Is there some written rule that the guy has to initiate most of the contact?

[justagirl09]

I started talking to this guy who is much younger than me. I am in my mid-thirties, and he is 24. Anyways, i didnt think much of talking to him, until we really started talking and i realized we have alot in common and he seems more mature and reserved than most guys his age (so far, as far as i can tell) anyways, he has a really busy occupation, so we dont talk every day, but we talk frequently, and alot of times i initiate it ( he is under alot of pressure and deadlines) anyways, i was thinking, i hope i am not bugging him and he doesnt want to talk to me, but by his words i dont think that is the case, and he always says " talk to you tommorow" and he seems really genuine. I dont know, maybe he is shy? he seems like the kind of guy who doesnt want to come on too strong, and so maybe even more so because of the age gap. I am not one to play games, or hard to get. I am a straight shooter, so i figure if the guy is answering my calls/texts then he is interested...if he doesnt want to talk to me, he wont reciprocate. I know alot of people will say to wait for the guy to call though, just trying to figure out the right thing to do....

[HokeyPokey]

Some guys have a really hard time being honest with girls and cutting them loose, and I have found that in those instances they will be responsive but never initiate communication until the girl finally gives up. They think they're being nice but they are really just wasting your time.

 

The flip side is that I have also met a few men who use LC in hopes of building more of an attraction. But even if that is the case, if you stop contacting him for a while and he is truly interested--he will get in touch with you again. And if he doesn't out of insecurity, he's too immature for you anyways.

 

Someone wasting your time is an insult though. I would let him be for a while. Men make the most effort to open contact during the first stages of courtship, regardless of how busy they are. If they want you, they will find the time. Communication runs two ways and it can't be you initiating every time.