so_mo34 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 girls..have you ever been used by a guy who you really liked for sex? i made the mistake of hooking up with a guy i work with (different departments) and then i ended up falling for him even though he was just using me for sex. i would still continue to see him cause i liked him so much! i am 21 and he is 35. now he has lost interest in me, but i still have to see him at work. he still talks to me and stuff, but how am i supposed to get over a guy i have to see all the time? i really don't want to quit my job because i have friends there. it's just a part-time job while i'm finishing off school so it's not my career job or anything but still i really don't want to leave! has anyone else been used and if so how did you get over it? i feel so worthless
norajane Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 It might help to stop feeling used if you focus on the fact that you chose to have sex with him. He didn't trick you - you wanted to and you did. There's nothing wrong with that. And you chose to have sex without knowing that you would fall for him. It might have gone a different way, right? You might have had sex and thought, ok, that was nice, but I'm not really into him. Had he fallen for you, the tables would be turned right now and he might feel you used him. That's all he did, too. Just because he didn't fall for you doesn't mean he used you, not any more than you used him. He might have fallen for you, but he didn't, so now he thinks of it as just a little fling and that's that. So should you.
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