bac Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I have tried to have sex with a man, 27 for the first time. I am in 40s. We did not know each other well. We were writing emails for a while. We came to my place and we spent there 3-4 hrs. Interestingly, he had no erection all the time, not even once, but he was very wet down. Kisses/touches were good and he told me that it was not because of me, but it was normal for him to have this problem because he got nervous. He actually wrote me about that in emails before meeting me. He is straight. When I asked him to have orgasm, he mas...ted with very little erection and he had an orgasm. I have never seen smth like that before in guys in 20s. Is there any hope that he would be able to be hard someday? Is he going to be like that all the time? Any suggestions? I would like to meet him again but I do not want him experience erectile dysfunction.
dudet Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I have tried to have sex with a man, 27 for the first time. I am in 40s. We did not know each other well. We were writing emails for a while. We came to my place and we spent there 3-4 hrs. Interestingly, he had no erection all the time, not even once, but he was very wet down. Kisses/touches were good and he told me that it was not because of me, but it was normal for him to have this problem because he got nervous. He actually wrote me about that in emails before meeting me. He is straight. When I asked him to have orgasm, he mas...ted with very little erection and he had an orgasm. I have never seen smth like that before in guys in 20s. Is there any hope that he would be able to be hard someday? Is he going to be like that all the time? Any suggestions? I would like to meet him again but I do not want him experience erectile dysfunction. did you meet him from a dating site?
dudet Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 sure, i did oh, well hate to say it but may be the reason he was on the dating site to begin with. i don't know why someone of that age would not be able to get an erection. i would wait and see what happens next time
GorillaTheater Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I guess that sort of thing ruins the whole point of seeing younger men in the first place. Hope you two get it sorted out.
jerseyboy Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 If he absued drugs, Ive heard of lots of young guys growing up who had issues. Coke especially I understand. But why cant he just be telling you the truth. It does happen. Look at the situation Hes young and inexperienced You are much older, presumably far more expereinced, especially given his condition. Coupled with the fact that hes already acknowledged to you, prior to all of this, that he has this problem. He may just legitimately be having performance anxiety, and just cant relax enough to enjoy it. I have no idea how to deal wioth it, but I would imagine presumably somehow make it not about that. If he doesnt feel as if he has to get erect, itll probably just happen spontaneously I would think
Author bac Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 this problem. He may just legitimately be having performance anxiety, and just cant relax enough to enjoy it. Does it mean that he would have the performance anxiety every time when he has sex or it happens only at the begining of sexual relationship?
boogieboy Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 My vote is antidepressants. I hear tell they cause wetus noodlus.
Author bac Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 (edited) How to proceed if I am thinking about giving the guy one more chance? For example, I may email him that I want to come to his place. Is it a good idea to ask him straight forward by email why he has the problem? Can I ask him upfront if he has it because of antidepressants, performance anxiety or premature ejaculation? Or, it's very insensitive and it will turn him off completely? What is wetus noodlus? Edited December 1, 2009 by bac
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