shadowplay Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 If you find a girl attractive, and you know she likes you, but she gets shy and flustered when she speaks to you, and has trouble maintaining eye contact... Do you find that a turn off or turn on?
Sam Spade Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 If you find a girl attractive, and you know she likes you, but she gets shy and flustered when she speaks to you, and has trouble maintaining eye contact... Do you find that a turn off or turn on? Totally a turn on . ("Come to papi, baby, papy won't hurt'ya":lmao::lmao:) If anything, too polished girls could be a bigger turn off ("great, now's a banter to get through :rolleyes:"); awkward, nerdy girl, however - now that's somebody you actually want to hug, and squish, and tuck in and keep warm, and....:love:
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 If you find a girl attractive, and you know she likes you, but she gets shy and flustered when she speaks to you, and has trouble maintaining eye contact... Do you find that a turn off or turn on? I know I'm not a guy, but my experience with guys is just like what Sam Spade said - they seem to find it cute/endearing. Like they want to protect me, or something.
lostmirthfulness Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Well I can not really say that it is a turn on, but girls that are the opposite of what you have mentioned are a turn off (READ: huge turn off). Personally I can understand a little shyness but be able to carry a conversation as well. And yes for the really shy ones, there is a sense of duty that men (should) get, where we want to protect those shy ones and be the window through which the see the world. Meaning, if anything bad is coming we intercept it first.
Ody Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 (edited) If you find a girl attractive, and you know she likes you, but she gets shy and flustered when she speaks to you, and has trouble maintaining eye contact... Do you find that a turn off or turn on? This is a mild turn off to me. To me avoiding eye contact is a bad trait in either men or women. This is especially true if the girl has pretty eyes! Not a dealbreaker but I'd prefer someone more comfortable around me. The opposite of what you describe is a turn on to me. Particularly lots of eye contact. Edited November 27, 2009 by Ody
Midnight Rider Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I guess it might be a small turnoff, but nothing serious. And definitely not something I would dump her over, especially if I were attracted to her and liked her. It's almost a non-issue and something she would eventually get over anyways.
Author shadowplay Posted November 27, 2009 Author Posted November 27, 2009 The diversity of responses is interesting. Keep 'em coming!
neowulf Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I don't mind it at all. I can be shy myself sometimes, so I completely undrerstand when a girls shy. As for a turn off.. no way. I find snobish "I'm BETTER than you" kinds of attitude to be *far* harder to deal with.
Midnight Rider Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 (edited) Right on, there are way more things that can be legitimate turn-offs than a girl who is shy and can't look you in the eye! For example - eating like a pig, smelly feet or underarms, unwashed hair, always trying to be in control, burping, farting, etc. Edited November 27, 2009 by Midnight Rider
radwimps Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I find this a COMPLETE TURN ONNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN. It's easier for guys to make a move on you. However, it is MUCH HARDER for them to be sure if you are interested in them or not. This is because girls can be shy for so many reasons not only because you like them but also you are scared of them, etc. If they can't read your blushing and whatnot, then you gotta flirt JUST A LITTLE MORE to get the hint out there. I much prefer a woman that's shy than ones who just goes out there and flirts with everyone.
Devil Inside Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I might find it cute at first...but in time if it is the tip of the iceberg to a woman that is not confident....then it will become a turn off. On the flip side, a woman that can make eye contact and has the confidence to be forward is a turn on to me.
spookie Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 It might be a hypothetical turn on, but I know for a fact shynss rarely gets you anywhere with anyone.
the beholder Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 If you find a girl attractive, and you know she likes you, but she gets shy and flustered when she speaks to you, and has trouble maintaining eye contact... Do you find that a turn off or turn on? I'd count it as cute... not something thats a major turn on though.
El Ben Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Hmm. Difficult one. if there's no banter I'd soon get bored. But there is indeed an appeal with a shy geeky bird in glasses.
jerseyboy Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Probably a turn off to be honest. But it depends. Strictly as you defined it, with no other reality involved, that would be kind of cute and fattering. But the realkity is generally you may not be as obvious as about why as was suggested, seem to be having a lousy time, and will always have me wondering what you are thinking/feeling. I went out with one girl IMG that dinner was horrific. I never met someone so dead. She barely spoke, all one word type answers. Barely looked at me. I can talk forever lol, so silence wasnt the problem, but she was so not there. And I definitely started taking it liek she not only didnt wish to eb there, she really didnt wish to be there. So I didnt drag iut out,paid check right after meal, and walked her to her car. Said good bye and started to walk away. Then "it" finally speaks and asks if Id like to do somethging again with her tomorrow. LOL "Ill get back to you on that one"
Stockalone Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 If you find a girl attractive, and you know she likes you, but she gets shy and flustered when she speaks to you, and has trouble maintaining eye contact... Do you find that a turn off or turn on? I'll go with turn on. If I know the woman likes me, it just means she is shy. That's not a problem at all. Sooner or later, the woman will start to get comfortable around me and then it's no longer an issue. I am also a bit like that. I usually take a while to warm up to strangers. It's different if I don't know that she likes me. Then I am left wondering if she is just shy or simply not interested.
boogieboy Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Depends really... but for the most part turn off I have no interest in dealing with someone who cant maintain eye contact.
bac Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 My guess is that a man would interpret that as 'she is not so much into him'. Men need huge amount of reassurance especially at the begining. If you are not a good player but a shy/real girl, it is very hard to give them. They basically need that you throw at them a lot of positive signals which are a lot of eye contact, smiles, and they expect you to say 'yes' to almost everything except sex.
Jerry18 Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 If you find a girl attractive, and you know she likes you, but she gets shy and flustered when she speaks to you, and has trouble maintaining eye contact... Do you find that a turn off or turn on? Why is a turn-off even relevant when both parties like each other and know it?
BobSacamento Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 For me it's a turn on. However, you need the whole package. If she can't keep eye contact but is not nervous I would see that as not interested.
boogieboy Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 My guess is that a man would interpret that as 'she is not so much into him'. Men need huge amount of reassurance especially at the begining. If you are not a good player but a shy/real girl, it is very hard to give them. They basically need that you throw at them a lot of positive signals which are a lot of eye contact, smiles, and they expect you to say 'yes' to almost everything except sex. Thats not true, but eye contact and smiles and interesting conversation shouldnt be a big deal for anyone. Since humans evolved to read body language, and socially trained each other to be apprehensive to say "I like you" out front (much of the time), then a guy shouldnt be expected to fight through all the barriers that are usually read as "not interested". Shy girls just have to learn how to give a lil to get a lil.
Yukikazi Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Being shy at first is a turn on.. but she better be able to step up to the plate and get comfortable before the shy bit gets tiresome
stillafool Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Men, what if the two of you have been kissing all night and she still can't look at you because she is too shy?
Yukikazi Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Men, what if the two of you have been kissing all night and she still can't look at you because she is too shy? Call her on that.. its BS.
You'reasian Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 My guess is that a man would interpret that as 'she is not so much into him'. Men need huge amount of reassurance especially at the begining. If you are not a good player but a shy/real girl, it is very hard to give them. They basically need that you throw at them a lot of positive signals which are a lot of eye contact, smiles, and they expect you to say 'yes' to almost everything except sex. In a FWB or open relationships, most people don't need reassurance.
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