tkgirl Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 so there's this guy I work with... we hit it off right away, have had some great talks, laughs etc. and we joke around a lot about... well, sex... but I thought it was all innocent... I mean he's waaaay younger than me! I'm 44 and he's 30. Lately things are taking a different turn and I don't know what to do. I admit I sort of started it the other day when I had bought a muffin for breakfast at work and joked about giving him some of "my muffin" and we both laughed and he got all embarrassed. Now today he's telling me how he's attracted to me, likes my confidence etc. and that he "wants me"! I admit I am flattered but feel like he is way too young for me... now things are going to be weird with us... I was really enjoying our friendship and thought we were just having some fun... but now I think he's expecting something to really happen... help!
Jerseyboy. Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Have to sleep with him now Only way to fix the situation
Lish Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 14 years isn't THAT big a difference, surely? Aslong as you both are mature adults, and try not to let whatever happens personally have an impact on your professional relationship, then I don't see why not? Do you find him attractive?
Author tkgirl Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 Have to sleep with him now Only way to fix the situation thanks jerseyboy! I wish I had your problem maybe I should introduce you two... he's cute! and way closer to your age... seriously guys, I don't know what to do.... right now we are texing back and forth and he's saying all these sweet things.. but really, he's waaaay too young!
Author tkgirl Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 14 years isn't THAT big a difference, surely? Aslong as you both are mature adults, and try not to let whatever happens personally have an impact on your professional relationship, then I don't see why not? Do you find him attractive? he is pretty cute... but to me he's a BOY... and right now I feel like I need a MAN.. I'm done with boys...
dreamergrl Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 thanks jerseyboy! maybe I should introduce you two... he's cute! and way closer to your age... seriously guys, I don't know what to do.... right now we are texing back and forth and he's saying all these sweet things.. but really, he's waaaay too young! No kidding?! And you didn't take a picture for me? It wouldn't work out though... he likes you
Jerseyboy. Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 he is pretty cute... but to me he's a BOY TOY. So degrading Women are pigs:mad:
Author tkgirl Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 So degrading Women are pigs:mad: you are so F-in' FUNNY jerseyboy... but wait.. that's what he called himself too... not me... I swear!
Lish Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 he is pretty cute... but to me he's a BOY... and right now I feel like I need a MAN.. I'm done with boys... You could always teach him the tricks that make him a man, you know.... with your muffin I'm awful
dreamergrl Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 TG - We gotta catch up, it seems as though we've got a similar problem
Jerseyboy. Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 No kidding?! And you didn't take a picture for me? It wouldn't work out though... he likes you She sent me a pic bragging about him, dont think hes your type http://izismile.com/img/img2/20090319/male_model_16.jpg
Author tkgirl Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 TG - We gotta catch up, it seems as though we've got a similar problem yeah we do.. two of them actually! I ran into "T" the other day.. but my feelings are doing ok
dreamergrl Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 yeah we do.. two of them actually! I ran into "T" the other day.. but my feelings are doing ok Oh geeze. We've got to do coffee or something. You never call anymore
Author tkgirl Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 She sent me a pic bragging about him, dont think hes your type http://izismile.com/img/img2/20090319/male_model_16.jpg I couldn't open the link... I'm sure it was hilarious though! anyho.. we just got done with a little texting right now and it ended with him saying he's glad he told me how he feels and I just wrote back "cool"... no response from him so he's probably processing it and we'll see what happens when we see each other next. We talked about going snowboarding next week and I still want to go because I think he is fun to hang out with... maybe we'll have a few drinks afterwards too and see what happens? what the hell...
Jerseyboy. Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I couldn't open the link... I'm sure it was hilarious though! anyho.. we just got done with a little texting right now and it ended with him saying he's glad he told me how he feels and I just wrote back "cool"... no response from him so he's probably processing it and we'll see what happens when we see each other next. We talked about going snowboarding next week and I still want to go because I think he is fun to hang out with... maybe we'll have a few drinks afterwards too and see what happens? what the hell... LOL JUst a male model photo Women are funny. Next week there will be a thread. Ok I slept with him, what now:)
dreamergrl Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I couldn't open the link... I'm sure it was hilarious though! anyho.. we just got done with a little texting right now and it ended with him saying he's glad he told me how he feels and I just wrote back "cool"... no response from him so he's probably processing it and we'll see what happens when we see each other next. We talked about going snowboarding next week and I still want to go because I think he is fun to hang out with... maybe we'll have a few drinks afterwards too and see what happens? what the hell... Does he have a hot brother or friend? We could double hahaha
Author tkgirl Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 LOL JUst a male model photo Women are funny. Next week there will be a thread. Ok I slept with him, what now:) yeah right! Does he have a hot brother or friend? We could double hahaha maybe he has a hot older friend and we could double and then swap!
