly and will make us feel like less of a man. Admitting we actually like it would further suggest men are now taking on a nice guy feminist like aura and it would be a turn off. It could be conditioning but I wouldn't prefer to get flowers as I said. I would still greatly appreciate the gesture. As I said though I think the best thing that a woman could get me would be a nice card with a great message maybe telling me how she felt about me or something. I guess I'm not one for symbolic gestures. Link to post Share on other sites
Crusoe Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 My late wife gave me flowers once. Walked straight into my work, handed them to me and walked out without saying a word. I was chuffed to bits. Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 I'd rather get a six pack of good beer and a kung fu DVD to be honest. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MisUnderstanding Posted July 11, 2010 Author Share Posted July 11, 2010 I'd rather get a six pack of good beer and a kung fu DVD to be honest. Six pack is an every-day-nothing-out-of-the-ordinary thing. How would that make it feel any special? I am starting to think that many men are indeed too afraid to admit they'd like a flower and would rather pretend to be all macho to not lose the image. Link to post Share on other sites
Gero Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Six pack is an every-day-nothing-out-of-the-ordinary thing. How would that make it feel any special? I am starting to think that many men are indeed too afraid to admit they'd like a flower and would rather pretend to be all macho to not lose the image. I wouldn't mind them handing me flowers or a flower like what Crusoe posted. It could just be me, but having them send me flowers just doesn't do it for me. Maybe if they had a really good note with it too. I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 I don't know any man that would be in to it. Of course they would value the gesture if they love the woman but I think there are better things to send. Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Six pack is an every-day-nothing-out-of-the-ordinary thing. How would that make it feel any special? I am starting to think that many men are indeed too afraid to admit they'd like a flower and would rather pretend to be all macho to not lose the image. Pick a beer that he likes. I'm sure if he's a sophisticated gentleman it's not pee water Bud. So you will not be going to the gas station to get this 6 pack. Believe me if I was surprised with a 6 pack Edmunds Fitzgerald I would not look at that as an "Ordinary" gesture. Link to post Share on other sites
kalikula Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Why do you think guys would like flowers? In my experience the guys I've dated have been a bit traditionally romantic and would have preferred to give me flowers. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 I bet your BF would like a nice big dildo sent to him from you, Allina. E...:lmao: Only paired with beer, not flowers Link to post Share on other sites
Author MisUnderstanding Posted July 11, 2010 Author Share Posted July 11, 2010 Why do you think guys would like flowers? In my experience the guys I've dated have been a bit traditionally romantic and would have preferred to give me flowers. By traditionally romantic do you mean their romantisism extended to getting a six-pack? Link to post Share on other sites
kalikula Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Can't say I've given gifts to any of my exes unless it was their birthday or something.. even beer? Link to post Share on other sites
kalikula Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 That I'm willing to do Link to post Share on other sites
lso802 Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 i would be happy. would give them to my mom though, since she loves them. i wouldn't know what to do with them myself. so she would get to make me and my mom happy. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
desertmoon Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 My boyfriend's firm has a budget for fresh flower arrangements for the front office (reception), and the conference rooms-so I know the men in the firm who approved the budget (my BF is one of them) are not adverse to it. One time I sent him flowers for no other reason than because I felt like it. He was very surprised and thought it was so sweet. The flowers stayed in the front office and the receptionist told me he (proudly ) told everybody who cared to listen that they were from me. Link to post Share on other sites
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