MissJoness Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Yeah, when is it appropriate to spend an evening with a guy at his place, or to invite him over yours? In the past I've done this immediately but I hear this isn't a good idea
Pizzaman81 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Yeah, when is it appropriate to spend an evening with a guy at his place, or to invite him over yours? In the past I've done this immediately but I hear this isn't a good idea Usually unless you are sure he has got most of the attributes you would like in a potential mate. My ex invited me to her place on our second date. We ended up sleeping together. Which then leads to a dangerous thing called a relationship.
a_Lien34 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I'm not a woman, but if I were you I'd be careful with this. If you're inviting him over, he's probably thinking you're giving an OK for sex. So if you aren't doing this, I'd say find something else to do for a date. Set up your boundaries in as smooth a way as you can.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 My ex invited me to her place on our second date. We ended up sleeping together. Which then leads to a dangerous thing called a relationship. Ha. Not always. But I'd say I'd have to be pretty comfortable with the guy as a person and know his motives (does he want sex, or is he interested in a relationship) before I'd invite him over to my place. But I also agree with others - if you invite a guy to your house, be prepared that he's going to think "sex."
Sam Spade Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Well, as a guy I typically expect the dinner at home date to happen by date 5 or 6, sometimes as early as 3. Also, you're hot . I have no idea what were all these threads "I'm homely" all about a few months back
justforfun Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Well, as a guy I typically expect the dinner at home date to happen by date 5 or 6, sometimes as early as 3. Bloody hell! You're patient aren't you Sam? How about she invites you over for date #2 and ONLY because $ex is on offer?
justforfun Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 In the past I've done this immediately but I hear this isn't a good idea Immediately?
Sam Spade Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Bloody hell! You're patient aren't you Sam? How about she invites you over for date #2 and ONLY because $ex is on offer? I'd bite, no problem, but it has never happened. I think at least 3 dates is reasonable, since dinner at home is formulaic and generally implies at least making out , and I'm way too grumpy and aloof to elicit panty creaming earlier than that . I'm sure others do better than that. But more than 3 dates, and even my generally timid gf admitted to have started questioning if I'm not gay or a "nice guy". So I basically caught the last train at date 6, plus I had to deploy all the mad skillz up my sleeve to prove otherwise .
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