heelpme Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I have been dating this guy who was divorced in may. I received my divorce in June. Everything has been going great until recently and I am starting to have some very interesting thoughts.. My ex and I have 3 children together.. our relationship goes as we parent together and thats that.. However my current boyfriend and his ex are not that way...which is ok with me to a point. Thanksgiving day he made dinner for us, his child and some of his family members. Then with out considering even asking me he invites his ex wife to dinner and its my house. Then we had plans to go to an outing on the very next Sunday and he has now informed me that she wants to come along. I feel very uncomfortable and he says its because they are trying to do family things with their daughter who is 2. He constantly talks about her either negative or postive and I am really starting to think even though he says he is ready for a relationship he is not. Is it normal to invite your ex wife to plans that involve your new current gf? I have expressed to him how uncomfortable I am and that i feel like the outsider looking in. I want to make these memories with him .. not with him and his ex wife. I am trying to be understanding here but i don't think this is a good thing.. I mean how many years or holidays or special occassions am I going to have to share with her just because they have a kid together.. and am i being unreasonable not wanting this to happen. I just want a lil consideration instead of oh she is tagging along I guess but I don' t know what to do. please help !!!!!!!!!!
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