McGrupp Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 met this girl at a party. then again at a bar. get the number. text her the following Saturday if she wants to get a drink. she says cant. ok ive been blown off. cool. then she says next saturday is cool for her. so fast forward next week (shouldve called during the week) i hit her up saturday. u want to get that drink. she doesnt respond. i call her. no pick up. whatever. go to the bar and she shows up. i ignore her although she def sees me. act like im having a ball. fast forward night b4 thanksgiving i see her. pretty drunk. i say hey u wanna get that drink? (i dont remeber what she said) distracted i walk away. hit her up this last saturday. just lay it out there. "u wana get drunk?" she, got plans in town. ok. go out do my own thing. text her later "hows the bar" she says it cool. i ask if i should come by. she says yes. never make it there. then she texts me "leaving now" i text back, i guess we will never chill. her, "we should" god i feel like im in high school. do i even care anymore (yes i do) i think my move is to just run into her.
DustySaltus Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 i'm getting dizzy reading this. corner her next time you see her and call her on her bs
New Again Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 met this girl at a party. then again at a bar. get the number. text her the following Saturday if she wants to get a drink. she says cant. ok ive been blown off. cool. then she says next saturday is cool for her. so fast forward next week (shouldve called during the week) i hit her up saturday. u want to get that drink. she doesnt respond. i call her. no pick up. whatever. go to the bar and she shows up. i ignore her although she def sees me. act like im having a ball. fast forward night b4 thanksgiving i see her. pretty drunk. i say hey u wanna get that drink? (i dont remeber what she said) distracted i walk away. hit her up this last saturday. just lay it out there. "u wana get drunk?" she, got plans in town. ok. go out do my own thing. text her later "hows the bar" she says it cool. i ask if i should come by. she says yes. never make it there. then she texts me "leaving now" i text back, i guess we will never chill. her, "we should" god i feel like im in high school. do i even care anymore (yes i do) i think my move is to just run into her. It sounds like you are just trying to bang her and she's not interested. How can you blame her for that?
Author McGrupp Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 i mean maybe, idk. i would like to bang her. i want to take her out (that was the initial plan) but she seems like she just wants to hit up bars.
New Again Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 (edited) i mean maybe, idk. i would like to bang her. i want to take her out (that was the initial plan) but she seems like she just wants to hit up bars. No, from reading your OP it's very clear to me that you're the one who just wants to hit up bars, and I don't see any indication whatsoever that you actually want to take her out on a date. I'm a girl, and if that's what I'm seeing, I bet that's what she's seeing as well (if she's smart anyways, and it sounds as though she is). met this girl at a party. then again at a bar. get the number. text her the following Saturday if she wants to get a drink. See? You didn't call her and ask her out to dinner, or for a coffee date...or even to go get a drink, I suppose. If you want to ask a girl out, don't text her. The combination of texting and the wanting to get a drink screams SEX, casual relationship, booty-call. Additionally, you asked her on a Saturday - depending on your age, this is generally a going out to bars with friends night, not a date night - especially in the early stages of dating/a relationship. Next time you should call and ask her on a real date during the day or early evening, preferably Sunday through Thursday, not Friday or Saturday. Unless it's a lunch date or something, then Saturday is okay. she says cant. ok ive been blown off. cool. then she says next saturday is cool for her. That's not a blow off. Just FYI. so fast forward next week (shouldve called during the week) i hit her up saturday. u want to get that drink. she doesnt respond. i call her. no pick up. Why should you have called during the week? To confirm plans? Since you haven't been on an actual date yet, that should be the only reason to call her at this point. Good, you recognize that TEXTING her ON THE DAY YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO GET TOGETHER to confirm was a huge mistake. She probably didn't respond or answer her phone because she was annoyed or had written you off at that point. But that also depends on the timeframe of how long you waited to call her after texting her. whatever. go to the bar and she shows up. i ignore her although she def sees me. act like im having a ball. That was rude of you. fast forward night b4 thanksgiving i see her. pretty drunk. i say hey u wanna