Woggle Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 The first man that doesn't get attached is who you will fall for. Between marriages I got involved with a cold as ice maneater and it ended with me having to get my nuber changed.
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 The first man that doesn't get attached is who you will fall for. Between marriages I got involved with a cold as ice maneater and it ended with me having to get my nuber changed. I've already fallen for a guy but luckily he's fallen for me too. :]
Woggle Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I've already fallen for a guy but luckily he's fallen for me too. :] If he has fallen for you this won't last.
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 If he has fallen for you this won't last. Haha, ok, thanks for the insight.
ADF Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I'm reading all the responses that say it doesn't work because the woman gets attached... Interestingly I've tried to have an arrangement like this a couple of times previous to my current long-term relationship, and each time it didn't work out because the guy got too attached... They would claim to want it and think it's a great idea, then start with the "who are you texting?" "who are you talking to?" "are you seeing someone?" "I think I have feelings for you..." Maybe I just attract needy men! Yes, yes, yes. Guy can get attached, too. But it is far less common. However, you hit on something important: the guys who are most into FWB for themselves are often the most jealous. It is the problem that wrecks so many "open" relationships. As far as most guys are concerned "open" means he can do whatever he wants, but she can't.
Cora Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 FAIL!!!!! Maybe it's ideal for some and I'm not knocking it, but for me? No way!
b52s Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Yes, yes, yes. Guy can get attached, too. But it is far less common. However, you hit on something important: the guys who are most into FWB for themselves are often the most jealous. It is the problem that wrecks so many "open" relationships. As far as most guys are concerned "open" means he can do whatever he wants, but she can't. Yeah, there was this one woman I know that did the FWB thing, and as soon as she got a boyfriend, the FWB guy got really pissed, and cut off all contact with her. She was like "Fine, if that's how he feels, that's how he feels" If it's a guy who doesn't get much action from women anyhow....and he finally found a supply of "nookie" that he is getting currently, he doesn't want that supply to be cut off, and he'll make sure of it....because he know he won't get it again.....at least not for a seriously long time. If it's a guy who is always getting laid by a different woman every week...then he could care less if you found someone else.
Mel001 Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 If he has fallen for you this won't last. Wonder how you got to this conclusion?! Isn't it obvious that for a relationship to happen both need to have fallen for each other? Why "this won't last"? I don't get the reasoning behind this...
tkgirl Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I'm reading all the responses that say it doesn't work because the woman gets attached... Interestingly I've tried to have an arrangement like this a couple of times previous to my current long-term relationship, and each time it didn't work out because the guy got too attached... They would claim to want it and think it's a great idea, then start with the "who are you texting?" "who are you talking to?" "are you seeing someone?" "I think I have feelings for you..." Maybe I just attract needy men! that's because the these men don't want to lose the benefits part of the FWB. seriously, like I said before FWB is a lie.. it's not a real "friendship" at all.. it's really a relationship without any of the responsiblities. Of course it sounds good at first.. even for us women sometimes! but I have yet to hear of one that "ends" well, as in NO weird feelings on either side... like "that was fun but now I met someone else so we have to go back being just friends" and the other one goes "great! I'm so happy for you buddy!"
b52s Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 that's because the these men don't want to lose the benefits part of the FWB. seriously, like I said before FWB is a lie.. it's not a real "friendship" at all.. it's really a relationship without any of the responsiblities. Of course it sounds good at first.. even for us women sometimes! but I have yet to hear of one that "ends" well, as in NO weird feelings on either side... like "that was fun but now I met someone else so we have to go back being just friends" and the other one goes "great! I'm so happy for you buddy!" Right, a FWB will end, terribly, because this could mean the END of sex with a man....and men don't want that.
sally4sara Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I think FWB is not necessarily all that different from any other dating style. It might end up being something serious despite the initial intentions of the two people involved. The same can be said of traditional dating. Traditional dating could result in something casual even if the two people were looking for long term. Or they might find no compatibility at all where as two people who just hung out as friends might find a ton of compatibility. I also think that if you've known the person as a friendly acquaintance, the situation does run a bit faster but is basically the same as traditional dating. The time it takes for someone to feel at ease enough to go physical with their attraction is shorter because you got to know them before the wooing process. You could know them more genuinely than you would have with regular dating. People do put up some front in initial dating even if they're being genuine. In my case, I knew him casually just over a year before we began dating. From others, and before I was even interested, I had heard all manner of not so good reviews about him. Our circle of friends shifted and we spent some time together. An attraction evolved. That was over 5 years ago.
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Wonder how you got to this conclusion?! Isn't it obvious that for a relationship to happen both need to have fallen for each other? Why "this won't last"? I don't get the reasoning behind this... I think he is under the impression that we were FWB to begin with, which wasn't the case. We both expressed interest in each other (in fact, I expressed interest in him first) and then started dating. It's turned into a long-term relationship, not a FWB one.
Woggle Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Wonder how you got to this conclusion?! Isn't it obvious that for a relationship to happen both need to have fallen for each other? Why "this won't last"? I don't get the reasoning behind this... The minute a man truly falls for a woman and loves she starts to lose attraction for him and fall out of love. Why should this relationship be any different?
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 The minute a man truly falls for a woman and loves she starts to lose attraction for him and fall out of love. Why should this relationship be any different? I'm sorry that this has been your experience. :[
jerseyboy Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 The minute a man truly falls for a woman and loves she starts to lose attraction for him and fall out of love. Why should this relationship be any different? It isnt that And its no different for girls The problem is that people tend to take each other for granted in general. As soon as a guy feels liek he has a girl, ie shes totally into him, he stops trying as hard as well
tkgirl Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 The minute a man truly falls for a woman and loves she starts to lose attraction for him and fall out of love. Why should this relationship be any different? umm... nothing really to say except I hope things turn around for you. I'm sorry that this has been your experience. :[ good response!
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