Scarlett513 Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 So recently I've been dating a few different guys. One of them really stands out and I was starting to think about breaking things off with the others in order to focus on what might develop with him. We had a date this weekend. We were going somewhere about an hour away, and I was driving because I knew the way. In the car, he was all over his phone - texting AND taking calls, which really annoyed me and also made me suspicious. Eventually he tells me that he's worried because his female best friend who is staying at his house for the holiday weekend is very sick. I offer to turn back because at this point, I'm feeling like he doesn't want to be out with me anyway and I don't want to spend an afternoon with someone who would rather be elsewhere. He says no, he wants to at least have lunch, but that after that can we go back. So we do that. In the meantime, we had also had plans to go out that night. He tells me he'll keep me updated but if it doesn't work out, can we reschedule. Not surprisingly, he called and left a message saying his friend is very sick and he can't make it, and he's very sorry. I think this was rude and shady. I never called him back and I haven't heard from him since. I'm not sure if I should wait and see if he has anything to say about this or if I should just write him off completely?
Ms. Joolie Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 It may just be odd timing that his friend is sick. I'd be considerate toward his situation. He is going to have to show that he wants to date you, be with you - free of distractions - though. He sounded very distracted and not focused on his time with you.... but that could just be the out of ordinary circumstance. But if you're considering investing all your time with him as opposed to continuing dating others, see if you can find out how really interested he is in dating you. For example, how much time is he giving you or willing to give you? How many days does he want to see you in the week? Just maybe one day or does he want to do stuff often with you?
Author Scarlett513 Posted November 29, 2009 Author Posted November 29, 2009 We hung out twice this past week, not including the awful date yesterday. He also asked me to hang out Friday but I opted out. He's been pretty attentive so far but this just seemed so shady and weird, I can't help but be suspicious. Not to mention, is his relationship with his friend something I would need to be worried about? I don't want to just write him off out of fear of getting hurt, but I also don't want to be a doormat.
ADF Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 He's feeding you a line. If his friend were so sick he feared leaving her alone, he would have taken her to the hospital. Don't be a fool.
mortensorchid Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Is he worth it? Hell to the no! Move on.
Ruby Slippers Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Sounds very suspicious to me. Definitely don't end things with the other guys. And proceed with great caution with this one.
Ms. Joolie Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I'd get secure about his "female best friend" for one thing.... but other than that, really just see how interested he is in seeing you first. After the awful date, proceed with caution. Who knows though, right? So don't totally write it off. If you like him enough, give him a chance.
Author Scarlett513 Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 What's the double standard? If you mean that I've been dating other guys, my issue isn't that he might be dating other girls, as we haven't discussed exclusivity. My concern is that he may have canceled our date (in the middle of it) and lied about why he was doing it. Also, I may be dating others but when I'm on a date with one guy, I am certainly not taking phone calls or texts from the others, or from anyone else for that matter. I just think it's rude.
Devil Dog Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 What's the double standard? If you mean that I've been dating other guys, my issue isn't that he might be dating other girls, as we haven't discussed exclusivity. My concern is that he may have canceled our date (in the middle of it) and lied about why he was doing it. Also, I may be dating others but when I'm on a date with one guy, I am certainly not taking phone calls or texts from the others, or from anyone else for that matter. I just think it's rude. That wasn't the way it came off to me, as for everything else, I cannot say, I wasn't in the car with you. But it sounds worth another shot to me.
Author Scarlett513 Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 Sorry for the confusion. I don't mind if he's dating others, but if he's dropping me for those others mid-date, or talking to them instead of me when we're together, then I have a problem, lol.
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