Sexy men

[DustySaltus]

Dusty -

I cook and do laundry....expect my man to help with the dishes though.

You are more than welcome to pick up the tab, it is the gentlemanly thing to do.

Pre-date? WTF

I love talking on the phone and I can write real letters...prefer not to text period.

I dress up good too.

 

This all make me a near extinct species? I'm old fashioned country girl and I want an old fashioned, "quality" guy.

 

Dark, I admire a woman like yourself. I have no problem doing the dishes..it's all about the give and take. Oh and yeah, apparently "pre-dates" are a new thing...it's all about time management these days, because we're all in a hurry to catch the new episode of "Dancing with the Stars".

[Ody]

...and then you noticed Connery and thought "What the hell is that ridiculously hot woman doing with HIM?!!?"

 

And then you were like "oh yeah, he's a real man, he's not insecure, he has personality" &etc.

 

LOL nahh I actually thought to myself, thank god older men do well with younger women, because that means I'm just hitting my prime and I have a good forty years ahead of me before women like Kim Basinger are totally and completely out of reach!

[Woggle]

I agree but women do have a part in creating this monster.

[threebyfate]

I don't think women should be insecure either...however, what caused me to post this is the whole idea that WOMEN are judged by men pretty much on their beauty and youth.

 

Women don't judge men in this way (for the most part) - so they need to stop acting like women about this crap.

I'm not certain if this does show the difference between men and women.

 

Disclaimer: The following are generalizations and most definitely do not represent every, single individual. Don't be surprised if you don't fall into the following.

 

Let's take men and women, who've never met before. Both will reject within the first glance and no one will know they've been already rejected. Now take it further. If both are physically attracted, they will make eye contact and proceed from there, reliant on their individual styles for connecting with the opposite gender. Note that this is all based on appearances.

 

Okay, next phase, they start to talk. That's when men and women judge a little differently, albeit if either or both are physically attractive, the other person will be more lenient, where men will be MORE lenient to an attractive woman. After all, what have you judge by, beyond physical appearances?

 

Now let's take it a little further and they start dating. Men continue to strongly judge by appearances as #1 criteria, although some will add a few more requirements. This is when women start to load on the judgements, some superficial, others not, but still will be more lenient towards an attractive man.

 

Take it one step further into relationship territory. Women load on way more judgements and men still judge by appearances as #1 criteria, although the vast majority of men, will add other judgements as criteria that's close to appearances but never exceed them. It's more likely a man will dump a woman if she doesn't maintain her appearance, than a woman would dump a man.

[shadowplay]

I'm not a fan of metrosexual guys, but I think it's attractive when a guy puts some effort into his appearance. I like men who dress with style, if it's a style I find appealing.

[shadowplay]

I'm not certain if this does show the difference between men and women.

 

Disclaimer: The following are generalizations and most definitely do not represent every, single individual. Don't be surprised if you don't fall into the following.

 

Let's take men and women, who've never met before. Both will reject within the first glance and no one will know they've been already rejected. Now take it further. If both are physically attracted, they will make eye contact and proceed from there, reliant on their individual styles for connecting with the opposite gender. Note that this is all based on appearances.

 

Okay, next phase, they start to talk. That's when men and women judge a little differently, albeit if either or both are physically attractive, the other person will be more lenient, where men will be MORE lenient to an attractive woman. After all, what have you judge by, beyond physical appearances?

 

Now let's take it a little further and they start dating. Men continue to strongly judge by appearances as #1 criteria, although some will add a few more requirements. This is when women start to load on the judgements, some superficial, others not, but still will be more lenient towards an attractive man.

 

Take it one step further into relationship territory. Women load on way more judgements and men still judge by appearances as #1 criteria, although the vast majority of men, will add other judgements as criteria that's close to appearances but never exceed them. It's more likely a man will dump a woman if she doesn't maintain her appearance, than a woman would dump a man.

 

I know you were talking in generalizations but you really think the majority of men are this superficial? I always thought that appearance took a back seat for guys once they had the initial attraction to go forward with the dating.

 

I guess I don't know what you mean by continue to judge based on appearance within the relationship. I mean the guy already knows what the woman looks like, so he's already made a judgment. I'd think at that point other traits would take precedence (long as she doesn't let herself go), but maybe I'm giving men too much credit.

[Yukikazi]

I'm not a fan of metrosexual guys, but I think it's attractive when a guy puts some effort into his appearance. I like men who dress with style, if it's a style I find appealing.

