bbasher75 Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 This girl came up to me and gave me her number. She sent me flirty texts and I asked her if she wanted to meet up after work Friday. She said sure what time, I said 9:00 PM and she said she'd be out with a friend for her celebration, but she'd let me know where to meet her. I said OK fine. Friday comes and she sends more flirty texts, and I say where do I meet you? She says she's still not sure and to text her when I get out. I text her at 8:55 and say OK I'm about done where do I meet you? No reply...9:10...no reply...9:20...no reply. I just go somewhere else. She texts at 9:30 and says "Oh sorry phone was in my bag, where are you?" I told her I left and she says "where'd you leave?" I just said to contact me in the future if you wanna do anything and thats it. Whats the deal here? If not interested why give her number and why send me flirty texts for an hour?
learning to deal Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I recently went out with my gf and her friends. We started at her friends house as they had spritzers and we waited for two other girls to meet us there. They were debating on a few places to go and finally decided on one...but right before leaving they changes it to another place nearby to quickly see a friend....and we ended up staying there all night hanging out drinking. My gf gave me her cell phone so she didn't have to carry it but her friends all had theirs in their purse. It's hard to hear in places like that especially if she's celebrating with a friend and can easily lose track of time. Not saying she is right or wrong, just offering another side to it all. I'd try making plans again this week and see what she says
alphamale Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Whats the deal here? she's screwed up in the head, man If not interested why give her number and why send me flirty texts for an hour? because she's only looking for attention or some guy to jerk around when she gets bored
boogieboy Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 because she's only looking for attention or some guy to jerk around when she gets bored This could be true... She very well could have put her phone in her bag and lost track of time.. But you screwed up by planning to meet up while she was out with her friends. If you told her 9:00 and she says she will be out already, you plan a different day where she will say she will meet you at the right time.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 This could be true... She very well could have put her phone in her bag and lost track of time.. But you screwed up by planning to meet up while she was out with her friends. If you told her 9:00 and she says she will be out already, you plan a different day where she will say she will meet you at the right time. I was going to suggest another day but she already asked me to meet her and her friend after work that night, so I didnt push it. I didnt want it to look like "oh no, I dont want to see you and your friend, I want you ALONE" cuz it might make me look creepy or something. But mabye I should have just suggested another day. At any rate she flaked, if she wanted to see me I think she'd have told me where to meet her and her friend at an appropiate time, like she sadi she would. Am I wrong? I doubt she lost track of time. The last text she sent was only an hour before we were gonna meet. And if she did lose track of time I guess I wasnt that important to her, LOL.
learning to deal Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 First how old are you two? Age plays a factor in all of this. Second, if you are interested in seeing her, ask her out again. She says no or doesn't respond, fine. If she says yes, fine. Either way you know and can go from there.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 First how old are you two? Age plays a factor in all of this. Second, if you are interested in seeing her, ask her out again. She says no or doesn't respond, fine. If she says yes, fine. Either way you know and can go from there. I'm 32 and she's 26. Kind of sad I still have to deal with the high school mind games krap at this age. But I guess it never goes away huh? Any idea where to meet some mature women? LOL Why should I ask her out after flaking? I can understand if she was playing hard to get and suggested another time or something, but she agreed to meet at a certain time and flaked. Thats really bad in my book. Do you agree or disagree? I just told her she has my number. I think its up to her at this point to contact me.
learning to deal Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I hear you, brother. I'm 26 and I guessed by her actions she was early 20's. It really is one of two things....she's immature and wants to have fun (you were her attention for the night) or she legitimately lost track of time and her phone was in her bag. So the question is, what do you want out of this? If you're ok with forgetting about her and seeing if she contacts you, then do that. If you want to see what kind of reaction you'd get if you contact her again, then do that. Either way it's not like you had a lot invested in this obviously so if nothing else you got to flirt with a pretty girl who brought you her number...now go find another one
Author bbasher75 Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 I hear you, brother. I'm 26 and I guessed by her actions she was early 20's. It really is one of two things....she's immature and wants to have fun (you were her attention for the night) or she legitimately lost track of time and her phone was in her bag. So the question is, what do you want out of this? If you're ok with forgetting about her and seeing if she contacts you, then do that. If you want to see what kind of reaction you'd get if you contact her again, then do that. Either way it's not like you had a lot invested in this obviously so if nothing else you got to flirt with a pretty girl who brought you her number...now go find another one OK mabye I'll contact her in a couple of days to see whats up. Problem is I already told her she has my number if she wants to see me so I'm not sure if its ok to do that. But what the heck I'll give it a go. Honestly though I'm put off by her actions. Why do people think it's such a good idea to start off relations with games and tricks? I just don't understand it. It'd be so refreshing to meet a mature woman one of these days.
boogieboy Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 OK mabye I'll contact her in a couple of days to see whats up. Problem is I already told her she has my number if she wants to see me so I'm not sure if its ok to do that. But what the heck I'll give it a go. Honestly though I'm put off by her actions. Why do people think it's such a good idea to start off relations with games and tricks? I just don't understand it. It'd be so refreshing to meet a mature woman one of these days. Shes not thinking about relations, shes just thinking about having fun. So DONT contact her. If she likes you that much, she will contact you in a couple weeks. And when she does, set a specific time a date for her to meet you...if she doesnt show on time you bail and ignore her texts after that.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 Shes not thinking about relations, shes just thinking about having fun. So DONT contact her. If she likes you that much, she will contact you in a couple weeks. And when she does, set a specific time a date for her to meet you...if she doesnt show on time you bail and ignore her texts after that. You're right. Funny how the mind works, I want to make excuses for her because I wanted to see her. Yet in reality I know what you say is true and I should just let her get back to me. How did I handle the situation? I told her she has my number and to contact me if she wants to go out in the future. Is that OK? I guess I have to stick with that now.
You'reasian Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 (edited) she's screwed up in the head, man because she's only looking for attention or some guy to jerk around when she gets bored +1 Listen to her words and watch her actions. You've already seen where she's at. Go for good girls. The kind that you wanna bring home to the folks. Edited December 6, 2009 by You'reasian
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