Johnny M Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Dude, have women throw themselves at you streadily and see what you do. Women not wanting to sleep with you doesnt make you a better person. LOL. Couldn't have said it better myself.
AD1980 Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 What kind of "values" do you develop when taken/married women supposedly in healthy loving relationships chase after you liek f'ing deranged schoolgirls. Especially the married ones. Trust me, you get to a point where you cant take anythign women say toi you seriously. It all seems like bs Yeah i got a friend like that,married women throw themslves at him all the time without him even flirting and hes scarred by it,doisnt trust women thinks theyll all try for the next best thing if they get a chance its screwed up his head
chrissy001 Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Good luck w/ that! You're swimming in a sea of empty fishes. That's one reason, I would not want to live in the City. Originally from UpState.
Midnight Rider Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 "Slut" is a derogatory term that infers there is something morally wrong with a woman solely based on her sexual activity. Uuuhhh, yeah.. no sh*t sherlock!
eiithan Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 One of the things I have when it comes to judging a man's character: if he speaks harsh of other wo/men, even to a point of idolisation of me (aka "you are an angel above those sluts") by being judgmental, I would bolt to the other direction. While I have a firm set of my own ethics and moral criteria (in fact ethics takes a good part of my research interests), it is what I have as my life's guiding rules, not to criticise others for. Frankly, with a man who see women by the Madonna/whore dichotomy, I can easily picture his blatantly calling me names in the same lowly manner if somehow I fail to meet his idealised version of virtuous women. How can I have a healthy, understanding, teamwork relationship with such a person? Therefore I run like a scared rabbit Of course, there are shallow people living in their fantasies in NYC or any other city. Well, they are not what you are looking for. No need to pay a heed to them. You don't drink milk if you were lactose intolerant. It is pretty much the same deal. Those people live in a completely different world. Let them be whatever they are, just focus on your life and hope for a good fortune to meet the person who is compatible with you. The bottomline is, you are doing a great disservice to your chance to meet a right woman if you keep calling names for other women who do not meet your requirements. Good, smart, mature women would sense your bitterness and would not think highly of it.
sedgwick Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 (edited) I'm none of these, so why am I single? Oh, it's because the men suck in NYC, too. And for all of you bashing on NYC, don't live there then. I have a love/hate affair with it, but there is nothing like a city that evokes as much passion as it does frustration. And say what you will, even though it's hard to date here, the people who live here are fascinating. My group of friends is so dynamic, interesting, ambitious, successful AND they're nice. YES YES YES to all of this!! I have better friends in NYC than I've ever had in my life, but I've dated less than anywhere else I've ever lived, and I've been here 10 years. Of course, if I'd stop liking flaky musicians, that might help. I think everyone who lives here has a love/hate relationship with this city, which is to be expected. Yes, rents are insane, etc. However, having grown up in a tiny redneck town in the south, I marvel daily at everything there is to do here. I could never be in a dance company where I'm from; there aren't any. I couldn't study bellydance or flamenco or hip-hop or a dozen different styles of yoga, couldn't eat any and every kind of food you could ever imagine (except good Mexican, the finding of which for some reason seems to be as likely as finding Sasquatch), and couldn't hear half a dozen different languages just taking a walk around the block. And once again, let me say I don't care how much money you make, how many degrees you have, or how tall you are, prefer someone who does NOT look like a model, and think Sex and the City is the worst show ever made. I watched two minutes of it once and wanted to kill Sarah Jessica Parker, and that was that. All I want is to meet someone who's not a rude d*ckweed more in love with his bass/drum/guitar/etc. than with an actual human female. Also, the whole thing with looking for women with "family values" who aren't "little sluts?" I'm gonna go way out on a limb here and suggest that your terminology might be just a wee part of your problem, and that perhaps your judgmental attitude might be another part. Just a theory... A woman with many sexual partners is not only a slut, but also very likely to cheat. I had lots of sex with lots of people when I was younger. These days I prefer sitting at home with a cup of tea, snuggled with my cat, knitting. Am I still a "slut?" Take into consideration the fact I've never cheated on anyone in my life. I feel like I've said all this a million times, though, but most on LS want to stick to their ridiculous generalizations rather than accepting that, hmmm, it might be that not all women are slut tramp ho golddiggers, or what have you. It might be that people are -- say it with me, now -- IN-DI-VID-U-ALS. Edited November 28, 2009 by sedgwick
Ruby Slippers Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Trust me, you get to a point where you cant take anythign women say toi you seriously. It all seems like bs Hey, I am getting to that point with men, too.
jerseyboy Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Hey, I am getting to that point with men, too. Well if you are going to paint the entire male gender with one broad brush..... Actually its probably a good idea:o
thegreatmoose Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 LMAO. Your chances with women will remain at zero regardless of what anyone else says or does. Judging by what you write here, you don't need anybody to 'ruin' things for you. You are doing a mighty good job of it yourself. I'm not dating anyone right now. Happy?
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