 

Would depend on the definition of metrosexual.

 

There are those that groom to look good.

Those that take it a tad far imo like manicures and waxing eyebrows and stuff.

 

I don't label myself metrosexual.. but I groom myself to look good.. shave the face,, keep the hair neat and trimmed to my standards.. dress casual from jeans and a decent shirt to dockers and a dressier shirt.. this works for all occasions.. Do I go out waxing.. no.. do I manage the body hair.. yes.. personally i detest the body hair but not much i can do about it except adapt.

[JL911]

My goodness all of this is making me feel like more and more of a catch in regaurds to my masculinity. I have a lot of friends who are WAY to into their appearance and their clothes...its kinda weird...

 

All the play baby boys are out doing their hair on the weekends while im in the woods hunting deer or on the lake catching dinner...

 

All of the sissy boys are out shopping for $100 jeans and sweaters while I change the oil in my truck in my $20 Levis and a hooded sweatshirt...

 

All the little boys are walking around in pink shirts with popped collars acting like they never had a beer before in their life...While I sit sip my crown royal on the rocks and laugh...

 

These little sissy boys sit around thinking they are fat eating salads and going to Panera Bread for soup and half a sandwich (outlandish). While I sit down to enjoy a nice big 16oz New York Strip and a Baked Potato. Yum...6' 250lbs of man...Im proud...

 

There is no way this works with the girls or works for very long...I dont care enough about myself to even attempt to look that good and for some reason that works for me...That new deer rifle looks alot better on me than a pair of jeans...lol

[threebyfate]

I know you were talking in generalizations but you really think the majority of men are this superficial? I always thought that appearance took a back seat for guys once they had the initial attraction to go forward with the dating.

 

I guess I don't know what you mean by continue to judge based on appearance within the relationship. I mean the guy already knows what the woman looks like, so he's already made a judgment. I'd think at that point other traits would take precedence (long as she doesn't let herself go), but maybe I'm giving men too much credit.

You make it sound like women aren't also superficial. While women within relationships, judge by other criteria, it doesn't make them any less superficial. For example, how many women look for "good providers" when their own income doesn't even closely come near, mens'? No one can argue that this doesn't exist.

 

My last example is based on "if" she lets herself go. Also note the reference to the "vast majority" of men who do include other criteria that equal but never trump, looks. Don't take it out of context and keep in mind, that looks are also subjective.

[kizik]

Agree with OP. Men are little b*tches these days. Man the f*ck up, get off your fixed gear bike, shed the cardigan sweater, and do some f-ing push-ups.

[shadowplay]

Agree with OP. Men are little b*tches these days. Man the f*ck up, get off your fixed gear bike, shed the cardigan sweater, and do some f-ing push-ups.

 

Funny, because I find guys like the type you described particularly sexy. Skinny pants, bright colored tshirts sneakers = <3. I like hipster boys. As long as their personalities are masculine.

[kizik]

I like hipster boys.

 

You'd be particularly turned off, then, by me in my loose jeans and hoody.

 

I hate hipsters with a fiery and unceasing passion.

 

Our relationship is heretofore changed forever, shadowplay.

[Yukikazi]

Define hipster please.

The explain the differences between a hipster and a preppy.. how they fit into the metrosexual stereotype..

[Sam Spade]

"OK, now this is stupid. I can handle a world where I have to walk on eggshells around women who are terminally insecure for no particular reason no matter what their age, weight, height, hair color - you name it! But to live in a world where men are just the same, just as ridiculous? [...] No, I say! Absolutely not! Where is the silent heroism of the lonely male? Where are the Clint Eastwoods, the Steve McQueens, the Robert Mitchums of this world? Where are the men whose whole grooming regime consisted of nothing more than a **** and shave? I ask you, would Bogart give a toss about plastic surgery? Would John Wayne worry about sunscreen? Would Sean Connery think twice about a double chin? Never! I shudder to think what sort of pale, insipid existence we have to look forward to if we enter into that singular, unfortunately female state of mind that depends wholly on the approval of others before we can ever begin to see ourselves." - Kathleen Tessaro

 

 

You killed them, bitchez !

[Sam Spade]

Funny, because I find guys like the type you described particularly sexy. Skinny pants, bright colored tshirts sneakers = <3. I like hipster boys. As long as their personalities are masculine.

 

Anathema :eek::eek:!

 

Male dress other than a suit should be outlawed and severely prosecuted.