billy356 Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Set him straight if you arent interested. Otherwise it is just going to get more awkward. It sounds like you wouldnt mind a casual relationship with him though so if that is true, a 30 yr old MAN is more than capable of processing that in a mature way. You are both old enough to be upfront about everything. Lay it all out (take that as you will)
boogieboy Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Youre FOURTY FOUR...why cant you tell him straight up that youre not interested? Cmon TK youre not that selfish that youre gonna keep this guy in limbo just because YOU need his company. Tell him youre not interested, you will never be because hes too young for you and whatever other reasons, and if he still wants to go snowboarding and it wont be awkward for him, then go ahead. You dont need a friend THAT bad.
BobSacamento Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Innocent flirting is an oxymoron. You learned that the hard way.
Author tkgirl Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 Youre FOURTY FOUR...why cant you tell him straight up that youre not interested? Cmon TK youre not that selfish that youre gonna keep this guy in limbo just because YOU need his company. Tell him youre not interested, you will never be because hes too young for you and whatever other reasons, and if he still wants to go snowboarding and it wont be awkward for him, then go ahead. You dont need a friend THAT bad. I hear ya.. and yeah, I don't want to lead him on at all... the thing is, I do like being with him and never thought any of this was going to happen... once the shock wears off I will think of a way to let him down easy... I just feel bad because I do care about this guy and yeah I know he'll get over it but it's still hard... and I guess a part of me likes the attention and the sweet things he was telling me tonight, but yeah.. he's too young and after the last guy I was with... who was only 4 years younger, but... I definitely know I need someone who's more on the same page as me, as far as where we are in our lives etc..
boogieboy Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I hear ya.. and yeah, I don't want to lead him on at all... the thing is, I do like being with him and never thought any of this was going to happen... once the shock wears off I will think of a way to let him down easy... I just feel bad because I do care about this guy and yeah I know he'll get over it but it's still hard... and I guess a part of me likes the attention and the sweet things he was telling me tonight, but yeah.. he's too young and after the last guy I was with... who was only 4 years younger, but... I definitely know I need someone who's more on the same page as me, as far as where we are in our lives etc.. YOu cant hang with him until he understands, and you need to tell him to stop flirting. You dont have to sugar coat it, just tell him the truth. Hes 30, he can handle it, an he will appreciate you for it. You might have to stop hanging with him though. if you care for him that much, do him a favor and let him know its not going to happen. Its not hard, youre making it harder than it is. Maybe its harder for you to let go of the attention youre getting?
Author tkgirl Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 YOu cant hang with him until he understands, and you need to tell him to stop flirting. You dont have to sugar coat it, just tell him the truth. Hes 30, he can handle it, an he will appreciate you for it. You might have to stop hanging with him though. if you care for him that much, do him a favor and let him know its not going to happen. Its not hard, youre making it harder than it is. Maybe its harder for you to let go of the attention youre getting? no, this new attention from him makes me a little uncomfortable actually... and I'm just a little weirded out by it because this basically all went down today and I'm still trying to process it all. I never thought anything like this was going to happen because he is so young (for me). I guess I took the joking/flirting too far and now he "wants me". I won't see him at work now until next week so maybe by then things will have cooled off some...
boogieboy Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 no, this new attention from him makes me a little uncomfortable actually... and I'm just a little weirded out by it because this basically all went down today and I'm still trying to process it all. I never thought anything like this was going to happen because he is so young (for me). I guess I took the joking/flirting too far and now he "wants me". I won't see him at work now until next week so maybe by then things will have cooled off some... No it wont have cooled off, you took it too far. BUT good news, he just started testing the waters and most likely hasnt invested in you if at all, so hes not in as deep as you may think. You can easily tell him to stop, hes waiting for you to do that now. He will say "oh ok, thats cool." and it shouldnt be awkward after that.
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