get that drink? (i dont remeber what she said) distracted i walk away. hit her up this last saturday. just lay it out there. "u wana get drunk?" she, got plans in town. At this point I'm having a hard time taking your post seriously. ok. go out do my own thing. text her later "hows the bar" she says it cool. i ask if i should come by. she says yes. never make it there. then she texts me "leaving now" i text back, i guess we will never chill. her, "we should" I am still incredulous. god i feel like im in high school. do i even care anymore (yes i do) Well, you're acting like you're in high school. i think my move is to just run into her. If this is a real post, and you actually want to see her (or even try to hook up with her) your next move should be to call her and ask her out for coffee, lunch, dinner, etc. Edited December 1, 2009 by New Again
Author McGrupp Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 ok thanks. been out of the game forever. so im just geting my feet wet
dreamergrl Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 There's a theme going on here... see the bolded... met this girl at a party. then again at a bar. get the number. text her the following Saturday if she wants to get a drink. she says cant. ok ive been blown off. cool. then she says next saturday is cool for her. Just because she has plans doesn't mean she blew you off... seeing how as she gave your a time that would work for her. so fast forward next week (shouldve called during the week) i hit her up saturday. u want to get that drink. she doesnt respond. i call her. no pick up. You wait till that day to make plans? She probably assumed you weren't going and made other plans. whatever. go to the bar and she shows up. i ignore her although she def sees me. act like im having a ball. You then ignore her, and start playing a game. fast forward night b4 thanksgiving i see her. pretty drunk. i say hey u wanna get that drink? (i dont remeber what she said) distracted i walk away. hit her up this last saturday. just lay it out there. "u wana get drunk?" she, got plans in town. So far all you've done is try to get drunk with her. I don't blame her for having other plans. ok. go out do my own thing. text her later "hows the bar" she says it cool. i ask if i should come by. she says yes. never make it there. then she texts me "leaving now" i text back, i guess we will never chill. her, "we should" She decides to invite you off, despite all the crap that's been going on, when you ask if you should stop by, then you don't show up? Then you make the statement "guess we'll never chill". You had your chance and you effed it up. god i feel like im in high school. do i even care anymore (yes i do) i think my move is to just run into her. Why so you can ignore her or just ask to get her drunk? I agree with NA. You just want to bang her. You make no real attempt at taking her out on a date.
Author McGrupp Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 you guys are right. should i ask her out this week? or is it to far gone
dreamergrl Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 you guys are right. should i ask her out this week? or is it to far gone I think you have a 50/50 shot. Don't ask her to go drinking though.
New Again Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 you guys are right. should i ask her out this week? or is it to far gone Well when you made a whiny passive aggressive comment ("guess we'll never hang out" - which btw is all on you and not at all on her), she responded with "we should," so I can only assume that she hasn't entirely written you off yet. Call her and ask her out for coffee or lunch or something.
Author McGrupp Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 yeah i regretted that text. i should also mention she went out of her way to introduce herself to my lil sis at that pre thanksgiving shin dig. my lil sis told me after the fact, some girl came up and talked to her and she (my sister) had no idea who she was
Boundary Problem Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Sounds like she's interested. Try a little harder and a little less drinking focused activities and she'll probably come around. But it sounds like you looking for a drinking buddy to fit in with your lifestyle to be honest. escapism..........
DustySaltus Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 just talk to her face to face and you'll know fairly quickly
EricaH329 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I just see disaster written all over this. It does sound like you aren't really taking this too seriously, which, in my opinion, would be the best way to go about it. Are you really ready to start dating again? I love you to death McGrupp, but IMHO you are not ready for any form of romantic relationship right now. Going out and having fun is awesome, and definitely something i'm glad you are doing, but anything more than that is just going to lead to more insecurities right now.
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