kraken Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Now, I pass near her desk everyday, but have minimal interaction with her and was wondering just how to approach this. She's a secretary and I work in the mailroom on different floors. We've only been introduced and she's just my type and I am very finicky about women, so I don't have a chance to meet my type very often at all. I just couldn't live with myself if I let her pass me by. And I don't date much and am a little shy/coy about how to go about this. She seems to like me as she smiles and waves when we pass in the hallway, but I might be mistaking this for her just being friendly. Things that I'm wondering is how much conversation do I have to do to ask her out? As I said, I don't date much so I'm really clueless. How can I get her alone so I can have a good chance at talking with her for more than a "hi! how are you?" Is it stalkerish to wait by the kitchenette to see her pass when she's going to lunch to try and start up a conversation? She doesn't eat at the kitchenette, just passes by there on the way to the elevator. Would it be too forward to just email her talking about whatever subject? I usually feel like I'd need to have some business to talk with someone I don't know well at all.
Author kraken Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 Yea, tomorrow. But I'm not sure if she is going to go because she just started and the invite was given before she started. I suppose that's something I could ask her.
Author kraken Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 Bingo. My work is done here. The problem is that I'm really clueless about dating. I haven't gone out with someone in longer than I care to admit. So, I'd really appreciate someone addressing my questions. Your help is really appreciated in any case.
lucy9216 Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 The christmas party is perfect opportunity to get her know her better and show some interest! but if she doesent show for the party you could start with little things like "hey I am going to mcdonalds, you want anything?" or better "would you like to join?" pretty simple. I dated someone I worked with for 7 years, I was the receptionist and he worked grave yard shift so I rarely ever saw him! but I would occassionally get the feeling he liked me with little comments here and there. One day he invited me and my brother to a house warming party to a place he just moved too. While I was there he confessed his crush towards me I was completely flattered and returned the feelings towards him... So there, start off slow and you will get there.
dazzle22 Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 First of all, I am a woman, so you know who is speaking here. I would definitely just engage her in small talk and some conversations before asking her out. Just be cool, don't act nervous, women are kind of like dogs, they sense fear. Ha ha. Just talk to her as you go by like you would to someone you are not interested in, casual, something like, "hey, how are ya? We have GOT to stop meeting like this! People will talk" I have a very high powered stressful job, and my next in command would often ask me how do you do it? You always act cool and like you know what to do! I told her, I just ACT like I know exactly what I'm doing and what to do, throw in some humor, and people are reassured by that and go with it! It's true! Women like men who are cool, have a great sense of humor and are gentlemen. If you have great manners it will take you a long way. Did you ever see the movie "Dirty Rotten Scoundrels". (Not that I am suggesting you should be a scoundrel), but do you remember how the Michael Caine character was? Now, THAT is cool. Just some ideas...hope this helps.
TheEvilEdge7 Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Don't do it! In these days of sexual harassment charges and claims, you're rolling the dice. Things might work out, or you could end up unemployed. Will you take that chance? Familiarize yourself with the saying: Don't eat where you sh-t.
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