ackerman Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 do you mean this or is it used to soften the blow of rejection? 4 months ago i received this and i still think of her now. I just feel like if i received a message from her saying "i still think of you" i wouldnt feel so broken and my self esteem so down. so because im not going to get that message, im trying to figure out if she still would. i know some people will probably say it doesnt matter, she rejected you move on and thats fair enough, but its just a general question i wish to know for my self esteem if anything. to know you can be so close to somebody and then have them totally ignore and cut you out hurts so much.
Malenfant Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 do you mean this or is it used to soften the blow of rejection? 4 months ago i received this and i still think of her now. I just feel like if i received a message from her saying "i still think of you" i wouldnt feel so broken and my self esteem so down. so because im not going to get that message, im trying to figure out if she still would. i know some people will probably say it doesnt matter, she rejected you move on and thats fair enough, but its just a general question i wish to know for my self esteem if anything. to know you can be so close to somebody and then have them totally ignore and cut you out hurts so much. when its followed by a 'but' then I would say its part of letting a person down as gently as possible. it doesnt mean she doesnt think you are though. chin up mate.
deux ex machina Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Although it didn't work out, I think it's quite possible she means it. There are special people we've been fortunate to know that we'll never forget. I'm sorry you're hurting.
jerseyboy Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 when its followed by a 'but' then I would say its part of letting a person down as gently as possible. it doesnt mean she doesnt think you are though. chin up mate. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Devil Inside Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I was told that once by a woman that broke up with me. I feel you brother...in some ways it kind of makes it worse...because you think, "then how can you leave me?" As time has passed I begin to think it was a way to let me down, because if I was so amazing, how could she leave me?
jerseyboy Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Its just a your great, its me deal when letting someone down. Everyone does it
Author ackerman Posted November 27, 2009 Author Posted November 27, 2009 I was told that once by a woman that broke up with me. I feel you brother...in some ways it kind of makes it worse...because you think, "then how can you leave me?" As time has passed I begin to think it was a way to let me down, because if I was so amazing, how could she leave me? did you ever hear off her again?
rateyes Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 it could just be a way of trying to make you feel good about yourself while she disappoints you, trying to negate the break up? we may never know, t could go either way, sometimes people have to leave people they really care about, somtimes they are to weak to let you know the real motives.
DenvyH22 Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I'll offer a different perspective. It's the equivalent rejection, as when a man says to a woman he's been dating, that he is not at a point yet where he wants to progress things further. They're both interpreted as a form of rejection. It's confusing and it sucks, especially after you're invested physically and emotionally.
Author ackerman Posted November 27, 2009 Author Posted November 27, 2009 (edited) she also said "i will think about you everyday and thats no lie". Edited November 28, 2009 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Nightwolf Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I had a girlfriend that did that. I'm sure she thinks about me sometimes. She might even still "love" me. On the other hand - It's BS. Because she's married and has kids and doesn't even call to say "hi". Then again, Why would I want her to? It's both. They still think about us men. It's a seperate way of thinking. If they love you so much, Why don't you ever see them again? Probably because it's the easier way to move on.... For us (men) it's over. For them (women) it's another thing for them to add to their diary. Maybe you could try to think of it this way - "If everything happens for a reason". Then - Maybe there's someone better on the way for you? But how are you going to see that if you decide to be preoccupied to much with one individual? It Hurts... But things work out.
thegreatmoose Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 when its followed by a 'but' then I would say its part of letting a person down as gently as possible. It's not gentle at all, partly because it's such a confusing statment. Many if not most guys like direct statements. I'd much rather her tell me she's not interested or even there's no chemistry.
Devil Inside Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 did you ever hear off her again? No I haven't. Here is the hopeful part though Ackerman. I felt devastated, just like you did. I really thought she was the one. I went through all the stages of grief. I was in denial. I was sad. I was angry. Now I am at a point where I come to accept the situation. She is a great girl, but it wasn't meant for us to be. We had a very complicated relationship. Love is unconditional...relationships are not. Hang in there man. Time will heal. You will be able to love agian one day. I promise.
Author ackerman Posted November 28, 2009 Author Posted November 28, 2009 No I haven't. Here is the hopeful part though Ackerman. I felt devastated, just like you did. I really thought she was the one. I went through all the stages of grief. I was in denial. I was sad. I was angry. Now I am at a point where I come to accept the situation. She is a great girl, but it wasn't meant for us to be. We had a very complicated relationship. Love is unconditional...relationships are not. Hang in there man. Time will heal. You will be able to love agian one day. I promise. thanks for replying and its good to hear over time you healed. She left me with hopeful comments, another one was "it might be the end of us for now, but it wont be the end of us" and i just seem to have all these lines running around in my head.. what do they mean, would she still think of me, etc.. i do feel slightly better over the months but i just have these moments where i think of her and everything. i guess i just look for hope on these forums, posts where people have had something similar said to them and they get back together.
Devil Inside Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 thanks for replying and its good to hear over time you healed. She left me with hopeful comments, another one was "it might be the end of us for now, but it wont be the end of us" and i just seem to have all these lines running around in my head.. what do they mean, would she still think of me, etc.. i do feel slightly better over the months but i just have these moments where i think of her and everything. i guess i just look for hope on these forums, posts where people have had something similar said to them and they get back together. Hey man...I feel you. Look...her words...don't mean anything now. Listen to her actions. Does that make sense? No matter what she said, or how she feels, she left. I do not think that you will truly be able to move on until you can accept that she is gone and not coming back. You will see stories where they did come back, but these are few and far between...and they rarely work out the second time around. Look I know how it feels to hold onto that hope...but what she said does not make a difference..she left. I'm sorry man.
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