D-Lish Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I'm in the exact same boat! I recently met a guy from online and we had a date last week, and although I think he is really nice, I am not sure I feel any chemistry. I have decided to go out on one more date just to see what happens. He keeps trying to set up dates and I have been wavering. I don't think there is any harm in meeting him again. It can't hurt to give it one more shot.
Angel1111 Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I think the part I'm confused on is that while overall I think the first meeting went well, I was a bit bored. There were some obvious things that we did not share the same interest on. He is a big history buff...I'm not. While I can appreciate his differences in interests, he kind of went on about some historical figure in which he was writing his thesis on, this is someone I really knew nothing about, but I tried to act interested. He was probably just really nervous about meeting you and didn't really know what to talk about. I think he deserves another chance. I love guys who open doors for women - I made sure my son does this. If he bores you on the second date, then this is probalby how he is.
Datingnoob Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Not sure if I should give it another go and go out with him again or just be honest with him and tell him I think we would be great friends, but not much more? Perhaps he will grow on me more and I'm just not giving him a fair chance? I don't know really? What do you guys think? If you aren't particularly attracted to someone the first time you meet them, do you call things to a hault or do you give it another go? As a man, the first thing I look for from the initial meeting is physical attraction. If I am not physically attracted to a woman, I won't be physically attracted to the same woman 100 dates later. I consider factors like bad make-up day, clothes, etc. This is a yes/no qualification for me, I don't rate physical appearance on a scale. If a woman is a "yes", then physical appearance requirement is met for me. Most women in your position don't like to waste time on men they aren't attracted to physically. If you have time to waste, give him another chance.
jerbear Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I say give him another chance. This is a page from my date book, two dates as the first is stressful. Since you are unsure, why not give him another chance.
J dub Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 >Most women in your position don't like to waste time on men they aren't attracted to physically. If you have time to waste, give him another chance. umm...no? Physical attraction CAN build with time. When we get to know a man for his accomplishments/character/etc, sometimes fires spark and things go in a direction we werent expecting. I've had several dates where the first/second were so-so, in fact a lot of my long-term, decent relationships started off with me going, hmm..not so sure about this... Give it another shot. You neverrrrr knowwwwww....
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