Yukikazi Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 HA ha ha ha ha!!!!!! Oh my god, that's totally the text I'm now going to send to every guy I go out with. Personally, I don't think there would be anything wrong with sending him a text just saying "I had a good time, thanks," or something along those lines. That's polite and indicates interest without, y'know, smelling the babies. Agreed.. sometimes we cannot tell if you are interested or not.. just a simple txt lets us know we didn't screw up anything major and you are still "with us". It shows effort. Thats 1 of the main reasons I ditched a girl I hooked up with last summer.. realized I was starting all the conversations.. so I stopped.. she never put forth any effort to communicate with me so.. NEXT!! We just sorta stopped.. no goodbye or explanation of what happened.. just went NC... haven't spoken to her since though I have walked past her and she waved to me while I quietly said hello as we proceeded on our way.
Author justagirl09 Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 Be careful with that if you're going to play this game. I had one chick text me literally 25 hours after our first date. It was something like "ok a day has gone by and no message, care to tell me what I did wrong?" Talk about a turn off. I probably would have been up for a date two until I read that. Well thats why i havent text him. It would have been a turnoff
Author justagirl09 Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 HA ha ha ha ha!!!!!! Oh my god, that's totally the text I'm now going to send to every guy I go out with. Personally, I don't think there would be anything wrong with sending him a text just saying "I had a good time, thanks," or something along those lines. That's polite and indicates interest without, y'know, smelling the babies. so a casual text isnt bad or look clingy???
Yukikazi Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 so a casual text isnt bad or look clingy??? Just saying you had a good time isn't clingy at all.. its being appreciative/grateful or whatever. the guy will appreciate it also.
Ody Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Well thats why i havent text him. It would have been a turnoff No please read what I wrote. She actually messaged something like "OK no message after a day can you tell me what I did wrong". If she had messaged "hey I had a great time" I'd probably have a date lined up for friday. I had one chick text me literally 25 hours after our first date. It was something like "ok a day has gone by and no message, care to tell me what I did wrong?" Talk about a turn off. I probably would have been up for a date two until I read that.
justforfun Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 QUICK INTERVENTION You HAVE to read Love Addict by Pia Melody. I did and miracles happened! I met a guy on a dating site last night. He is pretty mature for his age, it seems. We got along really well, and I did feel an attraction. I usually can tell within the first 5 minutes. Anyways, i am in my mid-thirties and he is in his mid-twenties, specifically he is 12 years younger! I really don't think anything serious will come out of this, but I think he could be a good guy to hang out with, go on dates, etc. I really do enjoy his company. Last night, he said he hopes he gets to see me again really soon. Anyways, my issue is this. It doesn't happen with everyone, but every once in a while, i meet a guy where I just feel this instant spark. That happened with this guy, but I don't want to get sprung! I know how this will go if I let it, and last time, i got majorly burned. I had to force myself NOT to text him last night after we parted ways, and I have to force myself NOT to text him now. I happen to know if a guy is interested in you, then he will text you and want to talk to you. He is the one who initiated contact. He gave me his number and i gave him mine, and he took the first step. So, what do i do so that my head is not spinning over this guy? yeah, its one of those guys where you feel instant butterflies in your stomach! i feel like i am 16 right now lol. HELP! ugh
Author justagirl09 Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 TY missed that, my bad. OP why do you think nothing will come of it? Just a gut feeling (I'll admit sometimes the gut is right...) combined with age? I think i am assuming. He was the one who asked if i would consider dating a younger guy, I said yes.
Author justagirl09 Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 No please read what I wrote. She actually messaged something like "OK no message after a day can you tell me what I did wrong". If she had messaged "hey I had a great time" I'd probably have a date lined up for friday. Oops sorry!!! thats a bit much, all i would text is hope his day is going well and that i had a nice time last night. I am nervous, but i have never been a game player, and my gf said not to text him so i am utterly confused what to do.
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