TaleSpin Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 (edited) So, this is regarding the Muslim guy I wrote about in my last post. As of a couple days ago, he doesn't want to be physical with me anymore. He's abstinent, but we were still having oral sex and such. Plus, he would stay over until the morning sometimes. Now, nothing. This came about after a party I had at my house. It was my birthday. He told me afterward that he thought I was being too possessive of him. He felt "like an object." So, he says we don't know each other well enough. He wants to talk and hang out without any romantic notions. I told him I have a really high sex drive and the fact that I was okay with not having sex is a miracle in and of itself. I don't think I can do this no physical gratification until further notice thing. Then, he brings up that he knows that I'll get tired of not having sex eventually and this is something he's been thinking about. I assured him that I had already thought the no sex issue through, and I have no intention of leaving him because of it. I just need something. Then, he says, "Oh. Well, we don't have to make a clear-cut decision." I don't know what's happening. I'm not possessive. When things go bad with someone I'm seeing, I usually get things like "cold," "insensitive," "distant," or "unapproachable." Not possessive. He says I was only possessive this one time though. He told me he needs to feel like there's something more keeping us together than my being hot. Haha. Then, he kept saying things like, "You're fun," "You're funny," "You say and do funny things." So, mostly he just uses different variations of the word fun to describe me. He briefly mentioned me drinking too much, which is understandable because I took this semester off and I have been drinking a lot. He doesn't drink at all. I'm not worried about this part too much because I know I won't drink as much once I'm in school again. Anyway! WTF!? What does "don't have to make a clear-cut decision" mean? Should I really continue this? I like this guy a lot, but... it seems like he's making things a lot more complicated than necessary. We haven't seen each other, but we've been talking and texting as if nothing happened. Everything seems fine. Blah, blah. He's beautiful. Suggestions? Edited December 3, 2009 by TaleSpin
Author TaleSpin Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 I guess I should post during normal hours. That would probably help.
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