b52s Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 ....or in person. This is something I've noticed on message boards with men (not all you guys) but it seems that if you talk about how you went out with a woman, but it wasn't "quite" a date....or you did something with a woman that the end result didn't wind up getting her pants around her ankles.....that you are "not" a man. That you're a man with no balls, that have feminine characteristics, or they just like to bust your balls because you didn't get laid. Typically highschool male behavior coming from middle aged men. Recently though, from advice more mature male friends of mine, when I told them of my "non-date", they say, "Hey go for it, at least you can make a friend out of it if there's no chemistry and she can introduce you to her friends or network....." But some men have an "All or NONE" mentality. Why is this ? Do you think they're all talk?
InspiredbyYou Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I think you meant "macho", "machismo" is the act of being macho. But please, carry on...
Stockalone Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 But some men have an "All or NONE" mentality. Why is this ? Do you think they're all talk? Well, it is possible to have an "all or nothing" mentality without the condescending attitude to accompany it. "Hey go for it, at least you can make a friend out of it if there's no chemistry and she can introduce you to her friends or network....." For some men, a "non-date" can be very beneficial. For others it will be counter-productive. That depends on the guy.
kizik Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 It's not a guy's fault if he doesn't get laid. But it is his fault if he doesn't even try.
Pizzaman81 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 ....or in person. This is something I've noticed on message boards with men (not all you guys) but it seems that if you talk about how you went out with a woman, but it wasn't "quite" a date....or you did something with a woman that the end result didn't wind up getting her pants around her ankles.....that you are "not" a man. That you're a man with no balls, that have feminine characteristics, or they just like to bust your balls because you didn't get laid. Typically highschool male behavior coming from middle aged men. Recently though, from advice more mature male friends of mine, when I told them of my "non-date", they say, "Hey go for it, at least you can make a friend out of it if there's no chemistry and she can introduce you to her friends or network....." But some men have an "All or NONE" mentality. Why is this ? Do you think they're all talk? I've never heard this before from men my age, I'm 28. I thought all those were left at grade school like you said. what's "cool" drastically changes as we get older. Back in elementary, if you had sneakers that light up you were a cool guy. Now, you would be quite mentally special.
ADF Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I think some of this is just a gender difference. I am willing to bet not single man on this site has ever gone on a date and thought, beforehand, "I hope I at least get a new friendship out of this." Absolutely, positively NEVER. If one of their male friends said such a thing, they'd think he was crazy.
Pizzaman81 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I think some of this is just a gender difference. I am willing to bet not single man on this site has ever gone on a date and thought, beforehand, "I hope I at least get a new friendship out of this." Absolutely, positively NEVER. If one of their male friends said such a thing, they'd think he was crazy. Because they are no use to us as friends... mauhahaha
PinkToes Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 It's not a guy's fault if he doesn't get laid. But it is his fault if he doesn't even try. Yeah, there's really nothing worse than a guy who doesn't even try to get sex from every girl who crosses his path. Losers.
Sith Apprentice Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Don't kid yourself. Real men have an all or nothing attitude.
kizik Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Yeah, there's really nothing worse than a guy who doesn't even try to get sex from every girl who crosses his path. Losers. Exactly.
Sam Spade Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I think some of this is just a gender difference. I am willing to bet not single man on this site has ever gone on a date and thought, beforehand, "I hope I at least get a new friendship out of this." Absolutely, positively NEVER. If one of their male friends said such a thing, they'd think he was crazy. Guilty as charged :laugh:!
Boundary Problem Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Ex-bf make very good friends. Not only do they know you. They probably know you better than you know yourself. And vice versa. Plus the bickering is always fun.
jerseyboy Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 LOL Most guys bust chops Most guys know it, and dont take it seriously. It isnt actual criticism. Just the way men talk
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