soconfusing Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I met this guy and we've been talking for a couple weeks on the phone and we both definitely like each other. We finally went out on a date tonight and then we kissed. For him, it was like there was no tomorrow... get as much in as possible kind of kiss with lots (and lots) of focusing on tongue. I'm the complete opposite, I like it slower and more sensual. He was really sweet and even discussed with me how I like to kiss and tried to change but nothing. For some reason we're on completely different levels in what we like. I've personally never had any complaints, in fact, I've been told that I'm a really good kisser. So now I'm left completely confused and unsure of what to do next. He still wants to see me again and says he feels really bad. I'm hoping that we can figure out a happy medium, but I'm left wondering right now if there's hope. Yes, the kiss is really important to me in a relationship, although I will of course put personality and other compatibilities first in importance. I like this guy a lot and don't want this to be an issue! Has anyone had any experiences like this but you happily stayed together anyway? Or is there some nifty little tricks to figure out that happy medium even when your styles are SO different?
dgiirl Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 My bf and I are not completely compatible in our kissing. I was in a relationship prior to this for 10 years and my ex and I use to be really passionate, lots of tongue etc. So when I first kissed my current boyfriend, it was a bit of a shock. He was a lot slower and sweet, more nibbly, but no passion. I was worried. It took me a while to become use to a new way of kissing. My boyfriend would first kiss me, and I would pay attention to what he was doing, then I'd kiss him, and he'd pay attention to what I was doing. We eventually adapted a little to both ways. I wont say it's completely passionate, but it's acceptable. Plus, everything else he does to me really turns me on. Give it some time. If everything else is really compatible, don't let this become an issue. Take turns kissing one another. If you can show him what you like maybe he'll try and mimic it back. Vice versa.
jerseyboy Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 The worst are those propellor tongue kissers. Enough already Yeah if kissing isnt compatible, I find it difficult to maintain. Rare, but it does happen. And a girl who can kiss well with you is OMFG Worse if she knows how to kiss my neck. She owns me
Broseph Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Hmmm, things could probably evolve. The problem you have now is that you will probably be thinking about it, so yeah when you think of something you are never truly in the moment. But yeah over time both of you will probably adjust to eachother is my take on it unless he is truly hopeless.
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