I was able to get a little bit out of her

[b52s]

Okay, remember I started that thread about dating married women without kids, but it turned into a woman who was kind of edgy about telling why she divorced?

 

Well, I guess after talking for at time, I was able to get a little bit of something out of her about her marriage.

 

She basically said that she said she was a "I guess I was a handful for him" and as a result he got physically and mentally abusive with her.

 

I and I said, "Oh okay, how were you too much of a handful."

 

THEN she said, "I prefer not to talk about this anymore."

 

...that's the part that got MY curiosity...she was TOO much of a handful for him.

 

Okay, I didn't reveal her occupation yet...so I will now.

 

She's a cashier/waitress...30 years old....and is a swimsuit model...does mostly the Hot Rod and Bike shows among other such gigs.

 

So, she might hang with riff raff, and might seriously be messed up in the head herself....which might explain why she was too much to handle?

[New Again]

Yeah, based on this info, I would be looking for low self esteem and maybe some other things...like I'm betting she and her husband had pretty different boundaries (I'm betting she was the one doing the line crossing), maybe she's a drama queen.

 

If you want to PM me for a horror story that starts out very much like the one you just described, go for it.

[2sunny]

sounds like she's got a lot to hide. this type of secrecy can't lead to anything good worth considering... as far as dating her.

[b52s]

sounds like she's got a lot to hide. this type of secrecy can't lead to anything good worth considering... as far as dating her.

 

Yeah, hell she could've run in some criminal circles.

 

There was something in my gut that was telling me something about her.

 

For one, (and wierd even in email, I was kinda be able to pick up on it)

 

The conversations were one-sided for a while.....she revealed some information about hereself that were more trivial than personal...like what she does for work, or hobbies, what she does for fun around town, what she did before she moved back to her own town.

 

But.....she'd never "come back" with anything.

 

Eventually, she goes, "okay, enough questions about me, what about you?"

 

But, I'm thinking, "Um...what ABOUT me do you want to know?" She would never get specific with questions about me.

 

I was suprised she even asked "what about you?"..but she did. I have a feeling I'll NEVER find anything personal out, I bet EVEN in person....just my feeling.

 

The town she lives in is kinda backwoods. I felt somethin' was up.

 

Hell, maybe she's a "cutter".

[betrayed2]

I think maybe she was just so emotionally abused and convinced she was too much to handle that she began to believe it. Don't give up on her just yet, give her time to open up, hell you don't want to give away a model do you?