pandagirl Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Guys, when you message a lady on a dating site, please don't send a one sentence email stating one of the following: - Hey Beautiful - You are really cute - I love your eyes - All of the above. The best way to get a woman to reply to your message is to take time to read a woman's profile and write a brief, but thoughtful, message pertaining to something she wrote. I delete all messages that solely comment on what I look like!
DustySaltus Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 What about, hey q t, how ya doin? r u likin wut u c? lol Punctuation kills it for me.
thegreatmoose Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Guys, when you message a lady on a dating site, please don't send a one sentence email stating one of the following: - Hey Beautiful - You are really cute - I love your eyes - All of the above. The best way to get a woman to reply to your message is to take time to read a woman's profile and write a brief, but thoughtful, message pertaining to something she wrote. I delete all messages that solely comment on what I look like! I'd think or at least hope any decent man knows not to use those. I've never one used them. It is so easy to know what NOT to say. What more specifically do you like in a first email? Is several sentences ideal?
Devil Inside Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 So I guess my standard opening line of: "Hey good looking I think I love you...lets have sex." is probably not going to get much play?
Bejita463 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I just say whatever is on my mind. I do not contact people who do not interest me in some way, so whatever I feel like saying will be relevant as a result. If I feel like being wordy, I do so. If I do not, I do not. I try to avoid making it too long though. It is kind of like a resume. You want your message to stand out, but it won't do that if they take one look and think "I'm not reading that."
Yukikazi Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Guys, when you message a lady on a dating site, please don't send a one sentence email stating one of the following: - Hey Beautiful - You are really cute - I love your eyes - All of the above. The best way to get a woman to reply to your message is to take time to read a woman's profile and write a brief, but thoughtful, message pertaining to something she wrote. I delete all messages that solely comment on what I look like! That don't really work too well either. Guys you gotta say something that will catch her eye and make her laugh.. show her you are funny and confident.. you got about 5 sentences to do it in.. it is possible. When a girl has a choice between a vanilla everyday dude sending a 2 paragraph email or a funny eye catching email from a confident and entertaining guy.. who do you think they is gonna respond to?
sumdude Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Considering that I sent short yet thoughtful e-mails with a least some humor and still never get a response I must consider that something in my profile isn't working for them, they're not serious or they're getting so many responses they don't bother responding to anything other than the especially attractive ones.
Yukikazi Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Keep in mind some are just there to attention whore
Art_Critic Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I delete all messages that solely comment on what I look like! but what if you are hott!!! I always did what you mentioned to do.. although I never sent an email unless I was able to interject humor in the email so they could start to see thru the online profile and start to see who I really am... Sometimes women would be a little too serious about their own profile that they never let any openings for humor.. So maybe a little tip might also be for the Women who write their own profiles to leave a little something in there for a humorous guy to grab and run with.. you will find your emails at the very least more entertaining. Humor... All women want to have fun on dates and go out with guys that make them laugh.. Make 'em laugh and they melt in you hands..
Art_Critic Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Keep in mind some are just there to attention whore That's the most brilliant thing on this thread so far
Pizzaman81 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I usually point out something in their profile, which signifies that I read their profile and I have valid questions. Approaching someone online is very different than in person, in person you can say "hey cutie" blah blah, Online is different. You actually have to read.
Lost-n-confused Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Just about every girl checks out my profile after I email them. Most don't reply thou. I agree a lot are attention whores. I cant get a good looking girl to respond only your average plain Jane responds.
D-Lish Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Punctuation is important to me. I am turned off by: UR so hawt. I am turned off by: your so hot. I am alright with: You're so hot. BUT, if I don't like the pictures- I don't respond regardless. If I get a long e-mail, I scroll down to look at the pic first- if I like the pic, I then read the e-mail- if there is nothing offensive in the e-mail- I then respond to it. That's the bottom line. A picture can be very telling as well. Even a good looking guy can ruin a profile with a shirtless flexing photo or a photo with him at a bar with a girl in a boobie top. If a guy has six pic's- but they are all of him at a bar looking bombed- it doesn't matter how attractive he is- it's not what I am looking for so I move on.
