Author tkgirl Posted December 5, 2009 Author Posted December 5, 2009 No it wont have cooled off, you took it too far. BUT good news, he just started testing the waters and most likely hasnt invested in you if at all, so hes not in as deep as you may think. You can easily tell him to stop, hes waiting for you to do that now. He will say "oh ok, thats cool." and it shouldnt be awkward after that. thanks.. I'm still trying to figure out what to say to him but I guess it will come to me when the time is right.... when something has to be said. I know he'll be cool with it but it still is hard for me... I feel bad that I may have led him on...
boogieboy Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 thanks.. I'm still trying to figure out what to say to him but I guess it will come to me when the time is right.... when something has to be said. I know he'll be cool with it but it still is hard for me... I feel bad that I may have led him on... Thats what you tell him. You feel bad that you led him on, but you didnt think it would go as far as it did. You dont like him like that because hes too young. Thats it.
Kamille Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 Hey! One bad experience with a younger guy shouldn't have you discounting all younger guys. Besides, what's wrong with 30 year olds? I love 30 year olds. Granted, I'm in my 30s myself but these cats are a great age group: mature with stamina! So, leaving age out of the equation, do you or don't you like this guy? See, from this thread, I can't tell if you're genuinely not interested or just stalling because you're afraid to get hurt. One thing is sure: you are stalling. Stalling at putting an end to it. Is it really because you like the attention and nothing more? If you don't like him, then listen to boogieboy, woman up and put a stop to it. And stop fooling yourself into thinking his attraction to you will magically disappear. Head out of the sand and address the situation head on. If you do like him, then don't use silly excuses (age) to dismiss a potential date.
stepka Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 My sis-in-law met her husband when they were the ages you are now, and they are very happy.
Author tkgirl Posted December 5, 2009 Author Posted December 5, 2009 Hey! One bad experience with a younger guy shouldn't have you discounting all younger guys. Besides, what's wrong with 30 year olds? I love 30 year olds. Granted, I'm in my 30s myself but these cats are a great age group: mature with stamina! So, leaving age out of the equation, do you or don't you like this guy? See, from this thread, I can't tell if you're genuinely not interested or just stalling because you're afraid to get hurt. One thing is sure: you are stalling. Stalling at putting an end to it. Is it really because you like the attention and nothing more? If you don't like him, then listen to boogieboy, woman up and put a stop to it. And stop fooling yourself into thinking his attraction to you will magically disappear. Head out of the sand and address the situation head on. If you do like him, then don't use silly excuses (age) to dismiss a potential date. I do like him... but as a friend. I just can't see myself "with him" ya know? Maybe it is the age thing, I don't know.... most of the guys I've dated in the last 10 years or so are usually younger. I guess I'm just ready for something different.. someone more "mature" than myself if that makes any sense. I kind of think he has more of a "crush" on me and of course I am flattered, but that's about it. And it's not like he's calling me now and asking me out or anything.. when I see him next week I'm sure things will be ok... it's just a little awkward because it's a very small department we work in and everyone knows each other etc. man, I learned my lesson... got to learn to control my sexy sometimes!
TheGuitarist Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 so there's this guy I work with... we hit it off right away, have had some great talks, laughs etc. and we joke around a lot about... well, sex... but I thought it was all innocent... I mean he's waaaay younger than me! I'm 44 and he's 30. Lately things are taking a different turn and I don't know what to do. I admit I sort of started it the other day when I had bought a muffin for breakfast at work and joked about giving him some of "my muffin" and we both laughed and he got all embarrassed. Now today he's telling me how he's attracted to me, likes my confidence etc. and that he "wants me"! I admit I am flattered but feel like he is way too young for me... now things are going to be weird with us... I was really enjoying our friendship and thought we were just having some fun... but now I think he's expecting something to really happen... help! I'm not going to sit here and say that you should give him a chance and that age doesn't mean a thing, because in all actuality it means a lot of things. I will, however, say that at my young age I have had relations with woman 14 years older than me. And that although limited by the age gap in some cases, the majority of them have been enjoyable for the both of us. Now onto the answer to your question. If you don't want him to continue on then just tell him. Send him an e-mail and say that "although you do enjoy the occasional flirting that you all are co-workers and due to that you all have to respect the work place"........Now I am not exactly sure of the extent to your flirting and I do see that you say that you have initiated so saying what I did in an e-mail may come of a little harsh. But if you want him to stop that is the way to do it.
Author tkgirl Posted December 5, 2009 Author Posted December 5, 2009 I'm not going to sit here and say that you should give him a chance and that age doesn't mean a thing, because in all actuality it means a lot of things. I will, however, say that at my young age I have had relations with woman 14 years older than me. And that although limited by the age gap in some cases, the majority of them have been enjoyable for the both of us. Now onto the answer to your question. If you don't want him to continue on then just tell him. Send him an e-mail and say that "although you do enjoy the occasional flirting that you all are co-workers and due to that you all have to respect the work place"........Now I am not exactly sure of the extent to your flirting and I do see that you say that you have initiated so saying what I did in an e-mail may come of a little harsh. But if you want him to stop that is the way to do it. yeah, I know have to say something... I've been trying not to think about it but just now I was reading our little text exchange from the other night, and although I don't really think I led him on I just didn't say anything to stop it.. I just wasn't sure how. And now I really think he's expecting something to happen with us... this sucks... but don't you think if he was really serious about all this that he'd call me or...? you know, make plans to get together? so maybe it's all innocent after all... I don't know...
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