Nichole Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Assume that everything else is a perfect match. Absolutely perfect. Soulmates, if you believe in that. You're not repulsed by the person, but you're not attracted to them physically, either. Thoughts?
Yukikazi Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Your choice if you can overlook the physical
Author Nichole Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 Your choice if you can overlook the physical Obviously. Overlooking is one thing. I'm questioning the possibility of falling in, and staying, in love.
kiss_andmakeup Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 For me personally, no. I must be physically attracted to my partner for the relationship to work.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Assume that everything else is a perfect match. Absolutely perfect. Soulmates, if you believe in that. You're not repulsed by the person, but you're not attracted to them physically, either. Thoughts? Long term relationship forever? NO
Jaytb Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Yeah, it seems more like a good friendship than a relationship.
Author Nichole Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 That's what I was afraid of. Thanks for the consensus, guys!
norajane Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 It is possible to fall in love with someone you aren't currently attracted to physically and become attracted to them physically - love goggles are just as strong as beer goggles. However, usually there's a compelling event which causes you to start seeing this perfect match in a different light than you do now. It can be something like seeing that person dating and cuddling up someone else and realizing how jealous you've become at the thought of anyone else having him...then it hits you that you are attracted to him. Or maybe seeing him in his element - doing something he does very well. There are guys at work that I may not give a second thought to, but I might see them in action and all confident and brilliant, and suddenly I see them in a different light and start considering them very attractive. But, I get turned on by brains! It could be something like seeing him caring for a child or puppy or something - there's something about seeing a good man's nurturing instinct in action that can make them very appealing. And hot. Or it can be something he does specifically to make you see him like a MAN instead of like just a friend...mild mannered soulmate friend might one day get tired of waiting for you and make a bold move, like pulling you into his arms when you least expect it and giving you one of those movie kisses that make your knees melt. Not only does the kiss melt you, but so does his action of taking control when you've been the one in control throughout the relationship. Basically, you have to start seeing him differently, other than the way you normally do.
Scarlett513 Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I've just been through this. Before I would have said it was possible, that if everything else is there, physical attraction is only a plus. But at this point I'm pretty sure that you can love someone without physical attraction, but you probably can't be "in love" with them without it.
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