Art_Critic Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I cant get a good looking girl to respond only your average plain Jane responds. You have to show them that you are a fun guy.. if you just email them with Hi.. they won't reply.. Make any woman.. hot or not laugh and you will get a date 95% of the time.. even if your looks are not on the same plane as hers.. The other thing is to look at a woman's profile as more than a picture.. you just mentioned hot women not responding to you.. Are these hot women matches to you in the respect of are you what they are looking for ? Many men just look a woman's picture and hit send on an email only be be upset when they don't reply but since they never read the profile to find out that you both weren't a match it would be the person who didn't read the profiles problem
Sith Apprentice Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I don't contact women online. It's a waste of time. I have a carefully crafted ad to make them come to me. I've slept with over 20 women from match.com over the past 2 years. Here's my add for all you AFC's to take note: Here is a well thought out idea of what kind of gal I am interested in...5' 5" or taller, but not over 6 feet (because while I don't mind being eye to eye with you, I won't ever be looking up to you), lives close enough to be at my house within 10 minutes after I make the call, genuinely passionate, intelligent enough to be good company, sexually available (preferably insatiable) and VERY attractive - we're talking Jessica Alba, Keyra Augustina attractive - women with a bodyfat percentage higher than 8% need not apply. Must be employed but not so as you'll interfere with our sexual activities, FAMILY oriented, but only after you've hit 30-33, open to spontaneous sex (you know, like outdoor stuff or a surprise 3 way with one of your hot girlfriends after our 2nd martini), likes to camp (in the nude), knows not to complain when I go play golf with the guys from work. She must want children after 33 years of age if at all, and only after she's proven to be a good mother and faithful wife, must be a lady with class and know when the right time is to speak and not to speak, not a prude or b!tch, can take the first hint, sociable, unexpectedly calls to tell me she's wearing something new from Fredericks of Hollywood, understands that the best gift she can give me is expressing her desire to ***k me like a wild animal, and also understands that gifts for her are treats or rewards for desired behavior. Must be respectful of my decisions being final, can't take herself too seriously and thinks the world of me. I'm not interested in anyone over 30 (since this is most women's expiration date anyway), she cannot have exhorbitant spending habits or a credit debtload in excess of $1,000 since I do not plan on changing the lifestyle I have grown accustom to and hope to one day be able to send my own children to college, and furthermore... my children will be taught to reasonably earn their achievements on their own and respect the decisions of their father and mother (and absolutely will not be spoiled brats either). She should also know that not only are most pets abject money pits, but more often than not are adopted by women in order to give themselves something to occupy them rather than connecting with their husbands. I'm very attracted to redheads, blondes, brunettes, Latinos, Asians, African-Americans, Pacific Islanders, etc., pretty much any woman that meets my physical requirements. I am not attracted at all to even slightly fat women no matter how much "inner beauty" you think you may possess, sorry tee hee!
Vertex Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 (edited) *is wondering what pandagirl DOES look like irl* Haha, but seriously, I would assume anyone with a brain wouldn't bother replying with such trite/flat responses. I have yet to create a good picture for myself... I don't think I am very photogenic at all. Then again, I really wouldn't want anyone replying to me just because of looks (I'd rather someone like me because they feel our personal qualities are a good match), but it's important to many girls that at least a dude isn't horribly ugly or something. Then again, I don't think I have to worry about girls contacting me off looks alone, haha! Unfortunately, lol. Maybe they like squirrels or something instead? Fun to watch: Info's fairly obvious and straightforward... hard to concentrate, though. Edited December 1, 2009 by Vertex
Author pandagirl Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 *is wondering what pandagirl DOES look like irl* Haha. I'm nothing special to look at, but all people have preferences, and I'm sure I am some peoples' types! Oh, and I am Asian, but not typical looking, IMO.
Art_Critic Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Here's my add for all you AFC's to take note: Boy.. I'll bet you have to beat the women off with a stick with that ad
kizik Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Here is a well thought out idea of what kind of gal I am interested in...5' 5" or taller, but not over 6 feet (because while I don't mind being eye to eye with you, I won't ever be looking up to you), lives close enough to be at my house within 10 minutes after I make the call, genuinely passionate, intelligent enough to be good company, sexually available (preferably insatiable) and VERY attractive - we're talking Jessica Alba, Keyra Augustina attractive - women with a bodyfat percentage higher than 8% need not apply. Must be employed but not so as you'll interfere with our sexual activities, FAMILY oriented, but only after you've hit 30-33, open to spontaneous sex (you know, like outdoor stuff or a surprise 3 way with one of your hot girlfriends after our 2nd martini), likes to camp (in the nude), knows not to complain when I go play golf with the guys from work. She must want children after 33 years of age if at all, and only after she's proven to be a good mother and faithful wife, must be a lady with class and know when the right time is to speak and not to speak, not a prude or b!tch, can take the first hint, sociable, unexpectedly calls to tell me she's wearing something new from Fredericks of Hollywood, understands that the best gift she can give me is expressing her desire to ***k me like a wild animal, and also understands that gifts for her are treats or rewards for desired behavior. Must be respectful of my decisions being final, can't take herself too seriously and thinks the world of me. I'm not interested in anyone over 30 (since this is most women's expiration date anyway), she cannot have exhorbitant spending habits or a credit debtload in excess of $1,000 since I do not plan on changing the lifestyle I have grown accustom to and hope to one day be able to send my own children to college, and furthermore... my children will be taught to reasonably earn their achievements on their own and respect the decisions of their father and mother (and absolutely will not be spoiled brats either). She should also know that not only are most pets abject money pits, but more often than not are adopted by women in order to give themselves something to occupy them rather than connecting with their husbands. I'm very attracted to redheads, blondes, brunettes, Latinos, Asians, African-Americans, Pacific Islanders, etc., pretty much any woman that meets my physical requirements. I am not attracted at all to even slightly fat women no matter how much "inner beauty" you think you may possess, sorry tee hee! Is this for real? If not, you are comic genius. If so, you are unintentionally hilarious.
alphamale Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Guys, when you message a lady on a dating site, please don't send a one sentence email stating one of the following: - Hey Beautiful - You are really cute - I love your eyes - All of the above. The best way to get a woman to reply to your message is to take time to read a woman's profile and write a brief, but thoughtful, message pertaining to something she wrote. I delete all messages that solely comment on what I look like! since women are in charge of the online dating scam you men all better heed this warning
BobSacamento Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 since women are in charge of the online dating scam you men all better heed this warning They at least like to think that...but in reality time is on our side.
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