1fastgt Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 So I got the chance to take this girl that I am crazy about out for a few drinks the other night. I knew her from high school and after talking for a bit we were really hitting it off. I decided to ask her if she wanted to come back to my place for a few drinks and she agreed. After getting to my place we started making out and went straight into the bed room. I kind of new this wasn’t a good sign because when I drink its difficult for me to get an erection. Plus I worked all day and I’ve been smoking like a chimney the whole time I was at the bar. So long story short I couldn’t get it up, yes I said it, lol…. I told her the truth and she was very understanding about it and I told her maybe another time. At this point I felt so embarrassed, I felt so bad for her but we did some foreplay to see if it would help but I really wasn’t in the mood anymore at that point. The next morning I was still out of it and she said maybe we could get together next weekend, I told her I’d love to and that was pretty much it. I still felt kind of weird about it since its kind of the first time I couldn’t get one, usually after I sober up a little I am good to go but the morning after I still felt the same way. Was this because of the drinking, smoking and being tired or should I see a doctor. Also how do I talk to her again, I’m so embarrassed about it! I really like her and I want to try and make this work but I’m not sure what to say? Thanks for any advice, 1fastgt
Johnny M Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I don't think it's a medical issue. It could be the drinking, the tiredness, the stress caused by the embarrassment you suffered the previous night, anxiety (you said you were really crazy about the girl) or more likely a combination of all of the above.
stillafool Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 How old are you? Did you really want to make love to her because you wanted to or because she expected you to? It seems you guys rushed off to the bedroom pretty quick?
InspiredbyYou Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 (edited) First of all the worst thing you can do is take too long to get back to her out of embarrassment, because taking too long plus the idea that you couldn't get it up could send out a wrong message that you are not into her. Just telling you how women think... Carry on as if nothing happened. Call her and proceed to make another date as if nothing. Do not bring it up until you are together again and if the topic of intimacy comes up, and explain you had too much to drink and that happens when you drink too much. Otherwise just don't make any reference to it. Stop apologizing for something that you had not control over. If it happens again you need to talk to her about but otherwise you don't owe her a song and dance. Next time don't drink so much and cut the smoking off, smoking is gross anyway so you should try to quit.. It happens I hear, so do what you can to take any extra pressure off for malfunctions to occur. Oh and next time you go see her don't jerk off for a few days before that, you'll be so ready to go you won't even know what happened. LOL Edited November 29, 2009 by InspiredbyYou
Author 1fastgt Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 lol, i'm 21 and we did rush into it pretty quick, and no i wasn't really expecting to get laid but usually i can get in the mood with out a problem, lol... I actually have decided to quit smoking and i'm going to eat healthier. I am also going to calm down on the drinking! but i'm still in the same boat I was yesturday, its actually starting to scare me a little bit. I still can't get one! 1fastgt
Pizzaman81 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 lol, i'm 21 and we did rush into it pretty quick, and no i wasn't really expecting to get laid but usually i can get in the mood with out a problem, lol... I actually have decided to quit smoking and i'm going to eat healthier. I am also going to calm down on the drinking! but i'm still in the same boat I was yesturday, its actually starting to scare me a little bit. I still can't get one! 1fastgt See? sex changes everything... you will be a better man now!
stillafool Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 lol, i'm 21 and we did rush into it pretty quick, and no i wasn't really expecting to get laid but usually i can get in the mood with out a problem, lol... I actually have decided to quit smoking and i'm going to eat healthier. I am also going to calm down on the drinking! but i'm still in the same boat I was yesturday, its actually starting to scare me a little bit. I still can't get one! 1fastgt Definitely see a doctor. Something is wrong.
sedgwick Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Definitely see a doctor. Something is wrong. I wouldn't be that rash. It really does happen to every guy! I've never been with anyone who could get it up ALL the time, under any circumstances. Alcohol will certainly affect it, and it could very well be that now you're freaking out about it and can't get hard because you're, well, trying too hard.
BobSacamento Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Are you taking any medication for a cold?
Author 1fastgt Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 lol, i'm not taking any medication and i have no medical conditions, i'm just going to try and wait this out for a few more days and take it easy, if i'm still in the same boat i will consult a doctor. And holy **** i never knew smoking could be so hard to quit, lol i went crazy the first day but i'm starting to get a handle on it, lol! I've been talking to her since but she doesn't seem the same, hopfully i can get another chance and make it up to her. Thanks for the info guys and girls, i really appreciate it! 1fastgt
The Collector Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 It happens to everyone sometimes. Having said that, blame her. Say she smelt funny or something and it put you off. Trust me, she'll believe it.
Balthazar Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 It happens to all guys...especially if you are not that into a woman or too into her... Relax for a few days, don't spank the monkey and let a sexual load build up. You'll be fine next time you see her....
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