[kizik]

Define hipster please.

 

Pretentious a**h*le who keeps up with every trend to compensate for any substance in his soul, and has nothing interesting or original to say.

[AD1980]

I don't think women should be insecure either...however, what caused me to post this is the whole idea that WOMEN are judged by men pretty much on their beauty and youth.

 

Women don't judge men in this way (for the most part) - so they need to stop acting like women about this crap.

 

Please looks are just as important to women as men

[AD1980]

i dont like metrosexual and guys who go overboard but if im going out on the weekend to a club bar or lounge and trying to attract female interest i do like to get dressed up..

 

Doesnt automatically make you a rela man becasue youre a slob or dont like to wear nice clothes and groom..

[shadowplay]

You'd be particularly turned off, then, by me in my loose jeans and hoody.

 

I hate hipsters with a fiery and unceasing passion.

 

Our relationship is heretofore changed forever, shadowplay.

 

I think I should qualify my previous statement by explaining that I like subtle hipsters, not the poseur type that provokes constant mockery. He has to be genuinely cool and own his look.

 

It's partly because I'm most attracted to artistic/musical guys, and this look is the default for that crowd. If a guy dresses with style it's more likely that we'll share common interests.

 

If he's tall (6'1" - 6'2") and thin then that's an added bonus

 

Here's an example of a subtle hipster guy I had the hots for at my old school:

http://img18.imageshack.us/img18/5307/cuteguy.jpg

Kind of a douchebag, though, as you can tell from his smug face.

[shadowplay]

Pretentious a**h*le who keeps up with every trend to compensate for any substance in his soul, and has nothing interesting or original to say.

 

Not all hipsters are alike. Somebody can be a borderline hipster and still interesting and smart.

[New Again]

 

Let's take men and women, who've never met before. Both will reject within the first glance and no one will know they've been already rejected. Now take it further. If both are physically attracted, they will make eye contact and proceed from there, reliant on their individual styles for connecting with the opposite gender. Note that this is all based on appearances.

 

Okay, next phase, they start to talk. That's when men and women judge a little differently, albeit if either or both are physically attractive, the other person will be more lenient, where men will be MORE lenient to an attractive woman. After all, what have you judge by, beyond physical appearances?

 

Now let's take it a little further and they start dating. Men continue to strongly judge by appearances as #1 criteria, although some will add a few more requirements. This is when women start to load on the judgements, some superficial, others not, but still will be more lenient towards an attractive man.

 

Take it one step further into relationship territory. Women load on way more judgements and men still judge by appearances as #1 criteria, although the vast majority of men, will add other judgements as criteria that's close to appearances but never exceed them. It's more likely a man will dump a woman if she doesn't maintain her appearance, than a woman would dump a man.

 

*Claps*

I agree.

 

I know you were talking in generalizations but you really think the majority of men are this superficial?

Yes.

 

You make it sound like women aren't also superficial. While women within relationships, judge by other criteria, it doesn't make them any less superficial. For example, how many women look for "good providers" when their own income doesn't even closely come near, mens'? No one can argue that this doesn't exist.

 

My last example is based on "if" she lets herself go. Also note the reference to the "vast majority" of men who do include other criteria that equal but never trump, looks. Don't take it out of context and keep in mind, that looks are also subjective.

Agree.

 

You killed them, bitchez !

 

Please looks are just as important to women as men

Nope. Disagree.

[kizik]

It's partly because I'm most attracted to artistic/musical guys, and this look is the default for that crowd.

 

You'll find that the truly talented ones don't feel the need to advertise: "I'm a musician, look at me, I look like a musician!"

[New Again]

Funny, because I find guys like the type you described particularly sexy. Skinny pants, bright colored tshirts sneakers = <3. I like hipster boys. As long as their personalities are masculine.

 

*Shudders in horror and distaste.*

I could die happy if I never saw another man in skinny jeans and Chucks

 

But...at least we're not competing for the same guys!

[InspiredbyYou]

You killed them, bitchez !

 

 

 

Was going to say, they never existed. They have and always will be a figment of our immature imaginations. Real men is what men are, not what we see in fiction.

 

 

Shadowplay: now that's what I call a sexy man!! (your avie) yummy yum yum

[shadowplay]

Anathema :eek::eek:!

 

Male dress other than a suit should be outlawed and severely prosecuted.

 

Men don't understand what (some) young women like. Guys dress like this to get laid by hot art chicks. And it works.