aa73289 Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Back during July, a friend of mine and her boyfriend split up. The split up because she found out he had cheated on her, and this was the 3rd time it had happened. Because I had once been friends with this guy, I told myself and her that the possibities of "us" happening weren't there. That we were just friends. Well, over the next several weeks, we hung out a lot as I tried to help her get through the situation. I watched her cry herself to sleep on more than one occasion. They had dated for nearly 3 years. And, as you probably guessed, it happened. I fell in love. I realized that she was everything I had ever looked for in another. As time went on, we became closer and closer and I decided to tell her. She seemed to feel the same way. We seen each other nearly everyday and I loved it. I honestly thought I had found the person I wanted to spend my life with. Unfortunately, her boyfriend, or former boyfriend at this point, started talking to her again. In October, she decided to go back to him. Now I'm left loving her but rarely seeing her. I thought that after a month or two, the feelings would fade, but they haven't. I still love her more than I've ever loved anyone. What makes it worse, is she is alienating herself from all of her friends and even family. This was the same kind of relationship she had before the initial breakup. She won't even speak to her mom because her mom didn't approve of this guy. It amazes me because everyone, even her parents, think that she and I belong together. Everyone, but her. Is there anything I can do to help change her mind, other than just be here for her and keep praying? Btw, thought it might be useful info that she is 19 and I am 23.
jerseyboy Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 LOL I'm shocked You so rarely see it turn out that way.
boogieboy Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Forget about her. She's not going to leave him because she cant take the pain it brings her. She would rather deal with him cheating on her, than go though the pain of loneliness again. Your company didnt sweep her off her feet, and wont anytime soon, probably never. Your best bet is to disappear at least until they break up again and she is away from him for a while. Since she doesnt want to leave him and she doesnt care about hanging with you anymore, you have no chance of doing ANYTHING that could change her mind. Go find another girl who is truly single.
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