Chubbi Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Oh boy. I know I'm going to get it now, especially on this forum but here's a question. Knock yourselves out. Look, people. I don't pee with someone looking at me. I don't pee with my clothes off with someone looking at me. I would need some incredible security with a person to pee, with my clothes off, and have them looking at me, standing close beside me, and rubbng up against. Get the question now? So, why in the world would I have sex with someone I barely know? Nowadays, people have sex with people on the third date/ first date/ etc. How is that? But here is the bigger question: When I met my friend, I knew within a week she would be my friend. I called her my friend. It didn't take 6 weeks. So, why then does it take at least 2 months before some people call others their boyfriend/girlfriend? But yet,apparently, they can pee naked in front of these people. I don't get it.
Sam Spade Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Well, I wouldn't consider myself "in relationship" until after sleeping together has happened.
Author Chubbi Posted December 2, 2009 Author Posted December 2, 2009 Hey Sam: It’s true you have formed close relationships with people without sleeping with them right? So why then is it obligatory for you to sleep with someone to feel intimate? It can’t be that sex equals intimacy. Because if that was the case, wouldn’t porn stars fall in love with their mates? Wouldn’t porn stars show believe their job as intimate? What is it about sex that makes it sometimes, a determining point of intimacy, and other times, well nothing just a rump in the sack? Can it be that as a society we have normalized sex so much that without it, there is nothing. Everything it seems leads to the climax of sex, and everything else is just fodder, filler episodes in anime. Like so many movies now showing on Tv it seems it is mandatory for the video or the movie to have some scene involving sex or there won’t be a movie at all. And why come this isn’t questioned? Wouldn’t it be better if love was more normalized than sex? Also, this is my question pertinent to you, do you feel as if, if you don’t have sex with the girl, you will be ridiculed? As in, you would feel demasculinized by your friends or by the girl herself? I’m asking is there a pressure to do so?
The Collector Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 As a man, I have to pee in front of strangers every time I visit a public bathroom.
kiss_andmakeup Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I wouldn't really want to be in a relationship with someone unless I knew we were sexually compatible. Everyone is different, ya know. The difference between you and I is that I consider sex to be one of my top 5 (if not 3) most important traits in a compatible partner. And you consider it to be, well, akin to peeing.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 *shrug* It seems to be pretty common across the Atlantic, from what I've heard. Different cultures are going to have different feelings about it. You've made your social conditioning clear - other people may have a different conditioning.
Recommended Posts