espec10001 Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Really sucks! Being forced to go to dinner parties with coworkers and their wives is the worst crap. Listening to them talk about their favorite tv shows and what color carpets they want for their house makes me want to shoot myself. It makes me really hate this time of year. It's not so bad for the rest of the year but for some reason the winter holidays really pounds it into you that you are single. Who's with me?
kizik Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I used to be with you, but I'm in heaven now. I'm single during the holidays, and it's a big relief. No presents to buy, no awkward dinners with the GF's parents, no nothing. I'm gonna put some lights up around my apartment, put on "The Grinch" and drink a glass of whiskey. Awesome.
woopster638 Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 i;m kinda with you..........and kizik's got a good too lol
carhill Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I had 20+ years of being 'single' though the holidays. TBH, it is during those times where I had my greatest adventures, heading off into the world to see how others celebrated. This year, I think I'll go camping and drown some worms. It only 'sucks' if you let it. I have no family left and am going through a divorce. Perspective is everything. Best wishes and happy holidays
kizik Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 It only 'sucks' if you let it. I have no family left and am going through a divorce. Perspective is everything. Best wishes and happy holidays Listen to carhill, he's older and wiser than us all
Sam Spade Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Listen to carhill, he's older and wiser than us all Older, wiser, and badder (don't let the smooth talk fool'ya).
USMCHokie Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I had 20+ years of being 'single' though the holidays. TBH, it is during those times where I had my greatest adventures, heading off into the world to see how others celebrated. This year, I think I'll go camping and drown some worms. It only 'sucks' if you let it. I have no family left and am going through a divorce. Perspective is everything. Best wishes and happy holidays Quoted for truth...this Christmas and New Years, I'm going on a cruise by myself, then hanging out with good friends from college down in Florida for a week or two...as much as I'd love to spend it with someone (especially my ex...), sometimes I miss just hitting the road on my own...
northstar1 Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I didn't mind being single at all during the holidays. More time for me to have drinks, watch movies and play my xbox in peace.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Yeah, it's really nice not to have to deal with in-laws/in-law types. They can be very annoying. My misfit friends and I always do fun stuff for the holidays (like eat pot brownies and gorge on turkey dinner).
New Again Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I've always enjoyed being single, regardless of the time of year...but I definitely enjoyed being single even more during the holidays. Way too much added stress, having to accommodate two families, the extra shopping for that "special" gift...
phineas Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Getting divorced. TBH it's real nice not having the in-law to deal with on my vacation.
kizik Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Way too much added stress, having to accommodate two families, the extra shopping for that "special" gift... Exactly. Am I deluding myself, trying to make myself feel better for not having an S.O.? Often times, yes. In this case, though, the running around, the money (I am poor), that uncomfortable need to be liked by the S.O.'s parents... ugggh. No thanks. Maybe next year, if one of you cuties is lucky enough to meet me.
dreamergrl Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I don't mind it one bit. I can't visit family for the holidays, but my best friend includes me in her family's holiday stuff. That's enough for me
Dark_of_the_Moon Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Perspective....must remind myself that.... My contribution to the holidays is I put lights up. I'm done....ready for next year now....*grin*
kizik Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 My contribution to the holidays is I put lights up. I'm done....ready for next year now....*grin* Heck yes. Gives me that warm childhood feeling. Or is that porn?
sedgwick Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I spend my holidays with friends. I'm really lucky to have a lot of amazing people around me, and the holidays are a time to just get everybody together in a room and hang out. This time of year depresses the hell out of me if I go home and spend it with my family, because I'm the only single one, but if I stay in NYC with my friends I have a blast.
carhill Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 BTW, during the decade I was married, I enjoyed the holidays then as well. My stbx showed me a bit of 'normalcy' with a large, drama-filled family. Unfortunately, my mom was ill during most of those years so she didn't get to really see 'our' way, but that's OK; I've got the memories. There's an open house at my mom's facility in a couple of weeks. I think I'll go, hold some hands and schmooze some nurses For the first time in awhile, I'm looking forward to throwing up the tree, decorating a bit and putting some cinnamon sticks in the pot on the fireplace insert. Just me and the cat BTW, I'm not older and wiser, but rather have just given up all hope Think about the families of those Lakewood police officers who were murdered and all of our young men and women overseas in harm's way. We have a lot to be thankful for. Life is precious. Take care!
kizik Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Think about the families of those Lakewood police officers who were murdered and all of our young men and women overseas in harm's way. We have a lot to be thankful for. Life is precious. Take care! My friend, I appreciate your perspective and wish you the best of holidays.
mortensorchid Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 It's not so bad during the holiday season. In fact it's without a lot of hassles that others tend to have. You can do whatever you like when others tend to have to endure insipid holiday parties with coworkers or family. Spend a little time with the parents and then you can do other things with friends, having your alternative holiday celebrations and no relatives to offend. Don't sweat it. Someday you will have holiday obligations that you have to go through and will wish for the good old days when you didn't have to do them.
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