Cplusplus Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I really don't get some of theses stupid RE: messages I receive back on dating sites. I ask some thoughtfull questions to them after reading there profile and then they respond initially with nohting back (not a how are you? what are you doing ...). Are they trying to play games after the first message? Was I not clear enough in my intentions? (Should I have just said "Your hot lets go out":rolleyes:) Are they not interested? (If not then why respond at all.) Any thoughts/suggestions? Girls do guys do this too?
boogieboy Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 If they dont respond right away, theyre not interested. If they respond with a message that doesnt ask about you, theyre not interested.
New Again Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 They're not interested. Maybe you should proofread your emails to these girls. If your grammar and punctuation is as appalling in the messages you're sending as they are here, they might not know what you're saying; your sweetness and thoughtfulness isn't coming across...or maybe they just don't like your profile. Your post here could definitely be more clear, not counting the grammar and punctuation. I definitely think you should start by editing and spellchecking your messages before sending them. On a side note, you wouldn't have to worry about your grammar, etc. if you were meeting women in real life and asking them out. First dates are like interviews, and you're not going to get an interview if you're sloppy and come across as careless.
boogieboy Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Not only that, but most women dont answer 90% of the emails that they get no matter HOW well constructed they are. Guys and gals always want to date UP, which isnt most of the dating pool online. Most people on there dont get their wants met.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I agree with New Again. It's quite possible that your writing style is a major turn-off. There ≠ their ≠ they're Your ≠ you're The differences are important and actually taught in elementary school.
BobSacamento Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Usually follow up questions indicate some interest. I don't really mind if I don't get a response right away as I have put it off for a few days myself. Sometimes people get busy. I've gotten emails from women 5 days after I sent them one. Maybe that's a bad thing, IDK. I don't try to over analyze anything with online dating.
Author Cplusplus Posted December 7, 2009 Author Posted December 7, 2009 I agree with New Again. It's quite possible that your writing style is a major turn-off. There ≠ their ≠ they're Your ≠ you're The differences are important and actually taught in elementary school. I don't have too bad of grammar when it comes to posts but I really hate when people correct each other. To me it is very childish to correct someone's grammar. Anyways thanks for the advice, I think the responses back might have to do more with not being interested in my profile. I just don't know why even respond back at all.
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