pdq Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I know I talked about this before in another thread a little while back, but I seem to be asked this question a lot from women online: "What are your guilty pleasures?" I guess I am looking for the holy grail answer, safe, non offensive, but a little tantilizing. So I came up with: "I eat chocolate. How, when, and where? I'll leave that to your imagination ;)" I know all women are different, but what do you think? Also, when a woman asks a man "What are you most grateful for?" what is she testing for? THX
CarrieT Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 These questions are a total crap-shoot. On that "what are you most grateful for" question, when a guy says "my kids," I completely tune out. I want a guy who will ultimately be totally into me and not his children -- selfish, I know, but that's just me. Other women are going to answer the completely opposite: Having a guy who cares about his children might be the Holy Grail for them because it does show caring and compassion. To me, it will depict divided interests. See how hard all this is!?!?
BobSacamento Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 If you are going to admit a guilty pleasure make it harmless. For example: One of my guilty pleasures is that I love listening to Def Leppard. I would never admit that in public lol.
New Again Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I know I talked about this before in another thread a little while back, but I seem to be asked this question a lot from women online: "What are your guilty pleasures?" I guess I am looking for the holy grail answer, safe, non offensive, but a little tantilizing. So I came up with: "I eat chocolate. How, when, and where? I'll leave that to your imagination ;)" I know all women are different, but what do you think? Also, when a woman asks a man "What are you most grateful for?" what is she testing for? THX I think you need to stop thinking about these questions as "tests" that you need to pass and that have "right" answers and just take them at face value: women trying to find out more about you so they can determine if they are interested or compatible with you. Therefore, it is beneficial for you to answer honestly and in a way that actually describes you and who you are. That would probably solve a lot of problems for you, including the one that Carrie pointed out: there is no pleasing everyone. People's preferences differ. Just to further underscore that point: if you told me your guilty pleasure was eating chocolate, regardless of the cute way in which you answer that question, I would probably rule you out. Not that men can't enjoy chocolate, but 1. the way you worded the answer is decidedly feminine (in my mind) and 2. I'm really not into junk food and I would worry that you were and our lifestyles probably wouldn't mesh well. Same thing if your answer was bubble baths, manicures, or anything else I associate with women and feminine behavior (sure, call me sexist or whatever, but that's the way I am). Ditto on the second question about what you're most grateful for. There is no "right" answer, nor is there a universally pleasing answer. The only way to "win" so to speak is to answer honestly.
BobSacamento Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 It seems like your more interested in tricking women than revealing yourself.
Author pdq Posted December 2, 2009 Author Posted December 2, 2009 Yeah, your probably right. So I sent a different response.
Boundary Problem Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I know I talked about this before in another thread a little while back, but I seem to be asked this question a lot from women online: "What are your guilty pleasures?" I guess I am looking for the holy grail answer, safe, non offensive, but a little tantilizing. So I came up with: "I eat chocolate. How, when, and where? I'll leave that to your imagination ;)" I know all women are different, but what do you think? Also, when a woman asks a man "What are you most grateful for?" what is she testing for? THX Guilty pleasures - as a woman I would never ask a man that online. Sounds too sexual. "How about I take several short vacations during the year". That way you answer truthfully, but it takes sex out of the equation. Shows her you like to have fun, but in moderation and she might start imagining herself traveling with you. Most grateful for - Say something about how good your job is. That way you get to show her you are responsible. Use her questions to tell her what you want her to know about you. ie turn it around on her. And use it as an oportunity to make a sales pitch. Just because someone asks you a question, doesn't mean you have to answer it. Give the information/answer that you choose to give. ie control the flow of info. Give the right info, and she will be in the palm of your hand. Who cares why she is asking the questions.
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